Four Temperaments Women Need to Learn
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Beauty is the appearance, but loveliness is the bone. An ugly woman can successfully transform into an "artificial beauty" through ever-changing cosmetic surgery, as beautiful as a digital baby; Cute is more of a natural temperament. People are cute not because they are beautiful, but because they are cute. How to be a lovely temperament woman?
First of all, learn to be confident.
In this fiercely competitive society, self-pitying, weak and helpless women have gradually lost the market. Men are no longer masters of women, and women are no longer vassals of men. The famous saying that "the ultimate pursuit of men is success, and the ultimate pursuit of women is happiness" is increasingly eclipsed. It is always the most important for women to learn to save themselves and improve themselves. Longing for a man to give you happiness is always passive and unsafe.
A young female journalist was just an ordinary young peasant woman before she squeezed into the ranks of journalists. After failing in the college entrance examination, she was unwilling to be depressed and studied hard. She came to a big newspaper, volunteered to be a reporter, and made a living by writing articles without a penny. A few years later, she became a famous journalist.
Men appreciate optimistic and confident women. There are more women who are self-reliant and self-reliant in this world, and the mental stress of men is relatively small. Moreover, a man can live with a woman who is not only satisfied with food and clothing, and life will never become stale and degenerate.
Second, learn to be noble.
A woman's nobility does not mean that she must be born in a rich family, nor does it mean that she has a prominent position. The nobleness here refers to the nobleness of her mind. Men hate dissolute, frivolous and obscene women. A man can be a woman's life escort, but a woman should provide him with a kind of confidence-this kind of confidence is to reassure him and be willing to entrust love for you.
The master in Dumas La Traviata falls in love with the servant girl only because the woman who is a servant girl is noble and full of femininity. Such women often give men confidence and courage in life, because there is a kind of human charm in their lives, which purifies men's hearts and inspires men's fighting spirit. If modern women want to be non-kitsch, non-blind, and non-vain, it is natural for them to have this noble temperament that men appreciate more.
Third, be well-meaning and approachable.
Goodwill here refers to the gentleness of women. But it's better to change gentleness into kindness here. Men certainly like women's gentleness, because women's gentleness can warm men's hearts. However, gentleness sometimes seems to be an unprincipled love. A woman's love for a man who is not worthy of tender feelings has, to some extent, fulfilled a man's sin.
Love should be temperate and kind. Therefore, a good woman only needs to be kind to men. Women love too much, and men don't know how to cherish it. In this era, men are no longer used to being fixed in a small room, so women should learn to adjust themselves and not be blindly trapped by feelings, so that feelings can replace the whole of life.
Smart and optimistic women often try to make their hearts within reach and make their love firm and eternal in a plain way. Sometimes letting go of feelings is actually the best assurance.
An intellectual woman, she loves her husband deeply, but she doesn't forget to cherish herself while loving her husband. Her husband does business all the year round, but their feelings are very harmonious and there has never been a crack. Someone asked, aren't you worried that he is out looking for flowers? The lady replied: My love with him has always been equal. I gave him trust from the day I accepted his love. I love him, but I am not demanding of him. I wish him success and perfection, but I never mortgaged everything to him. What am I worried about? Sometimes letting go of feelings is actually the best assurance.
Some women put themselves in a position of begging for feelings from the beginning, and the root of tragedy is often here: if you are not confident in yourself, how can others value you? Men are often like this: you value him too much, which shows that he can easily dominate your feelings and happiness! At this point, you lose first. Therefore, feelings are the most concerned about respect and equality ... A knowledgeable and intelligent woman will naturally feel her cuteness. Because when a man falls in love with a woman, he doesn't want to lose his world under the bondage of love. What men care about is the tacit understanding, tolerance and understanding of love. Because this kind of love will not stop men from living a free life-after all, in men's eyes, love cannot represent the whole of life. & gt
Fourth, do things independently.
Psychologists believe that women are often more emotional than rational, and the same is true for friendship, career and marriage, which is the fatal weakness that hinders women's development.
A migrant girl in Shenzhen, when other migrant girls are lost in the impetuousness and prosperity of modern cities, she still maintains the true nature of a pure peasant girl. In her dormitory, almost all other girls have boyfriends, but she is still a "single aristocrat". She told a girlfriend in her hometown that I wouldn't like men in Shenzhen because my roots aren't there. I just come out to earn some money, send some home and keep some for my dowry. Of course I want to find a boyfriend in the future, but I will go home and find a conscientious man. Some of my sisters don't want to be blue-collar workers on the assembly line. They rack their brains to get rich. Can they be happy forever? I just want to make money hard and then go home and live a quiet life ... There is no doubt that this independent woman who can clearly examine herself on the basis of reality is also a lovely woman in the eyes of men.
It seems that it is not easy for a woman to completely achieve the above points. However, as long as you do one of these things, you can still be regarded as a lovely woman in men's eyes.
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Loneliness is a noble thing for men. Tired of reading in the afternoon.
In today's atmosphere of hard work, constant competition, noisy city and cross-flow of material desires, you must only recognize the man who is versatile and romantic in the dark, which is truly noble. Therefore, you can't help but join many superficial men's depravity.
In this way, you are doomed to vulgarity. Because you don't know much about men, at least, you haven't tasted other men's moods and feelings in another "ecological" form. Maybe you'll never know this.
You must have never paid attention to the loneliness of men, and of course you have never been close to a truly lonely man.
A lonely person may be living alone, just like Thoreau built a wooden house by Walden Lake and earned his own living by chopping wood and fishing-this kind of loneliness and detachment must be disdained by you.
More often, at weddings, in well-informed places, when families are harmonious, and when everything is prosperous, including debauchery, wealth, singing and dancing, men feel unbearable for such vulgarity, so they feel lonely and sad.
You can't be aware of this. What is more sad, however, is that men lack understanding. In order to get rid of this temporary loneliness, they often intensify their luxury and pursuit. Thus, in this endless cycle, the true enjoyment of loneliness was viciously stifled-they indulged in wanton indulgence, and they refused noble loneliness!
True loneliness belongs to noble people. Only in this way can they share the living state of their spirit. They keep their mind as far away from reality as possible, transcend reality, and let their spirit continue to travel upward, which is rare for secular understanding and recognition. The meanness and boredom of reality are too small and too short in front of their personality and spiritual time and space, so there is no need to talk about it-such men are clear-minded, savvy, inspired, profound in judgment, unrestrained in emotion, ignoring the surrounding environment and enjoying the happiness of creation and peak experience alone. It seems that he is the only one left in the whole world.
This is the real nobility, shaking off all kinds of vulgar tastes and secular dust. You said, have you really seen, approached such a man?
Noble loneliness and noble loneliness are not shared by every man. If you haven't seen it, you really can't understand it; If you think that noble loneliness must be full of worries, such as a sad or desolate ocean, then please read Nietzsche, Lu Xun, Thoreau, Whitman, Beethoven or Zweig briefly. These noble and lonely people have been integrated into the blood of history, reality and future forever.
In today's world, more is not loneliness, less is loneliness. And truly noble loneliness is an excellent symbol of a man's character. This is like a clean green space in a polluted environment. Don't you want to take a break and enjoy yourself?
I think it's probably so noble ~!