April 6, 2019
? Many years ago when the Internet first emerged, if someone frequently used the Internet at that time, it would be called "Internet addiction". It doesn’t seem to be mentioned much now, probably because everyone is “Internet addicted”. There is everything on the Internet, just swipe your phone and you’ll get all the information. Why would I choose to participate in the TA Association’s reading salon? I thought about it and there are probably several reasons.
? I think the reading salon is not just a process of inputting information, but also an occasion to make friends. At the reading salon, I met Mr. Jing, whom everyone loved. Every time I take her car home from the TA Association. Although we can see each other often, I don't know why every time I want to get off the bus, I always find various reasons to delay, not wanting to get off the bus, and not wanting to separate. I didn't pay special attention to this detail myself, but Master Jing saw this detail.
Later, we started couchsurfing together. To put it simply, we met many tourists from all over the world and played together. This process is fun, but tourists will return to their home countries in a few days. Most likely never come back. Every time we are separated, I will be reluctant to leave. Mr. Jing reminded me that although separation makes you painful, you are still constantly looking for opportunities to create such pain for yourself. This may be a good opportunity to discover the script of your life. I think so.
When you learn script-related knowledge in the future, you can analyze your own experience.
I generally don't like to show my confusion. Don't want to express your doubts. Because I am worried that what I will get in this way is preaching, criticism, and perfunctory. However, the atmosphere of the association is very accepting and friendly, and the people inside are very sincere and help me analyze and answer questions. Moreover, Teacher Chen, in particular, is very professional and experienced. She can give very accurate and practical answers to many questions. observe.
? I remember once, I expressed my confusion. I said that when people in the company ask me for help, I am often embarrassed to refuse. They are worried that if they reject others, they will be judged by others or that they will reject them if something comes to them. Teacher Chen pointed me out, is this really the case? Will what you worry about actually happen? Even if it really happens, is it really unbearable for me? These worries and fantasies may still be due to the state of being an "adaptive child". After hearing this sentence, my heart became much brighter. I realized that I had unknowingly taken something that might happen to be something that would definitely happen. Moreover, I think that after these things happen, I will definitely not be able to bear them.
Through this little pointer, I think that when I encounter something like this again in the future, I may quickly realize that I have fallen into the fantasy of an "adaptive child". Consciously call on your "adult state" to examine your worries.
I feel that when you are studying, you may not be able to understand some knowledge points, but if there are many people, we may get the answer quickly by discussing together. There are still hidden dragons and crouching tigers in the reading salon group. I remember one time it was Yuja who led everyone in the "Relieving Your Confusion" chapter of "Stay Confident". To be honest, I know all the words in this chapter, but I don’t know how much this chapter has to do with me. However, after everyone freely asked questions and shared their experiences in the reading salon, I felt that the knowledge in the book became easier to understand. For example, at that event Yuja mentioned the stress relief method shown in the movie "The Wolf of Wall Street". Because I have a good understanding of the text through the reading salon, it lays the foundation for applying theory to practice in the next step.
Later, when I was working, there was a task that I felt was very boring and I really didn’t want to do it, but another voice told me that it was impossible not to do this job, and it was unjustifiable not to do it. So a big drama of "rebellious children" and "controlling parents" fighting with each other was staged in the heart. So my heart fell into a state of confusion. I don't know how to deal with this situation. Therefore, I habitually spend time on social networks, constantly chatting in the groups I have formed, sending messages to netizens, and trying to postpone this matter, try to do something I want to do, and put myself out of the way. Put aside the things you want to do. In this way, you can make yourself feel better.
However, this is not the solution. In my "adult state", I thought of the content of "Relieving Your Confusion" that Yu Jia read. In the book, the author mentions ineffective ways to resolve confusion, including "putting aside" and "speeding up." It is easy to understand that shelving is just procrastination. Regarding "speed up", my understanding is: use some sensory stimulation to excite yourself, so that you can relieve or even numb yourself. After thinking of these two concepts, I began to realize that in this matter, my way of dealing with confusion happened to be these two ineffective ways. After realizing that the measures I took were ineffective, I started to think about the effective methods mentioned in the book. I thought of "thinking".
So, I thought about how to solve this problem. The problem I encountered was: I found this task boring and boring, and I didn’t want to do it. I thought of two short-term measures: Action 1, do it for 5 minutes first. Action 2, do the simplest thing first.
Regarding measure 1, to put it simply, temporarily put down the excessive demands on yourself and don’t put such a big burden on yourself. No matter how you say it, just do it for 5 minutes. I find that this method is very useful sometimes, because when I take off the burden and tell myself to only do it for 5 minutes, I start to move. It's not in a stagnant state. Slowly the energy came back. Often a lot can be done in more than 5 minutes.
Regarding measure 2, to put it bluntly, a task can be decomposed. When you don’t want to do it, you can actually find the part that you want to do the most first and do it first. , Slowly I will be able to gain motivation. When I take action, hope will come and confidence will come.
Regarding long-term measures, you need to understand your current situation, professional characteristics, and the company's situation. Then you can choose a development path that is more suitable for you. Of course, this process is not easy, but I believe that as long as I can continue to learn and improve in his family, I will slowly overcome one difficulty after another.
I feel that the reason why I was able to successfully solve this small problem in the work process is closely related to the book "Stay Confident" that I read. And because of everyone's collaborative discussion and discussion, the learning efficiency is very high, so that after I finish learning, I can use it in real life very quickly. This is another reason why I participate in the reading salon.
Teacher Chen gave everyone a chance to show off. Let everyone take turns to read, so that everyone can show themselves on this platform. I think it's really great. I feel like I have found a platform for self-realization.