Have you ever thought about the question, why is it so difficult to quit smoking? In addition to psychological dependence, it is actually related to nicotine. Nicotine can promote the excretion of dopamine from the brain, and dopamine can make people feel happy, and in the long run they will become dependent on this pleasant feeling.

A set of foreign data shows that more than 80% of smokers have thought about quitting smoking. In the end, only 3% to 5% of people successfully quit smoking, and most people who successfully quit smoking have adopted Try a special therapy called nicotine replacement therapy (NRT). What is NRT? Generally speaking, by maintaining the intake of nicotine (nicotine patches, nicotine gum), reducing the impact of cigarette withdrawal, and then continuously reducing the intake, the goal of getting rid of nicotine is finally achieved.

However, nicotine replacement therapy also has side effects. On the one hand, the therapy itself is also a process of continuous intake of nicotine. For those quitters who are not determined enough, this treatment method is not only unsatisfactory. Facilitating withdrawal will actually increase the sense of dependence, for example, it may lead to addiction to nicotine gum. On the other hand, some smokers will have more serious physical reactions after stopping treatment, including shortness of breath.

Aggression

So, is there an easy way to quit smoking without side effects? In a psychology group, I and other teachers discussed this issue, and we generally agreed that perseverance is the key, as Allen Carr mentioned in "This Book Will Make You Quit Smoking", Changes in self-perception are central to making smoking cessation easier.

A teacher put forward this view: People who successfully quit smoking generally have strong perseverance, which is so strong that it is extremely aggressive. Therefore, it is not recommended to make friends with those who have successfully quit smoking. We have different views on this discussion.

In the discussion of friendship, mainstream thinking generally believes that those with perseverance and perseverance are the best candidates for friendship. However, looking at it from another perspective, those who are determined are often stubborn, and in the process of interpersonal communication, they often hurt each other by being too strong.

The word "addiction" tells us that smoking addiction is a disease. As long as a person has a smoking addiction, he will not completely get rid of it even if he quits smoking for three years. Similar to drug abuse, many people go to drug rehabilitation centers every year, and many people successfully rehabilitate, but after all, there are very few people who never relapse. The reason is that it is difficult to get rid of inner demons. The same goes for quitting smoking. People who can successfully quit smoking often have extraordinary perseverance, but everything has two sides. These people may become weapons that hurt others in communication.

Too decisive

Friends will inevitably have frictions. Those who are too determined will judge whether the two parties are suitable to continue to be friends as soon as conflicts arise, and then do Make a choice. Their fast-paced style is admirable at work and a headache when making friends. What you think is a small disturbance may cause him to cut off contact with you, and you will only feel the strong separation and emotional pain.

This kind of bad friendship will make you worry about gains and losses, deny yourself, and think that you are at fault. It may even make you worry that you may make the other person uncomfortable during sexual intercourse with other friends. From a psychological perspective, self-denial can cause depression and excessive anxiety, and eventually even evolve into a deep inferiority complex. It is quite difficult to get out of this psychological shadow.

Emotionally colder

People who successfully overcome their addiction to cigarettes may become emotionally colder. After going through the extremely difficult psychological battle of quitting smoking, many things will go away, and they will become more rational and unmoved by worldly affairs. Moreover, they will feel at a low point because they cannot get the comfort of drugs, and it is difficult for them to feel excited and excited about anything. Therefore, when you get along with someone who has successfully quit smoking, you may feel that the other person is rejecting you, leading to more disagreements and conflicts.

It will put more pressure on friends

On the other hand, people who have successfully overcome their addiction to smoking may put more pressure on their friends. The more determined a person's perseverance is, the more likely he will be stronger. Psychologically, if a friend is too strong, we will feel the discomfort of having concepts and ideas imposed on us. We may fight back hard, but in the end we both lose.

The worse situation is that if we choose to obey under long-term pressure, the other party will become stronger and stronger, and we will become weaker and weaker.

Forced unequal relationships will tip the balance of friendship quickly. It can be seen that making friends with people who have successfully quit smoking is not the best choice. At least, we need to handle it carefully.