I talked to my boyfriend before. What he said is inconsistent with me, misinterpreting my meaning and so on. I lost my temper in an instant I was angry with him. We have been together for four years. Why can't I understand when I speak? I don't understand. I ... Did he do it on purpose at first ... The more I immersed myself in my emotions, the more I thought about it, the more angry I became, and I broke out with him directly. But I gradually found that the more he did, the less he understood why I was angry with him, which led him to get angry inexplicably. In the end, nothing was solved and both sides were unhappy. Tell everyone how to lose your temper with your boyfriend and express your emotions correctly!

1. Solve emotions first, then solve problems.

"Don't forget all the good things of the other party at the moment of emotional excitement, poke each other all over, but forget how you came." Problems will always break out before. He said that I wouldn't listen to anything, which led to the deepening contradiction between us, and it was difficult to solve the misunderstanding …

I should first try to calm myself down (wash my face/take a deep breath 1 minute), make clear the purpose of our quarrel, and make my mood and tone as stable as possible, and then communicate with him to solve the problem. Quarrel is to solve problems, not to solve each other.

Step 2: Express your true thoughts.

Tell your observation: You didn't reply to my message for several hours this afternoon, and you didn't tell me what you did.

Express your feelings: I am so worried about you, and I am very angry now.

Requirements: I hope you won't suddenly disappear like this next time. I hope you can send me a message before you are busy next time.

3, with soft belt hard? Hard words and soft words

Correct anger can often make us gain better respect and even correct each other's minor faults! Here is a universal formula: * * love+problem+feeling+appeal.

(simulate the following common scenarios? Look carefully? You can't use what you have learned directly! )

①? When he gets too close to the opposite sex

First of all, I don't mean to interfere with your freedom to make friends, but it is my boyfriend's duty to keep a distance from the opposite sex. To tell the truth, I'm really a little unhappy recently, and I don't want you to get too close to xx.

②? When he came home later than the appointed time

I know you like playing with your buddies, but didn't we agree to finish/go home before XX? If it is 10 now, you will be worried. Don't do this next time. I'll wait for you at home.

Speak your request gently and forcefully? Stop the other party from committing another crime? Pro-test is effective! )

③? It takes two hands to make a sweet jujube.

Send a cute expression pack/buy a small gift after each' verbal crusade'? Encourage him to do better? It can even rise to physical kisses and hugs.

Step 4 vent your emotions

Don't keep your emotions in your heart, it's bad for your body and mind.

After every communication we have? Everyone will vent their emotions: playing games or running together, pinching or biting each other's arms (not too hard), or buying delicious meals together and saying, "Hum! Hate you! " "I am still very angry!" But the anger in my heart has actually disappeared by 80-90%, so I'm still as good as ever ~

I hope everyone can harvest sweet love.