establishing a good relationship with colleagues is the touchstone to test employees' character.

Although we can't say that a person with good character must have good popularity, we can be sure that a person with low moral character and poor character will never have good popularity. As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together and people are divided into groups. A normal person, who wants to associate with people with low character? Therefore, personality is the decisive factor to determine popularity, and of course, you must master some communication arts.

first of all, we must establish an idea: harmony is the most important thing.

In China's philosophy of life, the doctrine of the mean is regarded as a classic, and the essence of the doctrine of the mean is that harmony is the most important thing. Colleagues, as your partners in work, will inevitably have conflicts of interest or other aspects. When dealing with these contradictions, the first solution you think of should be reconciliation. After all, under the same roof, if you look up but don't look down, if you let anyone ruin your mood, you may be the one who will suffer in the future, not others. Living in harmony with colleagues, in the eyes of your boss, your weight will rise to a higher level, because the harmonious handling of interpersonal relationships is not only a need for survival, but also a need for work and life.

it is easy to get along with colleagues. Harmonious colleague relationship makes the work and life of you and your colleagues around you simpler and more efficient.

If you want to have a harmonious colleague relationship, you must also remember one sentence: "A friendship between gentlemen is as light as water".

Everyone works in the same company, and their personal friendship is definitely very different, so it is natural to be close and distant. The key to the problem is how to deal with this "near and far" relationship.

We can recall who we tend to have opinions about. In fact, we don't have any objection to who is closely related to whom and who is alienated from whom, because for ourselves, there are also people who are close to each other and people who are relatively ordinary. Even for colleagues to find reasons for their friends to prevaricate mistakes, we don't have any opinions, because no one has a few good brothers and sisters to cover up when something happens. However, when we found out that this relationship between near and far began to expand because of the same interests, and even when there was graft and mutual strife, we began to knit our brows.

This situation is a taboo within an excellent team, and it can even be said that it is the beginning of the disintegration and differentiation of a team, and the result is the paralysis of the whole team.

in order to avoid this, what we need to do is to control the close relationship with our colleagues. We should think that no matter whether your relationship with a colleague is close or distant, it is your personal relationship, and this relationship is beyond work and should not have any influence on your work.

although the reason is simple, in fact, the feelings between people are not as easy to control as described in writing. Although your heart clearly knows: "I must not bring personal relationships to work." But more often, many behaviors are natural expressions of personal likes and dislikes, and you don't even feel it yourself. So, in this case, what should we do? That is, we should control the degree of closeness, and the best way is "a friendship between gentlemen is as light as water".

The formation and maintenance of good friends are conditional. To be more specific, it is important to be good friends, but there is another point, that is, there can be no obvious conflict of interest between two people. It is difficult for two people who have obvious conflicts of interest and explicit or implicit competition of interests to become good friends. Even two people who have become good friends, in the face of obvious conflicts of interest and competition, often make their feelings deadlocked. Because human nature is selfish, no one can escape.

It is precisely because of this that in the company, a friendship between gentlemen is as light as water. Because the company is an occasion full of obvious competition and conflicts of interest, there are too many factors that affect and interfere with the relationship between people. Contradictions and cracks are too easy to appear between good friends, and these contradictions and cracks are basically impossible to avoid, even if people have the best subjective hopes.

Secondly, we must learn to respect our colleagues.

In interpersonal communication, how you treat others often determines how others treat you. Therefore, if you want to gain others' goodwill and respect, you must first respect others.

Research shows that everyone has a strong desire for friendship and respect. Therefore, saving face is indeed a big * * * of people. At work, if you are not careful, you may inadvertently say something embarrassing to your colleague. On the surface, he may just feel guilty on his face, but his heart may have been seriously bruised. In the future, the other party may refuse to associate with you because of his hurt self-esteem.

A philosopher once asked the question: Who puts on airs, the general or the doorman? The answer is the doorman. Because the general has abundant capital, he doesn't need a shelf for support. The same is true in real life. People who have advantages are often generous, and their self-esteem and face are enough, so there is no need for others to add them.

People in your same class or even worse than you in some aspects are likely to show strong self-esteem because of their inferiority complex. What little face they have needs your careful care. If you can communicate with others in an equal manner, they will feel respected and have a good impression on you. Therefore, remember that there is no friendship without respect.

to respect colleagues, we must consciously keep their secrets.

we know the secrets about our colleagues through two channels. One is that this man told us personally, and the other is that he told us personally by all means.

if someone else tells us personally, we can really "kill ourselves". People trust us so much, how can we spread other people's privacy casually?

so, what if we got the news through other channels?

then let the news be blocked here! Let these messages terminate here, and the distribution channel is completely cut off here.

Although we all understand these truths, sometimes, our mouths let the wind out inadvertently. For example, when you have fun with everyone, when you are excited, you forget everything and say whatever comes to mind. Anyway, everyone is very happy! For another example, if you have an awkward quarrel with someone, you will be angry in your heart, and all your friends' friendship and Jianghu morality will be brushed aside. I will give you a big blow and reveal the secrets.

such a situation is very likely to happen. How can we avoid it? One of the best ways is to simply swallow it after hearing other people's things and rot it in your stomach. If one day is rotten, it will take two days to rot it. In a word, just don't let your mouth get you into trouble. The ancients said that "disaster comes from the mouth". In the company and this interpersonal circle, this sentence should be written on everyone's desk and always alert themselves!

Third, try to avoid conflicts with colleagues.

Colleagues and you work in the same unit. When you meet each other almost every day, it is inevitable that all kinds of trivial things will happen to each other. Everyone's personality, temperament, strengths and weaknesses are also exposed, especially everyone's behavioral shortcomings and personality weaknesses are exposed much more, which will lead to all kinds of relationships and conflicts. Some of these relationships and conflicts are superficial, some are behind the scenes, some are open, and some are hidden. All kinds of unpleasantness are intertwined, which will lead to various contradictions.

if there are contradictions between colleagues, they can still communicate with each other. First, the opinions between any colleagues often originate from some specific events and do not involve other aspects of the individual. After things have passed, such conflicts and contradictions may last for a period of time due to the inertia of people's thinking, but they will gradually fade away after a long time. So, don't be upset by the small opinions of the past. As long as you are generous and don't take the past seriously, the other party will treat you with the same open-minded attitude.

second, even if the other person still has some prejudice against you, it will not hinder your communication with him. Because in the communication between colleagues, what we pursue is not the friendship and feelings between friends, but just work. It doesn't matter if there are contradictions between them, as long as both sides can cooperate in their work. Because the work itself involves the interests of both sides, how to cooperate with each other and whether things are successful or not are all related to both sides. If the other person is a smart person, he will naturally think of this, so that he will try to cooperate with you. If the other party is stubborn, you might as well point it out to him in cooperation or * * * to facilitate mutual cooperation.

It's not terrible that there are contradictions among colleagues. As long as we can face the reality and actively take measures to resolve the contradictions, colleagues will still be reconciled, even better than before.

To resolve conflicts between colleagues, you should take a proactive attitude. You might as well try to put aside past prejudices and treat these people more positively, at least as you would treat others. At first, they will be wary and will think it is a trap and ignore it. Be patient, there is no problem. It is really a waste of time to calm down past grievances. You should persist in being kind to them and improve little by little. After a while, the problems between you will disappear as soon as the water in the sun evaporates.

If your colleague is older than you, you should not confront him when things are happening unless you are sure that your reasons are very good. A better way is to solve it after both of you calm down, even in this case, it is unlikely that directly pointing out the problem and solving it will work. You can talk about some related issues. Of course, you can ask questions in your own way. If you do do something wrong and are accused, then re-examine the problem and sincerely apologize. Words like "It's my fault" can work miracles.

after you make the above efforts, you can basically resolve the contradictions among your colleagues. If you meet some stubborn people who are still unwilling to reconcile with you after your efforts, don't be sad. There is nothing anyone can do to meet such people. The problem is not you. Just go to work with confidence and ignore such people.

finally, learn to deal with all kinds of colleagues.

Everyone has his own unique lifestyle and personality. In the company, there are always some people who are difficult to deal with, such as arrogant people, rigid people, people with excessive self-esteem and so on. Therefore, you must adopt different communication strategies according to people's needs.

-dealing with arrogant colleagues.

Dealing with colleagues who are arrogant, rude and rude will inevitably make people unhappy, but sometimes you have to contact them. At this time, you might as well take such measures:

First, try to reduce the time spent with him. In the limited time with him, you try to express your opinion fully and don't give him a chance to show arrogance.

secondly, the conversation is concise. Try to use short sentences to clearly explain your purpose and requirements. Giving each other a crisp and neat impression also makes it difficult for him to display his pride, even if he wants to put on airs.

-dealing with colleagues who are too rigid.

When dealing with this kind of people, you don't have to care about his cold face. On the contrary, you should be enthusiastic, use your enthusiasm to resolve his indifference, carefully observe his words and deeds, and find out what he is interested in and what he cares about.

When dealing with this kind of person, you must be patient and don't rush for success. As long as you have the same topic with him, I believe that his rigidity will disappear and he will show rare enthusiasm. In this way, a more harmonious relationship can be established.

-dealing with aggressive colleagues.

Some colleagues are arrogant, like to show off, always lose no time to express themselves, try to show superiority and get the upper hand in all aspects. Although many people don't like this kind of person, they always humble him everywhere in order not to hurt their feelings.

However, in some cases, your tolerance will be regarded as a kind of weakness, but it will even disrespect you or look down on you. For such people, you should discourage them at the right time. Let him know that there are mountains outside the mountains and people outside, so don't be ignorant of the vast expanse of land.

—— Colleagues with deep understanding.

This kind of person has no lack of opinions on things, but he will never express his opinions easily unless he has to or when it comes naturally. When interacting with others, such people are generally calculating, always hiding their true colors, hoping to know more about each other, so that they can take the initiative in communication and be invincible in various contradictions.

When dealing with this kind of person, you must be on guard. Don't let him completely grasp all your secrets and details, let alone be used by him, so that he can't extricate himself from his trap.

—— Colleagues who deal with lip service.

A man with a honey in his mouth and a sword in his stomach, "Ming is a pot of fire, and darkness is a knife." When you meet such colleagues, the best way to deal with them is to stay away from them, avoid them if you can, and avoid them if you can.

If this kind of person is going to get close to you in the office, you should find a reason to avoid it and try not to work with him. It is inseparable. You might as well keep a work diary every day to prepare for future response.

-colleagues who deal with impatience.

When you meet an impatient colleague, you must keep your head calm. You can adopt a tolerant attitude towards his recklessness, laugh it off and try to avoid quarreling.

-deal with mean colleagues.

A mean person likes to expose people's shortcomings when arguing with others, leaving no room and no mercy. They are used to being sarcastic, digging into people's privacy, often taking pleasure in making fun of others, acting out of line, being immoral, unreasonably stirring up three points, and being unreasonable. They will make people who offend themselves lose face in front of everyone and hold their heads up among their colleagues.

When you meet such a colleague, you should distance yourself from him and try not to provoke him. If you suffer a little loss and hear a gossip or two, you should also pretend not to hear it, not be annoyed or angry, and keep a corresponding distance from him.

3 principles of learning to get along with colleagues

1. No matter what happens, you should first think about whether you have done something wrong. If you are right (that is impossible), then stand in the other person's perspective and experience the other person's feelings.

2. adapt yourself to the environment, because the environment will never adapt to you. Even if it is a very, very painful process.

3. Be generous. If you are not generous, learn to be generous. If generosity really hurts you, pretend to be generous.

4. Keep a low profile, keep a low profile, and keep a low profile (lower profile than a temporary worker, maybe you are not as good as a temporary worker who has worked for several years in others' eyes).

5. Be sweet and don't be stingy with your cheers. (will praise people. A good compliment will make people feel happy, but don't overdo it.