First, I have too little contact with the opposite sex and don't know much about getting along with the opposite sex. Especially for women, it is often difficult to understand men's thoughts, and they feel that the other party does not attach importance to themselves, which leads to various inappropriate associations. Because men are influenced by the trend, some of them wake up and start to pay attention to women's thinking, so it is relatively better. )
Second, there are too few opposite sex, too few choices, and there is a great chance of encountering things that are difficult to run in.
Third, there are too few members of the opposite sex. Once the relationship is not handled properly and the other party leaves, the social cost you need to pay is very high. Therefore, it is difficult to establish an equal relationship between you, and you will often become a dog licker.
Expand your social circle in these ways.
1. strike up a conversation. It's actually a good idea. Whether boys and girls strike up a conversation or not, they will find it attractive, so they will not refuse in some cases. Of course, you can't be too obscene when you want WeChat.
At the same time, don't deliberately strike up a conversation for the sake of striking up a conversation, such as staying in a certain place for a long time. This will also make people feel strange.
2. Social applications.
One is a pure social APP, and the core is photos. Look at your photo. Is it nice?
There are also non-pure social apps, such as Zhihu and Douban. You can choose some topics you are interested in, participate in the interaction, and naturally someone will know you. I really don't know anything, so I choose questions related to my life or hometown to answer.
3. Game software.
Search for people nearby or use it with social applications to find people who are in the same city or close to you and play games together. It takes a long time to play like this, so it is possible to meet offline. It is meaningless to be too far away.
Don't type if you can pronounce it. Try to let girls speak pronunciation. You can get a lot of other information, such as what environment the other party is in?
There is an interesting case. When A went to disco, she opened the glory of the king and searched for people nearby. At this time, he searched for a person and found that he was within 100 meters. It is the first time for the other party to come to the nightclub (with friends), and because he came early, the atmosphere of the venue was not very active, so the other party felt at a loss and could only play games to ease the embarrassment. A also pretends to be unfamiliar with nightclubs, pretending to be unfamiliar, taking the opportunity to befriend in the game, and then …
4. Various group chats. Disco group, cos group, photography group, etc. You can join some groups according to your hobbies, and then you can meet many opposite sex. Especially various official WeChat accounts, they often organize various activities to attract various groups.
5. Introduction by friends
Form a bureau, organize four strangers, male or female, and invite them to have dinner together. What birthday, Christmas is needless to say, grab a holiday casually, or you won the lottery 1000. In fact, no one will care why. Who would refuse a free meal?
Because everyone is invited by you, you are naturally the center of this social interaction. All topics will revolve around you. You can also learn a lot, such as who is suitable to organize games with whom, and who may have conflicts with whom. This can improve your social skills quickly.
At the same time, because you often invite others to dinner, others will naturally think of you when they eat. From eating, it gradually evolved into various activities, and finally you became the center or one of the hot spots in this social circle. At this time, you are single, and WeChat business cards follow.
The other is very simple. You should make a lively friend first (it may be a little difficult to get to know the opposite sex on your own initiative, but I can't get to know same-sex friends anymore, so I will …). Get him. Don't let her go. You will make many new friends with him.
6. others.
If you want to know a specific group, you can go to a specific occasion. For example, boys who like sports can go to the playground. If you like cute girls, you can go to Cat Cafe.
It is also a good way to make yourself excellent. You never know how active a girl will be until you become excellent.
You have achieved some success in your career, and then take the opportunity to discuss career issues with each other. In this process, you can learn about each other's living habits from the side
For example, the other person often goes somewhere to exercise. Next time you go to this place, you can send a message to the other person and ask him if he has come to exercise today. I just came to do something. Why don't we have dinner later?
In this way, from business partner to life friend bit by bit. Remember, take your time, or the other person will think that you are fooling around in the name of work.
It is particularly worth mentioning that
In the process of expanding your social circle, don't completely ignore some people who don't meet your standards. Even if the other person is not your type, you can choose to be friends with him first.
Occasionally chatting can also exercise your ability to communicate with strangers of the opposite sex. And his true character is not consistent with what he shows. How do you know if you don't contact? Or even if he is not your type, what if his friend is your ideal type?
Therefore, while expanding your social circle, don't be too clear about your purpose.
Remember Elva Hsiao's Ten Rules of Love. The first rule is: Be sure to go out and make new friends. Therefore, it is extremely important to expand the circle of friends. The world has never seen it, where can we get a world view? People haven't been in contact with each other much. Where did you get the concept of love?