Because you don’t know how to communicate with others.

In life, many people have experienced the following dialogue. After posting a beautiful selfie in Moments, your best friend replied: "Look at your thick arms and legs, it's time to lose weight!" Remembering that she always beat yourself up in the past, you were a little angry, so you replied: "You are always like this. It's too hurtful to hit me!" But my best friend said, "Who hit you? It's because you thought too much!" So the two broke up.

There simply cannot be more similar scenes in life. We will inevitably wonder, I just want to communicate my feelings with the other party, why does it turn into a quarrel every time? Communication is not just about expressing your thoughts. If you have the desire to communicate but lack effective skills, the result will definitely be unsatisfactory.

There is a routine for the correct communication method, which consists of four steps: stating objective facts - expressing one's own feelings - expressing one's needs - asking the other party to act.

This routine comes from the book "Nonviolent Communication" written by Dr. Marshall Luxemburg, a well-known American communication expert. He proposed the concept of "nonviolent communication" and summarized it based on decades of work experience. A method of communication.