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The biggest obstacle for women to divorce is not their children, but also their children

Recently, a video circulated on the Internet. A divorced father in Xuzhou, Jiangsu Province had to leave his 5-year-old child at home alone because he worked night shifts. The child woke up in the middle of the night, crying and asking, "Is there anyone holding me in my arms while I sleep?" After waking up, I immediately cried myself to sleep.

I believe this scene is definitely not the first time it happened, but this time it happened to be caught on camera. Seeing this, my father's heart was broken, and many netizens were also in tears. The father choked and said that he had been divorced for two years and had been raising his children by himself. When I work the night shift, I can only let my children sleep at home alone. I have no choice but to make a living.

I don’t know how the child’s mother will feel when she sees this video. Some netizens said that the mother of the child would not feel distressed after seeing this scene, because women who can abandon their children are hard-hearted. Some netizens also said that if a woman gets divorced, her children will suffer, and if she doesn't get divorced, she will suffer herself. Being a mother is not easy either.

In fact, the biggest obstacle to women’s divorce is not children, but children.

I have always advocated a point of view: the biggest obstacle to women's divorce is not children.

The most common saying among some women whose families are not harmonious is: If it were not for the sake of their children, they would have divorced their husbands long ago. This is definitely self-deception. Think about it with your toes. If a mother really cares about her children, how can she be willing to let her children live in a chaotic family? She would have left with her children long ago.

In ancient times, Meng’s mother moved three times to stay away from bad neighbors. In contemporary times, Meng's mother's fourth move was most likely to abandon her bad father Meng. If the couple really can't get along, divorce is not only a relief for both parties, but also a responsibility for the children. Which woman who relies on her own ability to make a living cannot live without a man?

Yao Chen left Ling Xiaosu, his career was booming, and his children were raised well. Ma Yili left Wen Zhang without delaying taking care of her children, and she even became the queen of TV dramas. Cecilia Cheung left Nicholas Tse and now has a baby again, leading a colorful life.

Therefore, I have always believed that the biggest obstacle to women’s divorce is not children.

But after watching this video, my point of view changed: the biggest obstacle for women to divorce is also their children.

In the video, a 5-year-old boy woke up in the middle of the night, crying and asking, "Is there anyone holding me while I sleep?" After I woke up a little, I fell asleep without any hesitation, and I was so sensible that it made people feel distressed. The link is as follows:

A 5-year-old boy was sleeping alone at home. He woke up crying in the middle of the night and asked, "Is there anyone holding me while I sleep?" But there was neither father nor mother around him... Behind this video, there is actually Such logic.

1. If the children of a divorce are given to the father, should the mother still take care of them?

Answer: Children are innocent, and divorced mothers also have the responsibility to take care of their children. If left alone, the child will be as lonely and fearful as the boy in the video.

2. Okay, since we need to take care of it, how should the divorced mother take care of it?

Answer: Pay more attention to the child's living environment, and care about the child's body, study, and psychology...

3. From the perspective of the divorced father, is this a kind of interference?

Answer: Definitely interference. There are only two consequences: one is that the father will not let the mother see the child in the future; the other is that the two people remarry.

4. But the original problems between the husband and wife have not been resolved. Can they still divorce after remarriage?

Answer: Continue to divorce.

Whether the divorced father refuses to take care of the children, or the two remarry and then get divorced, it is not a happy ending. Thinking of this, mothers can finally say this: If it weren't for the sake of their children, they would have divorced their husbands long ago.