First of all, there is no saying that men are old and left behind. If you are poor, go to make money; if you are ugly, go to improve your personal image; if you are short, go to cultivate your temperament; if you are uneducated, go to school; if you are not in good shape, go to fitness. If your health is not good, go take care of yourself. Don’t worry, time will wait for you.

The reason why women have older leftover girls is because the cost of childbirth gradually increases with age. For a 20-year-old woman, 5,000 may be enough to get pregnant. If it takes two years to raise two children, it will be no problem for her to have two, three or four children. For a 30-year-old woman, just 5,000 for a pregnancy test is not enough. This does not include pregnancy complications, and the second child must be better maintained than the first child. A third child is almost impossible. For a 40-year-old woman, no hospital with poor pregnancy conditions dares to admit her. The fetal injection is enough to make you poor. This does not include those cases that require in vitro fertilization. Sorry, if you are 50 years old, you may have gone through menopause. This is the reason why older leftover women are called leftover women because they are almost past their shelf life.

However, men have the ability to have children at the age of 70, and the cost of this ability will not increase with age. It is a matter of trembling for a 20-year-old man and a 70-year-old man to have children. You will spend hundreds of thousands more because you are older, and you don’t have to worry about the complications that older men suffer during shivers. There will be no rectus abdominis separation after the shivers, there is no need to repair the pelvic floor, and you don’t have to worry about your wife getting out of shape. Hooked up and gone. Some comments say that as men age, their sperm quality also declines, but no matter how bad it is, it’s still their own sperm, right? Moreover, the decline in men's sperm quality with age will not lead to increased costs. Some people are born with asthenozoospermia, so even if they are young, they still need in vitro fertilization. And even if they do IVF because of poor sperm quality, because the embryo itself The reproductive risks caused by unhealthy conditions still belong to women.

Then you may want to ask, in this case, why is it difficult for older leftover men to find a partner?

We exclude those situations where she is not married to someone other than Liu Yifei and is not sleeping with someone other than Fan Bingbing, and we also exclude those situations where she is not Liu Qiangdong but still sets the standard as a milk tea sister. The reason why it is difficult for older leftover men to find a partner is Because of such a honey law: "Men, after the age of 27, if you have not made progress in your career, you will be like this for the rest of your life."

The age of 27 (around) is the watershed for identifying potential stocks, marriage and love. The girls with the best conditions in the market (the first echelon) will either find a young man who is under 27 years old and looks very promising, or they will find a young man who is over 27 years old and can meet their life needs (not basic needs, It is a young man who needs to meet his own life needs), but if you are 30, you still have not become a young man who allows young women to have no worries. For example, if you have no car or house, a monthly salary of 2,000, and no savings, you may still have Huabei and multiple maxed-out cards. Credit card (of course this is an extreme example), a 20-year-old girl will not think highly of you at this time

No one may have told you the following, high-energy warning:

Women like to live in their imaginations. Regarding life, especially married life, having hope is more tempting than an ordinary person who is stable in reality. After all, it is something that has not yet been realized, no matter how you imagine it. It’s not an exaggeration, (this is the same as for young men, or regardless of gender, who didn’t have any ambitions when they were young and frivolous? But in the end they were extinguished by reality.) The younger the woman, the more irrational this is. Obviously, many of them are very naive, taking the sweet words of young boys as true love and commitment, and taking the other person's ability to brag without changing his expression as evidence of talent and potential. In "I want to marry 20-year-old Jack Ma (an exaggeration)" "I rejected those 30-year-old men who had cheap houses, small cars, loans, and low salaries (it takes time for men to save money on their own)

Then the older leftover men were confused

I have a house, a car, and savings. Although my salary is not high, I don’t have much savings and I have a loan, but why am I not as good as those young guys who have nothing? You didn't lose to a young boy, you lost to "20-year-old Jack Ma". In the eyes of girls, the future of those young boys is better than your present. Because you are young, everything is possible, but only true Only those who have worked hard in the workplace (including women) understand how difficult it is to earn some money to get a promotion and start a side job to make extra money.

There is only one 20-year-old Jack Ma in the world, and that is Jack Ma himself. Most people are ordinary people, and time will prove this.

You may want to say at this time, doesn’t a 20-year-old woman have a clear and rational perspective? Yes, like milk tea sister. The age of 20 is supposed to be an age with no experience. Girls of this age have such sense and vision, which means that they are either born smart, have an excellent family background, or have rich experience. No matter which one they are, ordinary men cannot grasp it. of.

So the first priority for older leftover men to find a partner is to think about what kind of woman they are looking for, or to put it more clearly, what kind of woman will look for you. Let me draw a portrait for you all.

First, first of all, most (most, emphasis added) older leftover men have already unleashed their potential, which means that this is how it will be in this life, and there is almost no possibility of getting better, even if There is also a step-by-step, predictable and gradual progress, so the woman who will find you has these two characteristics: contentment, no fantasy, she will not force you to become Jack Ma, but is more likely to accept reality. And work hard with you.

Second, as we just said, except for the rich second generation, anyone who wants to have some capital needs to devote time and energy, so any man with some strength will not be too young. , so why are you left alone? It's very simple. You are not left behind by the marriage market. You are only left by the best batch of women. Most leftover men say it is difficult to find a partner and that women do not like them. In fact, they are referring to the first-tier women. , and other women are probably not worthy of them in their eyes. I won’t talk about extreme examples here. Maybe your house is not fully paid for, maybe your car is second-hand, maybe you still have a short payment of 20,000, maybe you only have 300 left in your monthly salary, no matter what it is, you are not “fully prepared” financially. , you need someone to share the burden with you (emphasis added), so the woman who dares to find you must have a certain financial ability, otherwise the two of them can only drink northwest wind together, and women who are content and have no illusions will not do this. thing. But women are the same as men. They need to have a certain amount of financial strength, which also requires time and energy. Moreover, it is more difficult for women to work hard in the workplace, so it takes longer for them to gain the same recognition than men (female college juniors hold gold bricks, and female college juniors hold gold bricks. Sixty brings wealth), and women also conform to the law of potential stocks at the age of 27, so if you look at women around 27 years old, either their wages are rising, or they are in love and getting married, because girls who are 27 and their careers have not yet improved, basically Knowing that you are not the one anymore, there is no point in continuing to work hard in the workplace. Anyway, you can't support your family with that little money, so you should get married as soon as possible before you are too old. And for those 27-year-old girls whose careers are improving, if they happen to be the kind of people who are very enterprising, they are likely to focus on making money until they are thirty. If you ask a woman with nothing (no matter how old she is) to find a man who is not financially ready, she will lack confidence, especially since you are not a potential stock. This requires the woman to be mentally strong enough and confident enough in herself, but basically The ones who will choose you are those with a little bit of economic conditions (older ones, because we assume that young girls are just as paupers as you were when you were young), so the second set of characteristics appears: those with acceptable finances and older ones.

The third set of characteristics is intelligence. Smart women will understand that the so-called potential stocks are the real pitfalls. As for those real blue chip stocks, most of them will look for girls in their 20s, so a contented, unimaginative, older, financially sound, smart woman will carefully select one among older men. The most suitable man for them, and the smart leftover women with particularly good conditions will pick out the good men who are left behind because of the poor vision of young girls (for example, those who are excellent in all aspects but don't know how to sweet talk, or have some other innocuous characteristics) First-tier marginal men with principled shortcomings). And those older leftover women who are not smart will ignore the fact that they are older, compete with the best young women, and end up being left longer and longer. This is exactly the same as the older leftover men who are not smart.

So as an older leftover man, what if we capture a smart older leftover woman? It's very simple. There is no need to capture. The biggest advantage of smart people is to see your unknown talents, so all you have to do is express your truest self. If you meet the conditions, they will take action.

So what conditions will the smart leftover woman ask for? We are all foxes with thousands of years, no one should play false, don’t say lies, or simply say less and do more, don’t brag about your awesomeness, say one thing and another, say two, throw away all the bells and whistles, they are all mixed up. At this age, you should understand that no one is stupider than anyone else. Sincerity is the best weapon to walk in the world. You can express whatever you think in your heart. You cannot deceive smart leftover women, otherwise you will be deceived when you are young. get married.

After doing this, the next thing you have to do is to mobilize relatives to arrange blind dates for you, and participate in more activities to meet new friends. Blind dates in the same city are not impossible. Don’t be afraid of meeting weird people, there are not many After experiencing several strange things, how did you meet your girl? If God has only prepared one wife for you, how can you find her if you don’t walk around with so many women?

So, after the portrait painting is finished, for the older leftover men who are in good condition but not fully prepared, what you will find is basically an older and smart woman who is content, has no illusions, has a reasonable financial background.

Next, let’s turn around and see what possible problems such a woman might have that would deter you:

1. Contentment and no illusions, which may come from experience, such as being raped The experience of cheating by a scumbag may also come from her childhood low self-esteem and her daring not to expect too much. This shows that her family background may not be very good, or she may have had a failed relationship experience when she was young, which has led to some biased understanding of male and female issues. Maybe because of this, I haven’t been in love for many years, and because I have no successful experience, I am cautious or even blind in love. It may also be due to relatively clear shortcomings, such as low education, or low appearance/height, and girls love Fantasy is natural. If a girl no longer likes to fantasize and only values ??what is actually in front of her, there must be a reason for this change. If a tree wants to be straight, it must be repaired. Are there any people who are naturally content and don't like to fantasize? There is a possibility that a girl's parents have consciously taught her this realistic way of thinking from an early age, but believe me, girls in such families generally don't get the turn of the older leftover boys.

2. The second group of characteristics is that they are older and financially acceptable. Boys may not understand how families with girls generally raise girls. They usually hope that their daughters will marry well and be wealthy, so they try not to let their daughters I feel financial pressure, but I hope that my daughter will be innocent and cute, find a rich husband who loves me, and be happy for a lifetime. Especially the thinking of the older generation. It is very distressing to think of my daughter going to work hard in society to make money. So what motivates me? Do girls regard making money as an important thing after working? It may be that the girl really feels the pressure from her family. This pressure is not necessarily great. Maybe it is just that her parents are not willing to buy new clothes, maybe they are just not willing to go out to restaurants, maybe they are just getting older and see how difficult it is for their parents to make money. In short, this pressure must be It is what the girl can bear, otherwise it will lead to other situations, which will not be described here.

Three, smart. There is a joke asking, what should we eat to nourish our brain? The answer is that losing money is the best way to nourish your brain. As for what kind of loss or how much loss, that's not necessarily true. It may be in the workplace, maybe it's emotional, maybe it's due to careless friendships. Are there any people who are born smart? The world is so big and everyone has it, but women who are naturally smart will generally not allow themselves to be left behind. Of course, you can also miss it, but again, it is not advisable to show off your cleverness in front of smart women, unless you want to find someone. Unintelligent older women, but unintelligent older women basically look down on older leftover men, and only value older high-quality men. That's it.

No one wants to get older. There are many reasons for aging, but my personal advice is not to expect an exception. Don’t say that so-and-so is 35 and has no car or house and finds a young, white, rich and beautiful person. I especially love him, that so-and-so who is 35 and married to a 25-year-old tall, rich and handsome guy and still has his whole heart for her. First of all, you don’t know what advantages he has that you don’t have. For example, he has a good personality. This is a big plus for both men and women. Items, such as other things you haven't investigated (such as living well? Just kidding), no one is stupid, the cultivation level of the two people who will eventually combine must be similar, if you really can't see what is good about this person , it may be that another person is blind, or there are even some problems more serious than blindness, and they will not let you know. Whether you are an older leftover man or a leftover woman, you must first see your shortcomings clearly, and then figure out what kind of people will look for you, and then think about how to find what you want among these people who will look for you. If you still persist If you want to hope for an exception, then I can only say I wish you good luck and don't be discouraged. Some people are just so lucky. The only question is whether that person is you. Life is just a gamble, so why not take a gamble? Anyway, it’s not me who loses.