After the implementation of family planning, it is said that the ratio of men to women is imbalanced, with more boys and fewer girls. Many boys will not be able to find a marriage partner. Indeed, among my relatives and friends, there are many boys who are over thirty and have not yet married and started a family. I have a distant nephew who is over forty, and he is still an older man. Is it true that there are fewer girls and they can't find the right person? Is it because their conditions are so bad that girls are not welcome? In fact, it is neither. The young men I know are all white-collar workers with good careers, successful careers, and excellent characters. Many families with daughters want to recruit them as their husbands, but they always fail. The reason is not because of the girl’s incompetence. Take the initiative, but the man is too passive.

Take my distant nephew as an example. He studied computer science. He once worked as the financial director of a large shopping mall and later taught at a university. His family background is very simple. He has been living with an old father who has retired for many years. I have been introducing him to girlfriends since he was in his twenties, and I am still introducing him to girlfriends when he is in his thirties. There are probably ten or twenty of them. Except for two of them, others look down on him, and he looks down on the rest. Fuck someone else. Later, I no longer wanted to interfere with his affairs. A colleague insisted that I introduce the daughter of an old acquaintance of hers to him. The girl was a few years younger than him, she must have been in her thirties at the time, and she was a civil servant in a key department in the province. In the past, when I introduced girlfriends to him, there was often nothing more to say after the first meeting. This time my nephew did not refute my honor and went on several dates with the girl. According to his old father, the two of us were still on good terms. I think this relationship should be successful. The National Day holiday is coming soon, and I specially told my nephew that you can go out and have fun during the seven-day holiday. My nephew said, I am very busy and cannot spare such a long time to play. I said, just play in Wuhan. He hesitantly agreed. After the National Day holiday, I went to work, and my colleague came over and asked me, "Hey, what's going on with your nephew?" I didn't date anyone during my seven-day vacation, and I didn't even get a phone call. I groaned secretly in my heart, I guess it blew again this time. I quickly told my colleagues to be careful and said that I would definitely ask about this matter. After several phone calls, my nephew finally told me the whole story. It turned out that he had been to the girl's small house where she lived alone, and said that it was a mess, and it didn't look like the boudoir of a girl who loves to be clean at all. Therefore he was unwilling to continue with her. Later, the teacher at his nephew's school introduced him to a female master's degree who had returned from studying in the UK. The female master's degree had a good family background and had the power to transfer jobs for him. Because the girl works in Hankou and her family lives in Hankou, she can transfer her nephew from Wuchang to work at a university in Hankou. But the nephew didn't know why he rejected this female master's degree. Anyway, there was no news after that. Now my wife's cousin wants to introduce her niece, a doctoral student studying abroad, to her nephew and ask my wife to do a job. I advise my wife not to do useless work. Yesterday, my wife didn't listen to the advice and drove several cars to her nephew's house. When she came back, she was listless and said that her nephew was very busy again. Her cousin, the nephew's father, said that he couldn't control it anymore. Maybe his old father took good care of him and he no longer wanted to get married and start a family.

There are two boys who are also in their early thirties, one is a cadre of a public institution and the other is a cadre of public security. They also introduce many girlfriends but have no success in negotiating. These boys don't seem to be anxious at all about starting a family. Their parents are anxious. But when the parents talked about this matter, they were very impatient. Over time, the parents did not dare to mention it.

The four older young men I know are not trendy people. They are not the so-called single bachelors. Although those bachelors are not married and have a family, they have many female partners around them. The four young men I know are clean boys without those messy experiences. I just don't understand why they can't make friends and start a family normally. What's stopping them? Their parents were worried about them, and they didn't appreciate it at all.