A hedge between keeps friendship green. A debate said, "a friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, and a friendship between villains is as happy as a flower." This well-known saying comes from the Taoist book Zhuangzi. Zhuangzi is famous for his outstanding wisdom, and his words are always more profound than ordinary people's thoughts. The question is: if friends have close contact, share life details, support each other, and make an appointment to eat, drink and drink coffee when they are free, should they be regarded as "villains"? On the contrary, some friends who have a nodding acquaintance only know each other because of classmates, fellow villagers, colleagues and peers. After several years, they really "don't care". So can they be upgraded to "gentlemen"? Haha, I don't think that's what Zhuangzi meant. He said that "a friendship between gentlemen is as light as water" does not mean that "anyone as light as water" is a gentleman; He said that "little friends are willing to be happy", and he did not mean that "anyone who is willing to be happy" is a villain. In other words, the key concept is that "indifferent as water" means cherishing fate and not forcing others to do so. True friendship must go with the flow, based on the same interests, similar outlook on life and values, and a close circle of life, and be stable for a long time until it reaches a state of "flowing water does not rot". Water must be lively and flowing to be full of vitality. The so-called "long history" is the best performance of water. "The essence of friendship lies in equality." This refers to an equal mentality. For example, "forgetting to make friends" refers to becoming friends regardless of age difference. Similar situations include "forgetting" differences in identity, role, status and wealth. In fact, how many times have there been real equality between people? But all external distances can't stop our strong desire to make friends as equals. So, how to do this? "Friendship needs management. It does not exist naturally. Need to be carefully maintained. Friends are like orchards, which must be carefully planted, pruned and protected, but they cannot be their own private property. " This is the way to keep friends in an independent and equal relationship, and it also shows a high degree of tacit understanding. Growing up, I have many very good friends. Some get together once a year or two and come from all over the world to talk about life and trivia. Although some people don't often meet, they contact and get close by phone or text message. For a long time, we don't communicate with each other, but our hearts are connected. When we meet important events in our lives, we will communicate with each other, exchange needed items, and even echo each other from afar. Even a few of them are bosom friends, and they can meet each other day and night, nod and smile, and walk side by side. They are all my predestined friends in different time and space, and they are a happy part of my life. As I grow older, I agree with Zhuangzi when I talk about friends. I will smile at each other and never go against my will. These eight-character mantras are the highest realm of making friends. The best way to communicate between friends is silence. Friendship is not only related to what we say, but what we don't say is actually more important. True friendship is "silence is better than sound", and more emotions can be conveyed through "between the lines". This is the tacit understanding! ! ! Many times, friends send out "knowing smiles", and they affirm "It's good to have you in this life!" This life, this moment, you will not be alone. Such friends are close to the level of "bosom friends", but how can they be bosom friends everywhere in daily life? It is only possible to make friends on the basis of equality and reciprocity. If you don't insist, you can't be indifferent. Only by making friends like "bosom friends" can we agree with the profound understanding that "the world is long and there is love on earth". Why is a friend of a gentleman so indifferent? Gentlemen meet each other with virtue and persuade each other with virtue. Because he knows that you have a lot of social responsibilities to do, he will remind you: "We should go home and set a good example for our children and serve our parents more." ....................................................................................................................................................... The friendship between true friends in ........................... will become deeper and more fragrant in this light water.