be sure of oneself
Speak well of yourself.
When we belittle our abilities, our self-confidence will also decline. Don't say that you are not good. Instead, you should say something positive to yourself.
Be your best friend.
Practice being your best friend.
Imagine that you have walked out of your body and now you are standing beside yourself. Start looking at yourself. What can you say is good and beneficial? How do you encourage the person in front of you and make him more confident? What would you say to your best friend? Maybe you will hug him and tell him that he is really good, he is really doing well, and you appreciate all his advantages. Talk to yourself in this way and you will become your best friend.
Change to bad and self-image
When you begin to like your body, your self-image will be improved and your self-confidence will be enhanced. And this will be reflected in your appearance.
You know, a good self-image can create confidence.
Keep your distance from people who complain.
Change your negative self-image
Make a positive confirmation for yourself. Say it hundreds of times until you can remember it. Write it on the wall and sing it in the shower. Finally, your positive affirmation will replace your negative belief.
Look forward, not back.
Stop blaming yourself and let bygones be bygones. Remember: you did your best at that time, but now, you should face the future positively.
Don't be a victim.
Throw away your old clothes.
Do what you want.
Think about what you need to do, but you never do it. Most of us have a long list of things we want to do, but we haven't put them into practice. Now list these jobs.
You can easily break this cycle. The next time you hear yourself say, "I really should clean that cupboard, mend that skirt, write that letter, make that phone call and get rid of those weeds: then do it as soon as possible!" "
Take some time for yourself.
Be confident when you call.
If you can't make a phone call easily, or if you want to make a phone call, you can make a phone call standing.
Smile at the microphone
Let yourself eat well
Ask yourself, "Is it really important?"
Whenever you are bored or depressed about something, ask yourself a question: "Is it really important?" If so, you must express your feelings to the right person. However, too often, we let ourselves delve into unimportant things, and then restless emotions quickly make us lack self-confidence.
Clear your mind.
express orally
Next time you can't realize your wish, think carefully about what you said. Did you say your wish? Or is it stuck in your throat and not fully expressed? Start making it clear what you want to say and what you want. Your self-esteem will improve and you will have more opportunities to get what you want.
When you smile, the world smiles back at you.
When self-confidence drops, we will look depressed and it is difficult to communicate with others, because we can't get rid of our bad feelings about ourselves.
Sometimes, this vicious circle can be broken by changing simple things, such as facial expressions.
Smile in the mirror. A real smile is when you smile all over your body: including your eyes and mouth. Look at your smile at close range; It lights up your face. Walk with a smile and practice smiling in front of others. The result is beyond your imagination. The habit of smiling will help you see the outside world. Sometimes, if you want to change your depressed mood and improve your self-confidence, you just need to smile.
take a risk
Sometimes, we really want to make some changes in our lives. But we can't cross this step because we think the risk is too great. Maybe we want to resist people who make us unhappy, maybe we want to find a new job, maybe we want to start a new relationship.
What do you want to do to change your life? Is this risky?
If we want different things, we must have the courage to change our behavior patterns, which means we have the ability to explain what we want. Being brave in change involves the following possible risks:
fail
be rejected
be in derision
People don't like us anymore
Ask yourself if these things will affect you.
If you never try to take risks, you will never get what you want, which will make you lose confidence and make you have some different experiences, even if it is only a small thing. If you take risks, you will become more confident.
Never mind the weather.
Tell others how much you appreciate them.
Don't choke on your appreciation of others. When others deserve praise, praise them and enjoy the mood it brings. Who do you admire in life? Did you tell them? If not, tell them that when we appreciate others, their self-confidence will not increase, and at the same time, it will make you feel better about yourself.
Stop blaming yourself.
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Management time
Draw a line for yourself
Look at yourself and look for the best and most feasible action, not because you make yourself a victim. Discuss the current situation and your feelings. If you promise others, but feel scared, angry, threatened, disgusted, irritable, helpless or lack of self-confidence, it's time to draw a line for yourself.
Looking for new experiences
Do something different, something you've never done before: go to a music you've never heard, take a pottery class, eat vegetarian food, learn a new language, and visit places you've never been. When we do something for the first time, we always have different feelings and can learn something new from it.
get closer to nature
Examine your feelings.
Practice allows you to check your feelings all day. In other words, whenever you think of something, stop and ask yourself, "How do I feel now?" When you practice this skill, you will pay more and more attention to your feelings. Because you are learning to listen to your inner voice.
Call hard
Listen to others all day.
Experience a new day in a new way. Spend a day listening to everyone you meet instead of talking to them. This method can change the focus of your whole day and let you "get rid of" your subjective self and look at others objectively. In fact, it is easy for us to forget to listen to others, because this is not a valued thing in our society. In fact, listening has become a declining art.
Don't call it "trouble", but "challenge"
The next time you face a dilemma, try to see it as a challenge, not a trouble. Because when we feel that we are in trouble, we will become nervous and anxious, and always feel that we can't find a solution.
Look at difficulties with a new attitude. You are a capable and creative person, and you can face the challenges in life.
Don't say, "I'm in trouble."
Instead, I said, "How should I face this challenge?"
You will be surprised at how the words we use can affect our mentality. This is an interesting way to look at our difficulties. They are not "trouble". They are challenges. They provide us with opportunities for growth and development, thus improving our ability to change the status quo. When we know this, we will become efficient, no longer feel sorry for ourselves, and our self-confidence will be enhanced accordingly.
Touch the ground with both feet
Create things
What's the difference between people who create things and people who passively love things? Why do some people open up new directions for themselves while suffering? The difference between them lies in their decision-making ability.
What do you think of your decision? When our self-confidence drops, it is hard for us to miss our own judgment. Whenever you are not sure what decision to make, you can use IDA formula.
Ida is; Intention. Decide. Action.
You won't act unless you know how to act; You can't make a decision unless you know what you want to happen. Ask yourself about your intentions. Write down the answers. Decide what you need to do to change your behavior and then change your behavior.
If life is endless and you want to change it, please use IDA formula to make yourself a person who can create things, and your self-confidence will be improved accordingly.
Look in the mirror
Look deep into your eyes in the mirror and tell yourself that you cherish and love yourself. You can use your name to say:
I cherish it, and I cherish myself.
Repeat and look at yourself at the same time. The heart may make this exercise meaningful. This is really the most effective way to reconfirm yourself and let you face yourself. If you think it is too difficult, write this sentence 20 times. If you have negative thoughts, bring the paper and write it on the other side. When you start to release these thoughts, such as "I am so stupid", I will never be able to do it. I don't deserve to be loved. "It is not easy for you to face yourself in the mirror.
Finally, you will be able to use the mirror to confirm yourself again. If you really want to have a high degree of self-confidence and this is your goal, you should keep this skill well.
Start exercise
Be tolerant.
Best expectation psychology
Our ideas are very powerful. By changing our thoughts, we can change our lives and build up self-confidence. But how is that possible?
Imagine that you wake up in the morning and feel very depressed. You think: Oh, my God, this must be a bad day. "From the beginning of the morning, you feel that everything is not going well. In your opinion, this will be a bad luck. Who wants to associate with such a person? If something good comes, you will miss it. Because you have no such expectation.
Let's start a new day. You wake up feeling depressed in the morning, but you know how to change your mood. "Although I feel a little depressed, I know it will be a bright day." It will be a beautiful day. It will definitely be much better than your previous attempts. You smile and try to cheer up, and people and things around you will give you a kind response. At this point, your anticipation will improve, so when a good opportunity appears, you will recognize it at a glance.
A negative attitude will attract negative people and things in your life. If you expect the worst to happen, then the worst will happen, and no matter what the result is, you will "prove" that your expectation is true. Positive expectations attract positive things. This truth is like "birds of a feather flock together, and people are divided into groups." Expect the best, and the best will happen.
Try it, let yourself have the best expectation all day and see what happens.
take a deep breath
Basic breathing can help you stay calm in any situation. In fact, the way we breathe will affect our thinking, feeling and action. The average person breathes 12~ 18 times a minute. If you can reduce it to 8 times a minute, or less, you will naturally feel more confident and self-controlled.
Try new things
When we lack self-confidence, we are not interested in anything, and there seems to be nothing worth doing, so we have no motivation. Try new things by mistake and revive your interest in life. Let your inspiration show again, make a plan, start with a small plan, and then go forward to stimulate your creativity. For example "
Make a cake and decorate this man's cake.
Prepare a special meal.
Plant some plants.
Do some gardening.
Tidy up your flower bed.
Do manual work, such as knitting, carpentry, sewing and so on.
Write to the person you love.
Paint the walls and rooms with new colors or draw a picture.
There are many things we can do to break the vicious circle caused by self-confidence, and the possibilities are infinite. When we encourage ourselves to be creative, our interest in life will soon reappear. Creative plans can calm us down. Restore our self-esteem. Try it. It's really an effective treatment.
Be true to yourself
Sometimes, we are dishonest with ourselves. Maybe it's because we can't accept the fact. So we deny the truth. Maybe it's because we are doing what we think we should do, but something seems to be wrong. We may even be doing things we don't want to do, so as not to "change the status quo". If you are unhappy in some aspect of your life. Then re-examine your motives. Ask yourself the following questions:
Are you honest with yourself?
If not. Why?
Do I want to please someone?
If so, why?
Am I afraid to say "no" to this person?
If I stand up and defend myself and do what I want, what will be the worst result?
what would i like to do ?
If we live by promises, our self-esteem will never improve. Always be true to yourself, and you will have a high degree of self-confidence.
Pay attention to your body language.
Our body language reflects our emotions. If we lose confidence, we will look depressed and depressed. Afraid of eye contact with others, the signal sent by the body will be: we don't want to communicate with others.
If we change our body language to make it sound more certain, our confidence will increase. The next time you feel depressed, sit up straight with your back and shoulders back and start making eye contact with others. Come again. Change the signals sent by your body so that you are not obviously willing to communicate with them.
Just as no self-confidence will be reflected in our body language, height and self-confidence will also be expressed through our body language. If we look more confident, our performance will be full of confidence, and others will respond to our new feelings with new life.
Write down your work instructions.
When you want to say no, just say no.
Practice saying "no" when no one is around, and say it out loud. Get you used to saying this word. Then, imagine that you will say "no". In your mind, you see that person, and you see yourself saying "no" to him. Anyway. When you say "no" for the first time in real situations. You may feel a little scared, but don't apologize for saying this word. You should congratulate yourself. Next time you say it, you will relax. Whenever you feel depressed, depressed and have no self-confidence, you need to say "no" to someone. When you want to say "no". Just say it, and you will be proud of yourself.
Speak well of others.
Let the guilt disappear
Keep yourself in balance.
Trust your instincts.
Do you trust your intuition? Do you know what this is? Do you know where I can find it?
When you have a "hunch" about something, when you "know" in advance that something is true, but others have not elaborated it in detail, that is your intuition. Your intuition gives you important information and talks to you through impulse, feeling and inspiration. Do you remember that sometimes, you just know what to do, and then you do it, and things get better. The current intuition is at work.
Listen to your intuition and believe what it says, you will become more lively, more sincere, more balanced physically and mentally, and your sense of self-worth and self-esteem will also be enhanced.
Pay attention to your advantages.
You must pull yourself together. This does not mean boasting or showing off, but we should silently defend ourselves and encourage ourselves. Everyone has shortcomings, but only if we make progress and are full of ellipsis will we change. A negative attitude will sow the seeds of depression and sadness. A positive attitude brings interest and the power to change. Forget unnecessary modesty and look at your own advantages. What are your strengths? Your advantages may be of great use or of little use, but it doesn't matter.
Make a list of things you appreciate.
Learn to relax yourself.
Let your depression go away
It really doesn't matter if you learn to accept all your emotions, such as anger, selfishness, jealousy, fear and so on. Unless we have experienced these feelings first. Release them again, or they will never disappear.
On vacation
Starting today, make your dream come true.
Have you ever heard people say "I've always wanted to go there" and "I've always wanted to go there"? I've always wanted to visit that place, I've always wanted to start that project, and I've always had that hobby. But why haven't they done so yet? When we know what we want to do, we can start working towards this goal.
Have you started doing what you want to do? If not. Why? Focus on the steps you need to take to achieve your goals. Don't be the kind of person who complains that you get nothing from life, otherwise you will always be depressed and have no self-esteem. Go ahead, take a risk, summon up courage and take action. You and your self-confidence will increase in proportion to the actions you are going to take.
Create success for yourself
Your imagination has infinite power. It can create anything. Determined to create victory for themselves. Now, just say this sentence to confirm yourself: victory belongs to me.
Now use your imagination. To strengthen this confirmation.
Practice visualization
Find a comfortable place, close your eyes and relax. Follow the rhythm of breathing until you feel deeply relaxed, and then see your actual success. Imagine the picture you want. See yourself as a successful person. You will see how confident and comfortable you are. Feel the feeling of success. Seeing people give you a new life, you deserve it. Make your picture as real as possible: the whole picture is natural color, and you can see and hear it when you are there. Do some sound effects and feel the authenticity of your success. After feeling it, I am ready to bring my thoughts back. Open your eyes and get back to reality.
If you have negative thoughts in the process of visualizing, let them go. This skill is very important, actually. This is one of the techniques I often use. We often use our imagination in a negative way to support our negative beliefs about ourselves. You once thought that you should try something, but soon, you want to say forget it, because you think you can't.
What if you confirm yourself negatively and think "I can't do it"? When you imagine your failure, you also see a negative picture, which also supports your negative belief in yourself. Imagine whether we often use these technologies. Why not use these skills to build a positive personality, success and self-confidence?
Educate children
Do the action of "You can't beat me"
Remember: you are different.
Do you often compare yourself with others? Do you feel that you are no better than others? Or do you feel that you are not smart enough, slim enough, beautiful enough, happy enough and valuable enough? Every time you compare yourself with others, you have confidence in your ability to make decisions and choices. If so, you are a victim of lack of self-confidence.
You are different. In this world, it has never happened. There won't be anyone like you in the future. You are the original you, you are special. Please confirm: I am different.
Over and over again. Say this to yourself loudly.
Improve your authenticity. Whenever you want to "be consistent with others", you should carefully examine your feelings. Your feelings make you different. Accept your differences with others and give full play to them. They make you unique. A real person makes you a different person in this world.
Step into the bubble
Protect yourself
We want others to know how we want them to treat us. In other words, if others regard you as a doormat, it's because you let them do it. If you lose self-confidence, people living around you will treat you badly. Look carefully at your relationship, whether it is with your partner, friends, colleagues or family. Ask yourself these questions:
Who am I allowed to treat me badly?
How could I let this happen?
Change these relationships by changing your behavior. Act to protect yourself. Then people who are not good to you will change the way they treat you or leave your life.
Know what you want and respect your wishes.
I believe you can do it. Stand up and do it.
Don't be afraid to say no when you need to.
Use good communication skills.
Don't be afraid of adventure, life is full of adventure.
Take responsibility for your actions and take this responsibility.
Express your true feelings.
Stop being a victim and try to protect yourself. The way others respond to you is naturally very different. When your actions are based on your best interests and you stand up for your rights, you protect yourself. You clearly express your needs and respect the rights and feelings of others. You cherish yourself. Therefore, there is a high degree of self-confidence.
Be positive about yourself.
Your confidence is based on your confidence. When things don't go well, it is usually difficult for us to maintain confidence in ourselves. If we are depressed, it is impossible to believe that we are "special, valuable and lovely people". Actually. We have always been like this. At this time, faith has great magic. When you think it is impossible to love yourself, practice believing in yourself and believe that you are a great person. Creative people, important people, great people, people worthy of love and respect, people of extraordinary significance, don't doubt, because you are such a person.
practise
List your positive self. These words should be written in the present tense: keep the positive side of these words and keep saying them. Read this list as soon as possible when you feel that your self-esteem is declining. You can use the following example. You can also create more sentences that affirm yourself.
Swing example
I love myself and cherish myself.
I am a great person, a creative person.
I deserve the best things in my life.
Change your habits.
One of the consequences of lack of self-confidence is "stagnation"; That is, I can't change the situation of things, but I feel that life is chaotic. For some people, this feeling has been strengthened until they feel extremely depressed. In order to make us feel good about life, we must have the ability to live with certainty. If we get lost in the dark world, we will be full of negative things, and our feelings will be lost as if we can't grasp life completely.
In fact, as long as we take some small actions, it can be of great help to our lives. If you feel lost and don't know where to go, you should decide to change something in your life. Choose a seemingly insignificant and unremarkable thing and change your little habits. Don't try to make big changes. It looks like smoke. Or terminate the relationship with someone. Here, we are just looking for a small change. A small change that doesn't cost too much energy can make some big changes in your life. For example: change your workflow and put the tissue container in another location; Buy different breads; Change your hairstyle.
When you start doing something different. You will find more and more habitual behavior patterns that you can change. Change of self. Start small. When new possibilities arise, negative old things will be pushed away. Remember: you can "change your life". You can "create confidence"
Congratulations to yourself.
Congratulations, because you agree that you have the ability to improve the quality of life. When you buy this book, you have taken the biggest step towards self-confidence. The rest just needs practice. When you are depressed and don't even want to see my sixty methods, remember that you are not alone. Because, each of us is working hard towards a higher self-awareness state.
When you learn to improve your self-confidence, you will also improve the quality of life of others. Because the quality of your life affects everyone around you, so do it, create a lot of self-confidence and let everyone share your feelings.
This job has never been easy. Sometimes. You think you can't trust yourself at all. But never doubt your progress in pursuing self-confidence. You should know that all the love and support you need comes from yourself, and it will always be by your side.
Come on, you can do it.