To create a good personal image, improve one's psychological quality and personal charm. In social communication, one's knowledge level and self-cultivation directly affect the effect of communication. A good personal image and psychological state should start from scratch, and follow good advice, and optimize one's social image.

1. Improve psychological quality.

Interpersonal communication is the overall function of thought, ability, knowledge and psychology, and the lack of any one aspect will affect the quality of interpersonal relationship. Some students have bad psychology in interpersonal communication, such as social fear, timidity, shyness, inferiority, indifference, loneliness, isolation, suspicion, pride and jealousy? These are not easy to establish good interpersonal relationships. Therefore, college students should strengthen self-training, improve their psychological quality and communicate with each other with a positive attitude.

2. Improve your interpersonal charm.

It should be said that each individual has his own internal interpersonal charm, which is the embodiment of a person's comprehensive social life, which requires college students to enrich their inner world, from appearance to speech, from image to knowledge, and improve themselves in many ways. Psychological research shows that a good social image will leave a deep impression on the other party in the first communication, and with the deepening of communication, knowledge will become more dominant. Especially the personality cultivation of college students, and expand their own connotation.

second, make good use of communication skills.

1. Empathy. This is very important for establishing good interpersonal relationships. If we often use it, if I were in his position, how would I deal with it, and always stand in the other person's perspective to understand and deal with the problem, everything will become much simpler. Generally speaking? People who are good at communication are often good at discovering the value of others, knowing how to respect others, being willing to trust others, being tolerant of others, being able to tolerate others' different views and behaviors, not haggling over others' mistakes, and helping others rather than blaming others as far as possible. He knows that "treat others as you want them to treat you"; Know "what you don't want? Do not do to others "; Know that "the best way to get friends is to make yourself a friend of others"; Understand that others are others, not yourself, so you can't force them. When you get along with friends, you should keep similarities and seek differences.

2. Make good use of praise and criticism. Psychologists believe that praise can release one's energy and arouse one's enthusiasm. Praise can make a weak body strong, give a fearful heart peace and dependence, give a wounded nerve rest and strength, and give people in adversity the determination to succeed. It was reported that a European woman traveled abroad, and she learned to say "thank you", "you are so kind" and "you are so wonderful" in several languages. Wherever she went, she was warmly received. Sincerely, express your praise to others in a timely and appropriate manner. Praise should be to people and things, which can enhance each other's attraction.

be good at saying thank you gracefully. We often think that people who are very close don't need to say thank you, and things that are too small don't need to say thank you. We are not willing to express our gratitude directly in life, but are willing to keep it in mind. In fact, sincere heartfelt thanks shine with the brilliance of human nature.

the opposite of praise is criticism. Under normal circumstances, we should praise more and criticize less. Criticism is a negative stimulus. Usually, only when the intention is kind, in line with the facts, and the method is right can it have a positive effect and promote the progress of the other party. When criticizing, we should pay attention to the occasion and the environment, deal with things wrong with people, and we should not completely deny a person, which will dampen the enthusiasm and self-esteem of the other party. We should turn over the current thing instead of the previous thing, and the wording and attitude should be friendly and sincere.

3. take the initiative to communicate. Every young college student needs to have a rich interpersonal world, and in this world, help and be helped, sympathize and be sympathized, love and be loved, and enjoy joy and pain. In social communication, those who actively initiate communication activities and take the initiative to accept others are more confident in interpersonal relationships, and the scarcity of active communication stems from two reasons. First, lack of self-confidence, fear of rejection, fear that others will not understand and respond as expected, thus putting themselves in an embarrassing situation and hurting their self-esteem. In fact, the problem is far from as serious as we thought, because in interpersonal relationships, both sides need to adapt and need interpersonal relationships to support unfamiliar situations. Second, people have many misunderstandings in interpersonal relationships, such as greeting others first, being inferior to others, "Those who are good at communication are sophisticated and tactful", "I bother others so much that others will think I am incompetent and hate me" and so on. It is also very important for college students to actively communicate, especially when facing interpersonal crisis, it is very important to actively explain, eliminate misunderstandings and re-establish good interpersonal relationships.

4. Empathy. The essence of interpersonal relationship is the emotional connection and communication between people. The more emotional communication, the greater the psychological field shared by both parties and the closer the international relationship. Empathy is not sympathy, but the communication and identity of the inner feelings of both parties. People are empiricists, and their understanding of others is highly dependent on their own direct experience. Therefore, the enrichment of self-experience is a necessary prerequisite for understanding and empathy.

5. Help others. Psychologists have found that interpersonal relationships that start with helping each other are not only easy to establish a good first impression, but also the psychological distance between people can be shortened quickly, so that good interpersonal relationships can be established quickly. A friend in need in daily life illustrates this point

. It is very important to add icing on the cake to the psychological effect of the so-called "giving charcoal in the snow".