The author of the article: Mr. Zhuo Mo

There is an ancient saying about the art of recognizing people: "Observe people while ignoring them", which means: when observing people, you should look at their subconscious and inadvertent words and deeds. Behavior can better reflect his true inner world. As the saying goes, "No matter how cunning a fox is, there are times when his tail is exposed."

For example, someone has always had a good image and is well-educated under your influence, but one time he answered a phone call and immediately changed his tone and cursed the person on the other end of the phone. At this time, we can see clearly his true cultivation and character through his inadvertent expressions.

In fact, the most effective way to observe people's neglect is to look at the "mantra" they habitually say, because mantras can inadvertently betray a person's heart. For example, the more hypocritical a person is, the more he likes to keep these three "mantras" on his lips. Let’s take a look below.

1. For your own good;

I guess everyone has heard the saying "I am for your own good", but in this world besides parents who are selfless to you, there are other things Do people really treat you well? When a person uses "for your own good" as a mantra, it is often a cover-up to cover up the true purpose behind it.

For example, people who sell products often say "for your own good" and put the interests of customers first, but in fact they do it to sell more products and bulge their own pockets. The reason why they say this is just a trick and strategy of "circumventing" and "emotional preoccupation".

In fact, our ancestors have long warned us that "those who promise lightly will be trusted by few; those who praise others in person will be betrayed", that is: those who promise others easily will have little integrity; those who praise others in person People must be talking bad things behind their backs. Therefore, the more obedient and beautiful the words are, the less we should believe them.

Between male and female friends, or even good friends or besties, one party often says "for your own good" to the other party. This is just to show his superiority and how smart he is in order to achieve control. the purpose of the other person’s thoughts.

Everyone is equal. You can give constructive suggestions to others, but you cannot stand on a high moral level and say "for your own good" and then put others in a dilemma. If others listen to you, they will be grateful to you and owe you a favor in the future; if others don't listen to your suggestions, you will blame them for being unfaithful and stubborn.

Therefore, those so-called "for your own good" words are often false and just wrapped up well. They do this so that others cannot see their true purpose, and then confuse or manipulate the other party. The more hypocritical a person is, the more he likes to keep the mantra "for your own good" on his lips.

2. I don’t care about money;

The importance of money to everyone is self-evident. Some people have concluded that "money is not everything, but nothing is impossible without money." This sentence is also very reasonable. For an adult, the amount of money you make is a measure of your value; the amount of funds you hold is a guarantee of whether you have a sense of security in your heart.

Saints are also members of ordinary people. They also need to eat the fireworks of the world and cannot do without spending money. Therefore, even Confucius emphasized that "a gentleman loves money and gets it in a proper way." If you have the ability to make more money, you can do more meaningful things, give more charity, and help more poor people.

Between gentlemen and villains, there is another kind of person - "hypocrites". They not only want a good reputation, they often emphasize to others "I don't love money", but they also secretly rack their brains to seek personal gain. , desperate for more money. It is not shameful to love money. What is shameful is to say "I don't care about money" on the surface, but to be extremely eager in the heart and even do some deviant things.

In life, if someone often shows you a disdainful attitude towards money and says "I don't care about money", it means that this person is actually extremely hypocritical. Because according to psychological principles, the more a person lacks something, the more he likes to show off.

In the same way, the more a person cares about money, the more he shouts "I don't care about money" all day long, thus achieving the purpose of confusing everyone.

3. Good brothers and good buddies;

Today’s society is a bit overflowing with social activities. Everyone has hundreds of people in their address book, but there are only a few true friends. When you feel confused and want to find someone to talk to, you find that no one can be found. The result of excessive social interaction directly leads to more hypocrisy when making friends, and more friends are friends of interest.

When you meet a stranger, no matter what the other person is doing, you will call him "Mr. But when they meet next time, they may not even be as good as strangers, because they have too many brothers and sisters to count.

Therefore, when we interact with others, we must not listen to other people's flattering words, and do not take those false words of "good brothers and good buddies" seriously, because if you take them seriously, you will lose. True friendship needs to go through some things, especially through hardships. There is no emotional foundation. From the beginning, they are good brothers and good buddies. This relationship must be fake.

There is a song called "My Good Brother". When I listened to this song for the first time, I got goosebumps all over my body. I always felt that this song was fake because the lyrics emphasized "good" one by one. "Brothers", the friendship between brothers is so deep. Look at the eyes of the two singers when they were singing duet. There was no emotion at all. They had to express the feeling of life, death and sex. I really didn’t know what to say.

Real good brothers, if they have true feelings, do not need to say too many words, and do not emphasize "good brothers and good buddies" over and over again. Instead, they have each other in their hearts. Even if they don't speak, they still have a clear understanding. Feel pleasure for each other. True feelings cannot be expressed by simply saying "good brother, good buddy". On the contrary, the more emphasis is placed on good brothers and good buddies, the more hypocritical it appears.

Conclusion: Gui Guzi has a famous saying: "The mouth is the door of the heart. The heart is the master of God. Will, desire, thinking, and wisdom all come in and out through the door." There may be many mantras It may not be able to express a person's true thoughts, especially if certain mantras are said too many times, they will appear to be hypocritical and become a tactic to hide people's eyes.

Truly hypocritical people often use the above three "mantras" - for your own good, I don't care about money, and good brothers. You may wish to check yourself and see if you have such friends around you. If so, you should be more vigilant.

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