Zi Gong asked about friends. Confucius said: "Advice is good and the way is good. Stop when you can't do it, don't humiliate yourself."

Interpretation: Zigong asked about the principle of making friends. Confucius said: "When a friend makes a mistake, you should try your best to advise him and guide him to do good. A friend should just let it go if he doesn't accept the advice, and don't bring trouble on himself."

Today's meaning: to advise good deeds and to correct mistakes. Friends have the moral responsibility, so "good friends" can be compared with "good teachers". However, when a friend cannot listen to unfavorable advice, the only option is to shut up. Otherwise, feelings will be greatly hurt, and even fights may occur. Therefore, be open-minded. A broad mind, rational judgment, and extreme patience are the necessary conditions for accepting advice.

Comments on the relationship between "friends" and "friends" is the loosest kind. Friends should pay attention to a " The word "faith" is the bond that maintains the relationship between the two parties. But when dealing with a friend's mistakes, you should persuade him frankly and openly, and explain the interests from the bottom of your heart. If he insists on not listening, then give up. If others don't listen, you should tell him again and again. If you give advice, you will bring shame on yourself. This is a basic criterion for making friends. Therefore, Tan Sitong, a lofty scholar in the late Qing Dynasty, believed that friends' ethics are the most praiseworthy. He even advocated using friends' ethics to transform the other four ethics. In fact, what Confucius talks about here is, It is a kind of recognition and respect for others as subjects.