And Deng are a pair of professional revolutionaries, who have unique views and values on marriage and love. Their love story was marked with distinctive revolutionary colors because it was born in a specific historical period. Today, love in this revolutionary period has a unique charm.

Revolutionary companion

Zhou Enlai and Deng met in the May 4th Movement. At that time, Zhou Enlai, who returned from studying in Japan, was quite famous among students in Tianjin. Deng, a student at Beiyang Zhili No.1 Women's Normal School, is the speech captain of the Women's Patriotic Association. Interestingly, Zhou Enlai likes to play drama, and there are no girls in boys' schools, so he plays girls. There are no boys in Deng's school. Dressed in a robe, jacket and top hat, she plays a male reporter. Zhou Enlai also directed them to perform a play. But Deng always believed that she was regarded as a little sister at that time-that year, she was only 15 years old.

A year later, he went to France to study, and Deng worked as a teacher in the primary school attached to Beijing Normal University. They had frequent contacts. Deng knew he had a girlfriend at that time, so he never thought that one day they would become lifelong revolutionary partners. 1923, Deng suddenly received a postcard from. On this postcard with the portraits of Liebknecht and Luxemburg, Zhou Enlai wrote: "I hope the two of us will go to the guillotine together, just like the two of them."

1956 One day, Zhou Enlai's niece visited and everyone was sitting in the living room chatting. My niece asked about their past curiously, and Zhou Enlai told me frankly that the beautiful French friend "sympathized with the revolution" and "however, I don't think she is suitable to be a lifelong companion of the revolution". In Zhou Enlai's eyes, Chao Xiao, who insisted on revolution, was the best candidate for his life partner. 1925, they got married in Guangdong.

Deng Ying Chao later said that she "understood Enlai" and "what he needs is a partner who can engage in revolutionary work all his life and withstand the difficulties and obstacles of the revolution". From this perspective, Zhou Enlai, who chose a partner for the revolution, proved to have a vision. In a commemorative article, Deng said that even though their love relationship was clearly defined in the correspondence, "the correspondence after our engagement was still based on revolutionary activities, mutual learning, revolutionary truth and future career, and the words' I love you, you love me' could not be found.

During their correspondence, they joined the * * * Production Party, and Deng joined the * * * Youth League, but they kept party secrets strictly and didn't inform each other. This habit also continued into their later married life. At home, Deng is a very disciplined person. She never asks what Zhou Enlai hasn't told her.

The family of the founding prime minister

1925 Shortly after marriage, Deng found himself pregnant. At that time, she was He Xiangning's secretary, bent on doing a good job, so she decided to abort the child. Zhou Enlai flew into a rage when he learned this: "Your body is the capital of the revolution. This child is not your own, but our descendants. You should discuss it with me. This is a great event for both of us. Why not discuss it with me? "

Not long after, Deng was pregnant with a second child, and the expected date of delivery was1March 927. Before that, she had gone to work in Shanghai, and Deng's mother came to Guangzhou to accompany her in childbirth. She gave birth in Deng on March 2 1 day, and was not delivered for three days and three nights because of the large fetus and dystocia. Finally, the doctor took the baby out with tweezers. The baby suffered a head injury and died at birth.

Due to the "April 12" coup and the split between the Kuomintang and the Communist Party, Deng, who wanted to rest in the hospital for a few more days, had to flee Guangzhou. With the help of doctor Wang Dexin and nurse Han Dongxiu of this German hospital, Deng and her mother first arrived in Hong Kong and then moved to Shanghai. Because she was too tired after delivery, Deng was never pregnant again.

Without children, the prime minister's family, which is already busy with official duties, has lost the life breath of ordinary people. And Deng each have a bedroom. Deng's work and rest are very regular, and he must go to bed on time at 23 o'clock every day. Usually when Zhou Enlai comes back, Deng has fallen asleep, and when Deng gets up, he begins to rest. Although they are under the same roof, they still communicate by writing letters and making phone calls. Deng often writes notes to the guards on duty and gives them to the Prime Minister, which reads: "Comrade Ryan, you should have a rest." Or "You are too tired today" and so on.

Before the "Cultural Revolution", Zhou Enlai and Deng often went out to see a play and take a walk together, and once in a while, they were romantic: once the Premier came back, Deng gave him a hug, and the staff were watching and laughing. But this atmosphere disappeared after the Cultural Revolution. The content of the two people's communication is also increasingly occupied by work, and there is almost no privacy. This home is actually more like an office.

One summer night in the late 1960s, a nurse suddenly found Deng unresponsive and motionless, and she was so anxious that she shouted "Big Sister, Big Sister". Hearing this, Zhou Enlai, who happened to be at home, rushed over: "Xiaochao, Xiaochao! What's the matter with you? Wake up! " -Always at home, Zhou Enlai never called "Xiaochao" affectionately, but called "Big Sister" with everyone. Later I learned that Deng, who slept on sleeping pills, suddenly fell asleep after taking the medicine that day. Although it was a false alarm, Zhou Enlai's instinctive anxiety and desire left a deep impression on the staff. "The relationship between the Prime Minister and the elder sister is very deep, but at that time, the country was in such a state that the Prime Minister had to put all his energy into his work, and the elder sister also understood his contribution. They really sacrificed their children and families for this country. "

A happy marriage with similar interests.

Both Zhou Enlai and Deng Xiaoping struggled on the road of revolution all their lives. In their life, their parting is as common as three meals a day.

1925 August 8th was their wedding day, but the next morning, Zhou Enlai left. He is busy directing local and port strikes. Deng also left his newly married family to work in the Guangdong District Committee.

1in March, 927, the two major political parties that originally cooperated suddenly became enemies because of Chiang Kai-shek's betrayal activities. At this time, Zhou Enlai was working in the central government, and the need of revolutionary work forced Zhou Enlai to leave his wife who was about to give birth. Deng suffered from dystocia and infant death alone. It was not until May that she came to Shanghai to meet Zhou Enlai again.

1in July, 927, Wang Jingwei of Wuhan also betrayed the revolution. In late July, Zhou Enlai prepared a secret trip from Wuhan to Nanchang. The revolutionary couple who have just reunited for more than two months and experienced disasters are facing new separation. It was not until dinner that Deng was told that he would leave for Jiujiang that evening, what to do and how long he would stay, without saying anything. Deng is used to keeping secrets and asking nothing. They just shook hands silently and tightly. In the years of white terror, no matter between comrades-in-arms or between husband and wife, every separation means death.

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For the benefit of the revolution and obeying the needs of the revolution, this separation runs through Deng's life. This marriage mode of gathering less and leaving more is full of turmoil and sadness in our eyes today. However, revolutionaries like Zhou Enlai and Deng naturally put revolutionary interests first. How can they care about personal joys and sorrows? Before they got married, they had made sure that they shared the same beliefs and would support each other in their lives. Their marriage may be too rational and romantic, but mutual understanding and the same occupation have closely linked them, and their marriage is still full of warmth, happiness and happiness. This point can be deeply realized in Deng's letter to his family when1944+0/kloc-0 went to Chongqing for negotiations in June. She wrote in the letter:

"This time than back to respectively, is not a deep farewell, but miss! This time, we love each other more and more, what's more, I still have apologies in my heart! I really miss you!

You left, as if my mood and spirit were taken away! I am in Yan 'an, but my heart yearns for Chongqing. Sometimes I feel that I am sharing your happiness with my old friends inside and outside two stones! "

In this letter from Deng, he said, "You have been gone for three days. I miss you so much! " Without the slightest affectation, it is simple and true, but it makes her eager concern stand out. This short cry, as if from Deng's heart, shocked people's hearts.