In the Song Dynasty, there was a man named Shi Yang, a student of Neo-Confucianism in Cheng Yi. In his forties, he went to Luoyang to visit Cheng Yi. When he and another classmate came to Cheng Yi's house, it snowed heavily. Gauge is taking a nap. They stood outside the door and waited quietly until Cheng Yi woke up. At this time, the snow has fallen more than a foot deep. This is the story of "It snows in front of Cheng Yi".
make three calls at the thatched cottage/repeatedly request sb to take up a post
The yellow turban insurrectionary uprising at the end of Han Dynasty caused great chaos in the world. Cao Cao sat in the imperial court, Sun Quan sent troops to Dongwu, and Liu Bei, the imperial clan of the Han Dynasty, listened to Xu Shu (a native of Yuzhou in the Three Kingdoms, who was famous for finding soil) and (a native of Yangzhai in Yuzhou in the Three Kingdoms, who was also a famous counselor) and said that Zhuge Liang was very knowledgeable and talented, so he and Guan Yu and Zhang Fei took gifts to Wolong (now Xiangyang County, Hubei Province) to invite him. It happened that Zhuge Liang was out that day, so Liu Bei had to turn back in disappointment.
Soon, Liu Bei, Guan Yu and Zhang Fei braved the snowstorm and invited them for the second time. Unexpectedly, Zhuge Liang went out for a walk again. Zhang Fei doesn't want to come again. Seeing that Zhuge Liang was not at home, he urged him to go back. Liu Bei had to leave a letter expressing his admiration for Zhuge Liang and asking him to come out of the mountain to help him save the country's crisis.
After a while, Liu Bei was a vegetarian for three days and was ready to invite Zhuge Liang again. Guan Yu said that Zhuge Liang may have a hollow reputation, but he may not have real talent and learning, so he doesn't have to go. Zhang Fei, on the other hand, advocated calling alone and tying the ground with a rope when he didn't come. Liu Bei scolded Zhang Fei and went to visit Zhuge Liang with them for the third time. At this time, Zhuge Liang was sleeping. Liu Bei dare not disturb him. He stood until Zhuge Liang woke up and sat down to talk to each other.
Zhuge Liang saw that Liu Bei was interested in doing things for the country and sincerely asked him for help, so he came out to help Liu Bei establish the Han Shu Dynasty.
The Romance of the Three Kingdoms called Liu Bei's three personal invitations to Zhuge Liang "three visits to the cottage".
Confucius respects teachers.
In the spring of 52 1 BC, Confucius learned that his students had been ordered by the king of Lu to pay homage to the emperor in Luoyang, Kyoto, Zhou Dynasty. He thought it was a good opportunity to ask Laozi, the guardian of Tibetan history in the Zhou Dynasty, about "etiquette", so he got his permission and went with him. The day after Confucius arrived in Kyoto, he went to the Tibetan History Museum on foot to visit Laozi. Lao Zi, who is writing the Tao Te Ching, heard that the world-famous Kong Qiu came to consult, so he quickly put down his knife and pencil and adjusted his clothes. Confucius saw a healthy old man coming out of the gate, thinking it was Laozi. He hurried forward and respectfully paid tribute to one of Lao Zi's disciples. After entering the hall, Confucius bowed again before sitting down. Laozi asked Confucius why he came. Confucius left his seat and replied, "I have little knowledge and know nothing about the ancient' etiquette system', so I specially asked the teacher." Seeing that Confucius was so sincere, Lao Tzu expressed his views in detail.
After returning to Lu, Confucius' students asked him to explain Laozi's knowledge. Confucius said, "I am a good teacher, knowing the past and the present, the source of rites and music, and the return of virtue." At the same time, I praise Laozi as an example. He said: "bird, I know it can fly;" Fish, I know it can swim; Beast, I know it can run. I can weave a net to catch a running beast, I can tie a swimming fish to a hook to catch it, and I can shoot a flying bird with a good arrow. As for the dragon, I can't know how it took the wind and cloud to heaven. Laozi, it's still evil! "
Emperor Han Ming respects his teacher very much.
When Emperor Liu Zhuang was a prince, Dr. Huan Rong was his teacher. Later, he succeeded to the throne and became emperor. He once went to Taichang House in person, sat in the east of Huanrong, set up a few sticks, and listened to the teacher's instructions as he did in the past. He also called hundreds of North Korean officials and students taught by Huan Rong to the Taichang Hall to pay tribute to his disciples. When Huan Rong was ill, Ming Di sent someone to offer condolences, and even went to see the teacher himself. Every time I visit my teacher, Ming Emperor City gets off the bus as soon as he enters the street to show his respect. After entering the door, I often hold the teacher's skinny hand and cry silently for a long time. The emperor of the dynasty did this to Huan Rong, so "the assistant ministers, generals and doctors who asked for illness dared not come to the door by car again, and they all worshipped under the bed." After Huan Rong's death, Ming Di also changed his clothes, attended the funeral in person, and made proper arrangements for his children.
It is a fine tradition of our Chinese nation to be polite to others and use polite language. As long as you are kind to others, they will give you a tooth for a tooth and an eye for an eye. Now, let me tell you three short stories about politeness and the use of polite expressions:
In ancient times, Niu Hao shouted for directions to an old man. The old man not only didn't give him directions, but also called him a "daredevil". After a while, Yue Fei also came here. He got off the stirrup first, then saluted politely and asked for directions. Seeing that Yue Fei was polite, the old man showed him the way.
A young woman got off the bus and her long skirt was dragged on the pedal of the carriage, which was trampled by the pupils behind her. When the young woman saw it, the pupils quickly lifted their feet to apologize to the young woman. The young woman ignored him and just said "Never mind", thus avoiding a possible dispute.
Master Zhu has cut Premier Zhou's hair for more than 20 years. On one occasion, Master Zhu accidentally made a small cut on Premier Zhou's face, which made him deeply uneasy. Premier Zhou did not blame him, but also comforted him.
These contents are actually from the text "Talking about Politeness", which tells us that being polite to others can build a bridge of understanding between people and reduce contradictions. Elegant, amiable and tolerant language not only communicates people's hearts, but also reflects a person's ideological and cultural accomplishment. As the saying goes, politeness warms people's hearts and rudeness is annoying.