At first, I felt that Xue Zhenzhu, an old woman, really had all the characteristics of a talkative old woman, which was annoying. She is philistine, caressing, and handles things without considering other people's feelings. She is too direct and makes people feel uncomfortable. She also has the kind of flattering Shanghai women who are duplicitous in treating men and women. But when I saw episode 39, she suddenly fell ill and died of cancer. Luo Zijun, her sister, and various men and girlfriends around them were surrounding the hospital bed. I still burst into tears, and suddenly I completely understood this "snobbery" "old woman. Isn't she just the "old man" around us who "doesn't listen to the old man's advice, and suffers the consequences before his eyes". Her loyal words often go against the ears and cannot be understood by the younger generation.
She raised a pair of adult daughters alone, but her daughter's relationship and marriage had not been smooth, which made her worry a lot. Although she often advises her daughters to think about their own interests, behind everything this woman does, it is not for her own gain, but to pave the way for the people she loves and cares about. She is foul-mouthed, but kind-hearted; vicious-mouthed, but upright; unforgiving, but her children's affairs are always her biggest worries.
She advised Luo Zijun to seize the "golden turtle" of the congratulatory letter and not to worry about Tang Jing's feelings. In fact, she is the one who sees it most thoroughly. She knew that the relationship between He Han and Tang Jing was bound to be irreversible. He Han had changed his mind and could no longer return his promise of marriage to Tang Jing. Her daughter had also fallen in love with this man named He Han. She just didn't tell them this, but directly chose herself to be the "infamous" middleman: to persuade Tang Jing to give up the congratulatory letter; to persuade her daughter to grasp the love of the congratulatory letter; to tell the congratulatory letter that her daughter also loved him. He has feelings for him, and he has regarded him as his son-in-law. The things she did were undoubtedly a powerful booster for the emotional development of the three people. It's just that the three people at that time were each immersed in their own pain and entanglement, and could not see the truth behind what this "snobbish" woman said. Tang Jing is nostalgic for her ten-year relationship, He Han suffers from being unable to break away from her perfect halo image, and Luo Zijun is hindered by the identity of his best girlfriend's fiancé. In fact, thinking about it now, although it is painful, even if Luo Zijun is not with He Han, it is impossible for Tang Jing and He Han to go back. He Han has changed his heart, and even if he does not fall in love with Luo Zijun, it is possible that it is Zhang Zijun or Li Zijun. Even if he didn't fall in love with another woman, ten years had already exhausted this man's patience and love for Tang Jing. How can such a deteriorated relationship achieve the marriage that has been dreamed of for ten years? It's just that the congratulatory letter changed his mind, and the person who changed his mind was Tang Jing's best friend. How could the three of them with such embarrassing identities bless each other's new relationship without any gaps? She sees things too clearly, but juniors are always like this. If they don't experience it themselves, they will always just turn a deaf ear to what others say.
She cherished her little daughter, so even when she was old and had no salary, she still tried her best to save money. For example, in the egg dumpling incident, she left 300,000 yuan to her little daughter after her death. The "huge sum" of money is because he is afraid that his little daughter will have no money. She is a "snobbish" person, but what she does shines with incomparable brilliance and love. When I saw this, I burst into tears. At that time, I thought of my parents. The money they had earned over a lifetime of hard work was now given to me to study abroad and provide for me to eat and drink without any regrets. However, I was just sitting there waiting to die, unable to find a job. It’s really shameful to go to work and make money with your own skills. You must seize the time and use all resources to act. She cherished her little daughter, so she told her to get a divorce quickly and stay away from her scumbag husband. Xue Zhenzhu did all the evil and bad things by herself, just to make her daughter live a better life and not be so hard. She is "snobbish" precisely because her lifetime experience has taught her how important it is to have a good man. If a good marriage and relationship are what you want, then you must have enough money to protect your life.
On the hospital bed, she whispered to Tang Jing who came to visit her: "I envy you. I wish you could also be my daughter. This man is not good. There must be someone by your side." There are many good men like He Han, you should hurry up and find another one."
Doesn't it mean that she is not a best friend who loves this smart and outstanding daughter? Why don't you want all three people to be happy? It's just that this kind of love is not as deep as the love she has for her daughter. She previously persuaded Tang Jing to leave He Han so that He Han could be with Luo Zijun. As an audience, I only felt her love for Luo Zijun as her biological daughter. But in fact, wasn't Xue Zhenzhu trying to persuade Tang Jing? Xue Zhenzhu already knew that He Han had changed his mind, that the wedding between Tang Jing and He Han would never happen, and the two people would never be able to be together again. It's just that Xue Zhenzhu's sharp mouth did not reveal her tofu heart. And as smart as Tang Jing, the reason why he was able to patiently listen to Xue Zhenzhu who stopped her at the entrance of the alley was because she knew that Xue Zhenzhu, an aunt, actually liked herself and loved her junior, but she loved herself more. Just have more daughters.
She is still brave enough to pursue her love. Even though she is over 60 years old, she still finds a wife, even if this wife still needs someone to take care of her patiently. I originally thought that she was coveting her wife's real estate and inheritance, but when she took out the signed contract that said "no marriage, no real estate or money", it was impossible to say she wasn't moved. The original image was that of a fussy, philistine and snobbish Shanghai woman, but who would have thought that she "struggled all her efforts" to take care of a new wife, but actually fell in love with this patient who needed care? Just like when Xue Zhenzhu told her two daughters that her new wife's son no longer hindered her relationship with her new wife, this "snobbish" woman said: "His son has already acquiesced. I have always taken care of your Uncle Cui." He can also see the illness. It saves them a lot of money in hiring a nanny. Besides, how can anyone be as considerate as me?" This woman who always seems snobbish and careless in her words has extremely sincere feelings. , but his behavior is truly open and honest. She said: "Actually, I have consulted a lawyer, and this contract does not count at all. Why do people sign a guarantee letter? They only sign a guarantee letter when nothing is guaranteed." Who doesn’t know that once signed, it becomes effective and has legal effect? But she still "cheated" her two daughters. That "philistine" woman who keeps saying she must take care of her "own interests" behaves in such an "innocent" and kind way.
The death of this woman, Xue Zhenzhu, brought to life the image of a Shanghai aunt who was sincere, worried about her children, and dared to pursue her own happiness without fear of others' words. And when she closed her eyes, the scenes of her care and love for her daughters and her love and care for her new and old partner during her lifetime were like a revolving door of life, which sublimated this woman's life. And in the revolving memories of relatives, what is left are probably their gratitude and thoughts for her and their understanding of every bit of what she did! This woman has a cruel and venomous mouth, but she has a loving, kind and sophisticated heart. Now when I think carefully about the unpleasant words she said at that time, they are all dealt with, and they reveal the "old man's words" that see through all kinds of situations in the world. It's just that the young "Luo Zijun" at that time probably didn't realize the cruelty of life and reality personally, and they probably didn't understand the rationality of the "old man's words".