after my message was sent, he replied to me quickly, and from his reply to my voice, I could still hear the sound of cooking.
I asked him, "Are you cooking?" He also said frankly, "Yes, I'm cooking."
thinking that he was cooking, it was definitely not so convenient to reply to the message. I told him in a joking tone, "Food is the most important thing for the people. You can finish your meal first, and then reply to my message when you are finished.
He just smiled and said, "Nothing is busy, and then he still chats with me while cooking."
Our chat lasted nearly four hours, including his cooking, eating, washing dishes, and even at the end, he could hear the clatter of water in the shower intermittently from his voice.
in many cases, the speed of his reply to messages is not seconds, and he will delay his reply for a few minutes, but his attitude of replying to messages is very positive, and the whole process of chatting gives people a very comfortable and smooth feeling.
After chatting with him, I mentioned to my girlfriend the comfort of this chatting process, probably because I suffered some injustice from the boy who I liked very much but didn't like to reply to my news recently, and the words I mentioned to my girlfriend were full of praise.
After listening to the whole process of my chat, my girlfriend told me simply, "That's the way people really want to reply to your message. They have a positive attitude towards your message. Even if he has other things to deal with, he is still a little busy, but when he sees your message, he can always take time to reply to you."
when I was cooking, I received your message. I can wait for this dish to be cooked and put on the plate, and I will reply to you before the next dish is cooked.
When I saw your message at dinner, I could swallow this meal and reply to your voice for more than ten seconds.
I received your message when I took a shower. I can reply to you as soon as I get dressed after taking a shower.
it may not be a second, and it will be ten minutes late, but I promise that the moment I saw your news was positive, and I can reply to you as soon as I am busy.
See if a person really wants to reply to your message. You can't look at it at the speed of replying to your message. The second reply doesn't mean that he just wants to chat with you. Maybe he is just idle. The most important thing is whether his attitude when replying to your message is positive or not.
I read a joke in Weibo:
I ate a five-catty watermelon and didn't wait for your reply. I think it's not that you don't like me enough, but that the watermelon is not big enough. Anyone who may have waited for the news of the person he likes can understand the feeling of scratching his heart when he doesn't reply to the news.
I once liked such a boy. Others chatted in pursuit of the speed of replying to messages, and every time I sent him a message, I was worried and thought, "He must reply to my message";
People chat in the hope that the other person can reply a few more words. My only hope is that he can reply to me in time, even if only one expression, an "hmm" or "oh";
others are competing with the person they like, but when I like him, I ignore important conditions such as personality, character and temperament, and only compete with the fact that he doesn't return my messages.
at first, when he didn't reply to my messages, I would struggle to find a bunch of excuses for him, such as he was busy at work and didn't check his mobile phone, he didn't get up, and his mobile phone was out of the internet.
even at the end, I was extremely introspective about myself, whether I was too low in emotional intelligence to communicate and he couldn't reply to messages sent to him.
But on second thought, such questions as what are you doing, are you finished with your work? There is no language barrier at all.
for a long time, I persuaded myself that he didn't reply to my messages only because he was busy or because he was cold by nature, so he was concise in the chat.
I convinced myself, "Who can judge love by whether a person replies to each other's news or not? He may still like me, but he just doesn't like talking.".
But then, by chance, I learned that he liked another girl, and I heard him from a friend who I had never known before. For example, he would tell the girl directly and talk to the girl on his own initiative, and even the ice lump in my eyes, who was too cold to confess, went to confess to others.
at this point, I realized that I had been deceiving myself. I saw him like others, only to find that he really didn't like me. He didn't reply to my message just because he didn't want to talk to me. He was cold and hot to me just because he regarded me as a spare tire, and he didn't take the initiative, didn't say no and just didn't like it.
just like you can't wake a person who pretends to be asleep, you can't wait for the news of the person who doesn't want to talk to you.
People who really want to take you home are all on the way. People who really want to reply to your news, no matter how cold and passive they are, can mutate their genes in front of you and become active and enthusiastic. Behind all the coldness that doesn't reply to the news, there is no love.
When I was brushing my circle of friends, I saw a message sent by my junior: "anglebaby has so many announcements that you have time to get married. You don't even have time to reply to messages. I think you should run for the president of the country."
Actually, no one is so busy. People who really want to reply to your message have already returned. People who don't want to reply to your message, you can't wait for his response.
The person who really wants to reply to your message is reluctant to keep you waiting for his message for a long time, or to keep your appetite. He will reply to you at the first moment when he sees the message, and sometimes he will explain to you why the message is late after a long time.
Moreover, when replying to your message, he doesn't simply ask you a question, and he replies. People who really want to continue chatting with you will also have a positive attitude to chatting with you. He won't let you solo, and he won't let you rack your brains to find the same topic. He will take the initiative to explore further topics in the chat process.
The person who wants to chat with you will make you feel comfortable in the process of chatting, because just as you are trying to have something to talk to him, he is trying to talk to you for a longer time.
So, the man who didn't reply to your message and told you to stay up all night waiting for it, probably didn't intend to reply to your message at all. Don't feel sorry for him, don't wait for his message, just stop here.
There was a comment in Netease Cloud Music that particularly touched me:
When my favorite shoes were out of size, I went to the next store to buy a beautiful coat; The noodle restaurant that I often go to is closed, so I go to another house to eat a bowl of delicious powder; If the person you like leaves, you will have a good class and work hard to earn more money.
There are countless ways to make yourself happy, and there are countless roads leading to the future. People will grow up, and everything they once indulged in will become a dispensable pastime. Nothing is irreplaceable, including you.
There is no one who has to love you, and there is no news that he won't sleep until he waits. So delete the dialog box that can't wait for a reply, and don't look for the person who doesn't reply to you. You know, people who really want to reply to your message and really want to chat with you won't do this.
sometimes, no reply is actually the biggest reply.