It’s not that you can’t fall in love. There are people who fall in love and do things successfully.

I think, in certain periods of time, don’t fall in love because you want to fall in love, but fall in love because you have someone you like and feel it’s a pity to miss them. In other periods of time, you can try your best not to wait until you like someone before falling in love, but fall in love when you want to fall in love. I believe you can figure out what is more important.

My wife and I met when we were graduate students in college. We never met as undergraduates, but we have been studying together. Each has a male and female friend. Now she is a video editor. After leaving CCTV 7, she worked in a large real estate company doing corporate influence and publicity work. I was a little bit behind, doing import and export in an international trading company, just working part-time.

She is in college and spends her free time playing basketball, reading, listening to music, etc. She also takes time out to date me. You might say it's a delay in studying, but it's not really a delay at all. Now that I’m working, when I get home, I’ll cook a meal, chat for a while, watch something I like on the computer, then lie in bed and read each other, and occasionally have a little discussion.

I think the point of those who say "You shouldn't fall in love during xxx, it will affect xxx" is that they are afraid that you will affect xxx, not that you are not allowed to fall in love. They may be paranoid that falling in love will definitely affect xxx. In fact, this does not constitute a logical relationship at all. Maybe they will use many examples to convince you.

But if you asked them to name 20 non-repeating people who had sex problems due to falling in love, I don’t think they could do it at all, maybe not even 10. But what I said above is to strengthen your confidence. How to convince your parents specifically depends on you. Use your own true feelings and actions to impress them.

Since the experience of the older generation may not be reliable, what should our generation do? If your expectation is to ask "a mainstream, standard and unmistakable answer" on Zhihu, then unfortunately, what I want to say is that you still haven't learned from the "collectivist" thinking of our parents' generation. After liberation, I have not yet learned one of the core concepts of settling down and living in the new era, which is that you are responsible for your life.

Everyone faces different circumstances and has different values. So how can someone give you a clear answer? When you want to make choices and decisions, you need to collect information and the opinions of others, but in this Internet era, these are the most indispensable. What is most lacking is the mentality of being responsible for yourself and the ability to think independently.