In recent years, various problems caused by the younger students studying abroad have caused great repercussions in society. Many people in the education field and the media have also called on: children who cannot stand on their own should not study abroad! However, due to various reasons, parents who hope that their sons will succeed and their daughters will succeed, continue to send their underage children to study abroad.

However, if the child is really sent out, the child is no longer under their eyes, and the parents are worried about whether the child will eat well abroad? Can you get used to living there? Can you keep up with your studies? Will it get worse... Many questions have arisen. Many parents feel that instead of sitting at home and worrying, it is better to accompany their children to study abroad, take care of their children's diet and daily life, and supervise their children's study and life. But "study abroad accompanying" is like a double-edged sword. It has advantages and disadvantages. The key depends on how parents deal with it...

Advantages of studying abroad

There are advantages to studying abroad Conducive to the growth of children

Mother-child accompanying visa is a visa that some countries have opened for young students to allow underage children to study in their country. However, considering the daily life and safety issues of underage children, it is also for them to be better The type of visa that is open to parents of children who want to study abroad. In the past, only Singapore offered mother-child accompanying visas. Later, with the increase in the number of young students in China, Australia, New Zealand and Malaysia also allowed mothers and children to accompany their children to study abroad. As a result, many parents used business and tourist visas to travel to the United States, Canada and the United Kingdom to accompany their children, making mother-child accompanied study abroad a popular choice in recent years. A hot spot of the problem. Whether it is good or not to accompany students studying abroad has always been a topic of concern to many people.

Generally speaking, it is beneficial for children to read together with their children. Because children are relatively young and have poor self-control ability, they are in great need of parental care during adolescence. Some countries, such as New Zealand, allow very young students, even those under ten years old, to study in New Zealand. This must be accompanied by their parents, otherwise it is unimaginable. Those children who have just entered junior high school are easily tempted by the outside world, and their emotions may change greatly due to cultural differences. Without timely guidance from their parents, their normal study and life will be affected. While accompanying their children, many parents not only take care of their children's daily life, but also study with them, tutor them in their homework, and actively communicate with them, thereby making their children's study and life abroad smooth and enjoyable.

A 15-year-old boy studied in New Zealand in 2002. A few months before enrolling, he came to New Zealand accompanied by his parents. Because his parents had planned well in advance, he first followed his mother to visit New Zealand's scenic spots and historical sites, eliminating his fear of New Zealand culture in advance. After settling down, he found a good English tutor under his mother's arrangement. , "one-on-one" to help him improve his English and understand the learning situation in New Zealand middle schools; by the time he enters school, this child's shyness and fear have basically been eliminated. After he entered middle school, his mother hired a tutor to help him improve his English in addition to studying. In less than half a year, the child's English scores improved by leaps and bounds, and he was able to communicate with teachers and classmates fluently and freely. Later, the mother arranged extracurricular activities such as playing ball and swimming according to the school's requirements and the child's preferences, making the child's life at school and at home rich and colorful, and fully integrating into the life circle of local students. As a result, the children become more confident and like their school and local environment more and more. Now, this child, who excels in studies and has a wide range of interests, is about to complete his studies at the local high school and prepare to take the college entrance examination. Of course, his relationship with his mother is getting closer and closer.

Accompanying students when studying abroad is conducive to timely communication with the school

If the children are far away from abroad and the parents are at home, due to the distance, they cannot understand the students’ learning situation in a real and timely manner. Parents are worried. If you accompany them when studying abroad, parents can often go to their children's schools to communicate with teachers and understand and guide their children's learning in a timely manner. In countries such as Singapore, New Zealand and Australia that allow accompanying students, it is common to see parents communicating with teachers in the school office.

At the same time, her husband in China also experienced a rift in their relationship because she had been away for too long, and she complained.

While studying with her, she had been troubled by trivial family matters and could not find a suitable way to relieve herself, so that she ended up under a heavy psychological pressure.

Now that she has returned to China, she has seen her former colleagues getting promoted and getting rich. However, she has been abroad for several years and can never return to her original starting point. She feels very regretful. She said that she had completely sacrificed herself during the two years of accompanying her students and it was not worth it at all.

Easy to affect children’s worldview

Among the accompanying students, there are also some families who are not well-off. They insist on sending their children to foreign countries, and then the parents come in the name of accompanying students, but In fact, I work part-time just to earn tuition for my children. There are many such "working parents" in Singapore, Malaysia and Australia.

In Singapore, some parents who accompany students have to work several jobs a day in restaurants or supermarkets because of their poor family background, just like rushing to work, traveling to several places a day. In Canada, some parents who have a "visit visa" but are "accompanying students" work even more than twelve hours a day. Although this can alleviate the pressure of studying abroad, it is actually difficult to take care of and help children. After a day's work, parents are often very tired, do not have much communication with their children, and supervise their children's learning in vain. The workplaces where those who earn tuition by working and accompanying their parents in school are often noisy circulation places, and are exposed to more of the dark side of society. Therefore, when they communicate with their children, they will unconsciously bring out some very realistic ideas. ideas, which can easily affect a child’s worldview. Some motivated children will work hard and study well when they see their parents working hard. However, many children will become disgusted when they see their parents working and earning money every day, talking about having more money every day, and talking about how expensive their tuition is. The idea of ??learning. Parents are under great pressure at work. When they see their children's academic performance is slightly poor, they get angry. Over time, the children develop a rebellious mentality. On the contrary, the children's psychological pressure increases, they lack self-motivation, and they cannot meet the requirements of studying abroad. Purpose.

Solving the negative problems of accompanying students

There are ways to solve these negative problems caused by accompanying students. The key depends on how parents do it.

First of all, parents should let go of the burden of "overseas cultural differences". Many parents feel that as they are getting older, it would be shameful and impossible for them to learn the language, and they are not willing to get in touch with the local society at all. The longer this situation lasts, the wider the gap between oneself and the local society will become, and the channels for information will become narrower and narrower, which creates barriers to communication with children. Some parents are very open-minded. In their forties, they still carry their schoolbags to learn foreign languages, actively participate in local social activities, and understand local customs. This is very helpful for educating their children.

For those parents who come to study abroad after resigning, some of them have planned well in advance what they will do during their studies. For example, you can use the time spent with you to develop your expertise and write some high-quality research articles and research projects; you can also contact some domestic newspapers and periodicals to become overseas writers. There are also some parents who set a goal for themselves and must learn something that they think is important or that they are interested in during the period of accompanying them, such as English, junior accounting, music or calligraphy, etc. These are very beneficial ways to relieve inner loneliness and maintain physical and mental health.

Many parents who work to earn tuition are also concerned about their children’s emotions. If allowed, they try to arrange their working hours during their children’s school hours. Even if they earn less money, they still hope to spend more time with their children. Share your learning experiences. Therefore, the quality of accompanying children still depends to a large extent on the parents themselves.

Experts remind: You should carefully consider whether to accompany you to study abroad

Understand the policies of each country

Before going abroad to study abroad, you must understand the policies of each country in detail.

There are two main types of overseas study accompanying visas: First, couple accompanying visas. This type of accompanying visa exists in most countries where students study abroad. The application qualifications are mainly formal spouses, and boyfriends and girlfriends or unmarried couples are not recognized. The other is a parent-accompanied visa, which only exists in some countries, such as Australia and Singapore. Relevant policies in Singapore stipulate that it is possible to accompany a child who is a spouse or a parent, but the latter must be a maternal relative of a child under the age of 16.

Many countries do not allow part-time work to accompany students

Although it is difficult to find job opportunities for students, Singapore is still the most lenient among many popular countries for studying abroad. Policies for accompanying students in other countries are often very strict. Countries such as Germany, France, New Zealand, Canada, and the United Kingdom do not have clear accompanying visas. However, parents and relatives can apply for a visit visa to accompany students abroad, and the period is generally three months; According to the regulations of some countries, if you have multiple entry and exit records, you can relax it to half a year, but these countries do not allow you to accompany readers to work.

Most countries stipulate that those who apply to accompany a student must have a certain amount of bank deposit as a deposit to ensure financial security during the period of accompanying the student.

Before studying abroad, you must be fully mentally prepared.

Before studying abroad, you must be fully mentally prepared. Although some parents have good jobs and high academic qualifications at home, once they go abroad, they can only work as restaurant waiters, cashiers, etc., or even become full-time housewives. Not everyone can bear this huge psychological gap; if the family's financial situation is not good, the accompanying mother will also be under greater pressure.

Even so, the benefits of accompanying students should not be overshadowed. Many people in the study abroad industry say that parents' accompanying students is beneficial to the supervision of underage international students and the management of their children's daily life. It can also eliminate the loneliness of young international students and avoid the lack of family affection. The most important thing is that parents can provide guidance to their children both academically and psychologically. Some young international students are in adolescence and have a strong rebellious mentality. If their parents are around, they can provide corresponding guidance to prevent their children from going astray.