Some key points and experiences from the early stages of rebooting to the 100-day breakthrough

Time flies so fast. Half a year has passed since the last time I wrote a post. It’s time to share this After half a year of research and experience, this time I will mainly talk about the most difficult period of time for quitting ------- the first 100 days after you decide to quit.

It needs to be explained: the one hundred days here mainly refers to the time it takes to enter the stable period of rebooting. For me, it is almost one hundred days, so I use one hundred days as the title, but there are many more details The length of time varies from person to person. Some brothers take 70 days, some take 100 days, and some take half a year. The difference in length of time does not matter much; these points should be considered universal.

1. The same difficulties in the early stage of rebooting

1. Withdrawal reactions or recurrence of symptoms

I think many brothers in this forum have this problem. I know, so no need to explain it again. Generally, newcomers will be mentally prepared after understanding the withdrawal reactions, so that they can avoid "relapse due to doubts", but for the third category of veteran brothers, this problem has a greater impact.

These old brothers may have recovered well, but their relapse happened at a time when their physical condition was not good. As a result, many symptoms that were almost as good suddenly broke out again, which makes them easy to hit. Their confidence in quitting sex. As mentioned before, regardless of whether their mentality is on the verge of collapse after breaking the habit, their fighting spirit has plummeted. In this case, if the symptoms recur at this time, it will really make things worse, and it will be very easy to get up and down. The heart even betrays the desire and becomes the puppet of the inner demon.

The case that impressed me the most was that of a brother who had to quit masturbation. To me, that brother was a senior person who quit masturbating. His situation was similar. After breaking the habit, he had serious problems. As the symptoms continued to occur, his unstable mentality completely collapsed. I have read his replies to Teacher Feixiang’s posts. They were full of negative energy, as well as abuse and misunderstandings about Teacher Feixiang. In addition, he also began to He posted some posts that slandered rebooters... This shocked those brothers who admired him, but we should also pay attention to the fact that we can get enough warning from his case, that is, the mentality after relapse can really change. Extremely bad, even different! If you don’t want to be careful of the inner demon’s puppet, then you must never break the precept, and you must show the righteous morale of preferring death to breaking the precept!

For those veteran brothers, the first difficulty is whether they can be mentally prepared to face the recurrence of symptoms after relapse, especially the recurrence of severe symptoms. This mental preparation must be started immediately after relapse, instead of waiting for embarrassing regrets after the symptoms reappear. You must stabilize your determination to quit at this time. I suggest that you read more rebooting articles written by brothers who have failed in rebooting for a long time and have succeeded again, memorize the good sentences in them, and recite them constantly. This way you will hopefully be extremely determined when symptoms recur. Here, I recommend a rebooting article to this kind of brothers. It is a post written by a brother named "Zen Monk". The title is "Reflections on the 550th Day of Rebooting". I believe it can help you regain your original intention of rebooting.

2. The peak period of relapse after the dormant period of desire

When new people start to quit, they often read articles about the dangers of masturbation and realize the adverse effects of masturbation on life. So I made up my mind to start quitting sex. This is their first landmark enlightenment on the road to rebooting. After gaining enlightenment, desires enter a dormant period. During this period, there are very few evil thoughts and the difficulty of giving up thoughts is very small. However, the good times do not last long. After the kidney qi slowly recovers, , the body's state of "deficiency leads to hyperactivity" begins to show. At that time, evil thoughts are really coming one after another. If you don't pay attention, your desires will explode extremely violently. At this time, a tough battle to give up thoughts begins, and many newcomers cannot Break through this level.

On the other hand, not only newcomers, the peak period of relapse has a stronger impact on the first and third categories of brothers: on the one hand, they lose enthusiasm, morale and determination after relapse, and they themselves even I don’t feel that their mental state is actually very unstable; on the other hand, their body will also return to "deficiency leads to overexertion", because relapses are continuous relapses, which will cause great damage to the kidney qi. It is not surprising that "deficiency leads to hyperactivity". In these two aspects of difficulty, the magic test they faced was actually more difficult than that of newcomers.

Of course, they also have advantages. After all, they have not worked in vain for such a long time, and they have accumulated a certain amount of awareness of rebooting. But in general, it is more difficult for them to reboot.

The above two points should be the biggest difficulties in rebooting during this period. There are also other difficulties, such as the harmless theory remaining in the mind, the resources that are reluctant to delete on the computer, etc., but these two points, especially It is the latter point, which should be the main reason why many people cannot break through.

Let’s talk about the peak period of relapse in detail below. The peak period of relapse can also be called the peak period of desire. Generally speaking, the first peak period of relapse after quitting is often caused by the recovery of kidney qi. This is also the strongest attack of desire after rebooting. It feels a bit like a drug addict trying to relapse. But before entering the stable period of rebooting, in addition to this peak period of relapse, there will also be several peak periods of desire, large and small. The main reason for entering this period is basically direct sexual desire, or encountering temptation. Of course, the environment is also closely related to the physical condition. For example: nocturnal emissions, especially after frequent nocturnal emissions, eating and drinking for several days in a row, staying up late every day, being often depressed, being alone for a long time and feeling bored, etc., will all lead to short-term desire. Expansion, leading to a tough battle of annihilation. Therefore, the biggest difficulty in the early stages of rebooting is actually many times, not just one. This is one of them. The second is that these peak periods of relapse have an obvious characteristic: each time they are weaker than the last, not every time they are as strong as the peak period of the first relapse, but if we do not strengthen the abstinence of thoughts and continue to be aware of thoughts, we will still relapse. .

Thirdly, based on my own experience and the cases I have seen, the peak period for newbies to relapse for the first time after relinquishment is about three weeks, while for experienced rebooters after relapse, There may be no desire dormancy period, and you may directly enter the peak period of relapse. After the first peak period of relapse, the desire is relatively weak during the thirty to fifty days period, but it is stronger than the desire during the dormant period of desire. Approximately between fifty and seventy days, there will be a second peak period of desire. This attack of desire is actually quite strong, but the strength lies in its "continuity". From my personal experience It is said that one characteristic of the peak of desire during this period is that it lasts for about a week. During this period, a weak thought or a relaxed mood may lead to the emergence of desire. Before you can recover from the thought, the next wave of inner demons will come up again. If you give up the thought a little slower, it will There will be a sense of struggle and depression. However, the energy of each wave of evil thoughts during this period is lower than the peak of the first relapse, and the possibility of surviving is much greater.

After seventy days, the desire will go into dormancy. At this time, if there is no special stimulation, the desire will be very weak, and rebooting will feel easier. However, this period will not be too long. A few days ago or a few days after, it is very likely that you will experience the third peak period of relinquishment. At this time, if you have enough enlightenment and abstinence is not too bad, you can pass it smoothly. After the peak period of relapse for the third time is passed, the desire will further weaken. Generally speaking, it is relatively easy to quit for half a year unless you deliberately touch the high voltage line of the reboot battlefield.

(Here, I recommend everyone to watch the 82nd season of "Quiting as Good Medicine", which details the ten disciplines on the battlefield of rebooting) The situation of rebooting after half a year will have a big watershed, talent. Well, those brothers who are strong in taking action on the rebooting articles can enter the stable phase of rebooting, and they can reboot thoroughly and feel pure and great happiness again, while other brothers who have poor health care and poor emotional management can Brothers, it is not easy to stabilize their rebooting state. Of course, they will not break the reboot immediately. They may even reboot for a long period of time. However, their rebooting state will stagnate, and it will be difficult for their ability to abstain from thinking to improve to the next level. It is difficult to break through the three-year mark.

2. How to break through the 100-day mark

1. Keep studying rebooting articles every day, memorize the good sentences in them, and think about them again and again if nothing happens

First The first one is the most important thing. Although I dare not say that if you do the first one, you can definitely break through the 100-day mark, but this one does not work. It is basically impossible to break through the 100-day mark, unless your religious beliefs are very pious and you really regard breaking the precept as a Something worse than death. Let’s analyze this in detail below.

The first thing is to insist on studying rebooting articles every day. This is actually very simple to do and it doesn’t take long. Just take notes carefully every day and spend half an hour to an hour.

Of course, for brothers who are deeply intoxicated, the intensity can be increased, but these brothers often have very serious mental decline, so I suggest that these brothers should look at more pictures of rebooting while reading articles on rebooting. Of course, there are many brothers who cannot do this. It is not because of the instigation of inner demons, but because of human laziness or enthusiasm has faded, making it impossible to adjust in time. However, no matter how difficult it is, we must adjust. This is not guaranteed. I won’t talk about the following, rebooting is bound to fail.

When studying rebooting articles, there are two important points. One is to keep a calm mind when studying, and take a rebooting article seriously, so that the absorption rate will be better. Moreover, this calm mental state is also very conducive to rebooting. As far as I know, an impetuous mental state is often accompanied by boredom, and boredom is one of the biggest examiners of rebooting.

The second thing is to take notes when studying. Of course, there are also details to take notes, that is, write calmly and slowly, and don’t write in a sloppy way. Because handwriting reflects a person’s mental state. Scrawled handwriting corresponds to an impetuous mentality. Writing slowly will make it easier to calm down. In this way, during the process of copying rebooting notes, it is easy to “see in”. It is easy to understand what the rebooting articles are saying.

In addition to these, one of the biggest features of note-taking is that it is very easy to have epiphanies during the process of taking notes. This is an advantage that cannot be matched by just reading and writing. Especially for those brothers whose mental capacity has declined a lot, they must memorize more so that they can better understand rebooting articles.

In addition to making it easier to gain insights, the biggest function of taking notes is to use them for review. There are many kinds of review. I think the more efficient review method is to try to memorize it, because it is easy to get distracted just by reading the notes. After all, it is the content that you have already written once. It is easy to lose patience and absorb it like this. The rate is very low, and the biggest advantage of memorizing things is that they can be recalled anytime and anywhere.

We have been infected with bad habits for so many years, and our minds are full of dirty thoughts. Not only evil thoughts, but also others such as hatred, jealousy, complaining, inferiority, pride, etc. are actually very harmful. Heavy, and after our minds are covered by these dirty thoughts, we are in great need of positive energy, but it is difficult for us to generate positive energy on our own at this time. At this time, we should consciously recite the sentences in the rebooting notes, and Repeating them when you have nothing to do is very helpful for our souls. For example, take the following sentence:

"Every good deed is as precious as a piece of gold. Be a kind person, have a heart of gold, and live pure, pure and pure."

This sentence about rebooting is what I think about most often. Whenever I have a selfish mentality, I will think of this sentence in time and adjust my mentality to a peaceful one. On the other hand, if nothing happens, I will often repeat this sentence, letting my soul bathe in the positive energy contained in "this sentence", and receive a spiritual massage and baptism. In fact, every sentence we like about rebooting is very connected to our souls, just like each of our close friends. If you have nothing to do, look at these old friends more and you will be greatly encouraged.

2. Insist on aerobic exercise every day

Many people may associate aerobic exercise with health care and ignore its great significance in maintaining the rebooting state, but the fact is On the topic, the highest state of health preservation is to nourish the mind and unite the body and mind. Aerobic exercise is actually very beneficial to regulating our mind. Of course: sitting meditation and standing postures are also very good, but they are static exercises. Many people are very impetuous in the early stage of rebooting and find it difficult to calm down. In this case, you can start by insisting on aerobic exercise. In addition, aerobic exercise also has an extremely important role, that is, it can relieve stress and negative emotions.

Many brothers feel extremely distressed after breaking the precepts and cannot bear the failure, so they break the rules and break the law. After breaking through again and again, I no longer have the slightest feeling about rebooting. A good way to do this is to insist on aerobic exercise. During jogging or brisk walking, look at the beautiful leaves on the roadside and take a few deep breaths. Oxygen, listen to music, forget all the worries and worries, the sun shines through the leaves, and we seem to be back to ourselves when we were most young and innocent. That feeling is extremely beautiful and can help us get through difficulties when we are depressed. .

Third, aerobic exercise accelerates blood circulation, helps eliminate toxins, has an extremely good effect on sleep, and is also very effective in adjusting the abnormal state of "deficiency leads to hyperactivity", which is also beneficial to rebooting.

But there are also important points in aerobic exercise, that is, the amount cannot be too much, but it cannot be too little. Generally, it must be sustained for a certain period of time to be effective. I have tried it many times and found that half an hour is most suitable for me. In the past, the amount of exercise was either too little or too much.

Of course, there are also things to pay attention to during this half hour, that is, you must control the amount of sweat, such as jogging. When I feel that my body starts to heat up, I stop and walk slowly until I calm down a little. Then continue running, so that the level of slight sweating can be controlled, and the exercise effect will be better. If you don't control the amount of sweat and hit hard, it can easily cause nocturnal emissions, which is not worth the gain.