1 He began to pay special attention to you from time to time. After getting married for a few years, the life of the two people has become very dull. Basically, they just come home from work to meet each other every day, and there are not many topics to talk about. They are nothing more than trivial things in life and what they have seen at work. Basically, there will be no jq interaction, and there will be no special expressions on special days such as birthdays and anniversaries. Although there are few quarrels, there are no sparks. In short, the life between husband and wife can be said to be extremely bleak. But I don't know from which day on, he suddenly took care of you from time to time, just like a different person. For example, when you get home, you say you want to cook for you or invite you out for a big meal. You offer to send you to work early in the morning, or you are suddenly surprised with flowers and gifts ... You should pay attention at this time. Although it is possible that he wants to warm up your increasingly cold feelings, it is also very likely that he cheated! I feel guilty because I have done something wrong to you, so I make it up to you from time to time. This kind of behavior often happens when he just cheated, because at this time he still feels guilty about his behavior. Going home later and later, the frequency is getting less and less. Although I didn't have much to say to you every day, I basically went home on time, even if I occasionally worked overtime or entertained, I would tell you. But gradually, you find that he comes home later and later, and the frequency is getting less and less. The reasons for coming home late or not are also varied. Today, the leaders invited us to dinner, and tomorrow our colleagues celebrated their birthdays. The day after tomorrow, we will go to other provinces for a business trip ... If this happens, we will pay attention to it. Of course, it takes time to spend with someone who is cheating, and people's energy is limited. He goes to work during the day, so he has to take time out at night to spend time with his new lover. If he comes home on time every day honestly, he suddenly starts to come home late or not, so it will make people suspicious. Suddenly paying special attention to one's appearance image, I have to admit that one will pay more attention to one's appearance image than usual when in love, after all, everyone wants to leave a good impression in the mind of his favorite object. So even a sloppy and casual man will pay more attention to his image when he is in love. Men who used to be untidy suddenly spent a lot of time on their appearance and began to change their dressing style. I began to pay special attention to whether my hairstyle is beautiful or not, and began to care about whether my facial skin is very poor. This 36-degree change is undoubtedly sending you a bad signal. Who is he dressing up for? If it's not you, it's probably someone he would rather come home late every day to see. The mobile phone has become the key protection object. For the derailed man, the mobile phone is undoubtedly like a time bomb. Once it is seen by his wife, it will explode. However, they can't do without mobile phones, because they need to keep in frequent contact with the derailed objects through them, so the secrecy of mobile phones has become a top priority when they return home. When I get home, I will never throw my mobile phone out of the coffee table as before, but always put it in my pocket and take it out from time to time for fear of missing any important news. They often set their mobile phones to silent or vibrating, so that you won't easily find messages coming and going. As for the lock screen password, the WeChat password is of course set, but they are all unexpected numbers. If he suddenly treats you like a thief because of a mobile phone, then you should pay attention! The more money you hide, the more money you spend. When you are in love, you need to spend the most money, especially lovers. How many people don't want money? So if a man cheats, he must spend money. Money is needed for telephone calls, dinners, flowers and gifts, and going out for fun ... Where does this money come from? Of course I took it from home. If your man would have handed over all his income to you, suddenly the money he started to hand over was much less. But he's trying to prevaricate you with various reasons, so it's obvious that he's hiding his private money and is going to use it elsewhere. If the financial power at home was originally held by men, but you suddenly find that the expenses at home are getting bigger and bigger. He said he couldn't spend all his money, so he had to wonder if he was doing something shady behind your back. In marriage, most women are still vulnerable groups after all, and once they get married, they will suffer far more harm than men. Therefore, women need to keep more heart in marriage. It's not that we're paranoid, we're obsessed with our men, just that we have to be more concerned so that we can get less hurt. How to judge whether a man has cheated? 2 1. He obviously cares and pays more attention to you than usual, especially those aspects that he has not paid any attention to before. For example, suddenly put forward to go shopping with you (he hates shopping), invite one of your girlfriends to dinner (he hates you as a friend) and so on. Analysis: This is a sign of his guilt, which usually occurs at the earliest stage of "changing his mind". It is a subconscious psychological compensation, mainly to make him feel better. 2, inexplicably began to buy you gifts, but he is not a romantic or a person who loves to please you like this. 3. He suddenly becomes moody and often goes looking for trouble. No matter what you do, he can always pick bones out of eggs and treat you with a "provocative" attitude all day. Analysis: This is a person's reaction when he is guilty. He subconsciously knows that he is "wrong", so if you can prove that you are "wrong" again and again, psychologically he will feel even. 4. Some of his behaviors will make you doubt. Maybe you can't tell exactly what is wrong, but it just feels "weird". At this time, you might as well trust a woman's intuition! 5, as long as you "fight back" and sometimes even just pretend, he immediately said, "Then break up; Then it's over. "I don't have the heart to communicate with you or propose any solutions to the problem. 6. As long as you leave him for a period of time, such as going on a business trip, "going home" or traveling with friends, he will appear inexplicably excited. Of course, he will not feel like a "farewell", but become more emotional, such as constantly helping you prepare your luggage, being too concerned about the journey, or showing exaggerated depression. 7. Indifference. I don't like talking, and I don't like communicating. But when you think about it carefully, nothing happened that particularly annoyed him! 8. The taste suddenly changed. He began to enjoy different music, movies, books, join different health clubs, and even care about things that he didn't want to pay attention to before, such as entertainment stars and cats and dogs. ? 9, suddenly began to be confident. Analysis: If you don't find that other things have stimulated his self-confidence (such as promotion), then he is likely to get psychological satisfaction from the aspect of "man's charm". 1. Start picking on you and loudly announce "I hate this", but he may have "forgotten", which is exactly what he admired most about you. 11. I have no interest in the "intimate contact" between the two people. I would rather watch TV alone at night and wait for you to sleep first or simply work overtime and not come back. 12. Keep talking about sex, which you have never tried at all. 13. Use new words, tell different jokes and express different opinions. 14. Start holding you to discuss some topics that you are obviously not good at, such as sports, such as cars. As long as you show confusion and ignorance, you will start to laugh and show disgust and disdain. Analysis: This is that he began to deliberately distance himself from you on the spiritual level, hoping that you would have the idea that "we don't match" and "I don't match him". 15. I began to care about protecting my spiritual privacy, changed my password, and forbid you to flip any of his things. 16. When you are particularly kind to him, he will inexplicably show shame and dodge, and he doesn't know how to face you. 17. Mention someone's name more than once in a dream. 18. When I opened my eyes in the morning and saw you or the surrounding environment, I looked a little confused and surprised. Analysis: Don't let go of his little expression, which is a typical performance of his "sleeping in two beds" and "living two lives" for a while. 19. Your friends began to ask you by innuendo, how have you been recently? Analysis: Friends often notice some changes in him that you have neglected. If you find that the attention of friends around you to your private lives suddenly increases, it is likely to be "problematic". 2. Your influence on him is getting smaller and smaller. In the past, he would ask your advice on work, dealing with friends and shopping, but now even if you offer some good suggestions, he won't take it to heart.