With the rapid development of modern economy, the accelerated pace of life and the increase of competitive pressure, people's psychological quality is increasingly demanding. 2 1 century is also a highly competitive society. Everyone wants to succeed. Whether a person can succeed depends largely on whether he has a healthy psychology of success, and a healthy psychology of success depends on cultivation. Middle school students, in particular, enjoy the rich material life brought by social development, but the pressure they face is unprecedented. Therefore, it is not only the duty of every educator, but also the urgent task to cultivate the healthy and successful psychology of middle school students. How to cultivate middle school students' healthy success psychology? The author thinks:
First of all, teachers should have a healthy psychological quality of success, and can constantly improve according to actual needs. If teachers want to have a healthy and successful psychological quality, they must have a reserve of mental health education ideas. Suhomlinski, a famous great educator in the former Soviet Union, gave teachers the most advice that they should learn psychology well. He pointed out: "Without a solid psychological foundation, we can't talk about educational literacy. Some teachers think that psychology is a boring science and cannot be applied in schools. We are very concerned about making psychology a real guide for teachers' practical work. " To this end, he advocated that teachers should constantly read new books on psychology, often know the research results of psychologists, and insisted for a long time that teachers should write "educational appraisal" to students regularly and attentively. These long-term practices have improved teachers' psychological literacy and psychological education ability. Therefore, I think we must learn a lesson. As a teacher, in teaching, we all know that to give students a glass of water, we must first have a bucket of water; Then, the same is true of middle school students who meet the challenge of 2 1 century; If students don't have such or so many successful psychological experiences, how can teachers guide students to taste the joy of success? Therefore, every teacher should deepen and broaden the knowledge of psychology through re-learning on the basis of the original knowledge of psychology. In this way, in the process of imparting knowledge, students can be better inspired and told how to treat themselves, their achievements and others.
Second, teachers should help students set up lofty aspirations.
First of all, teachers should educate students to establish a correct world outlook from the psychological requirements of students in their usual class work and teaching work. The middle school stage is a period when the world outlook is gradually formed. Helping middle school students gradually form a correct world outlook will grasp the root of cultivating healthy psychology. Practice shows that with a correct world outlook, students can put social needs and spiritual needs in the first place, devote themselves to study and work as masters, correctly handle the relationship between personal obligations and rights, make contributions to society, and experience satisfaction and happiness from it. A correct world outlook can help middle school students stick to the right direction, face all difficulties and setbacks bravely, be full of confidence at all times and maintain a positive emotional state. A correct world outlook can help middle school students find the right way to realize their ideals. When they encounter difficulties in their studies, they can consciously adjust and control their emotions and study hard in order to succeed.
Secondly, in daily work, teachers should start from students' cognitive requirements, guide students to learn from people with lofty ideals at home and abroad, and help students set up lofty ideals from an early age. What is an ideal? The ideal is related to the goal, and it is possible to achieve it. Liu Shahe, a famous poet, said: "Ideal is like a compass on a ship, which guides the road to success in life and gives strength to those who strive for progress. A man without ideals is like a boat lost in the sea, which is in danger of sinking at any time, and he will not get more opportunities in life ... ". As the saying goes, "People who have no ambition will not stand firm." Li Dazhao has chosen the ambition of "devoting himself to the cause of national liberation" since he was a teenager. When Zhou Enlai was a teenager, he made the ambition of "studying for the rise of China". When Mozart was five years old, he made a firm wish: to practice hard and become an excellent musician in the future ... These people with lofty ideals have made great achievements as we all know. Therefore, teachers should encourage students not to be persistent, and establish a Chang Zhi. Only by establishing lofty ideals from an early age can we become the pillars of the motherland.
Thirdly, teachers should help students form good psychological quality.
Good psychological quality is a prerequisite for a person's success. The reason why psychological quality plays an important role in a person's' growth' is because a person can't have smooth sailing in his career and studies. Throughout the ages, only firm confidence and strong interest can arouse a person's strong enterprising spirit, inspire perseverance and tenacious will, and thus provide a strong driving force for a person to succeed. Qu Yuan was exiled and wrote Li Sao. Sima Qian was imprisoned to write historical records. Dante wrote the Divine Comedy in a difficult situation; Faced with numerous failures and long-term poverty, Jack London insisted on writing, and finally published his first novel "To the Hunter" in 1899. Later, he became a great writer with many famous works. ....., these people, if they don't have good psychological quality, they can't accomplish great achievements, and they can't be so immortal. Therefore, if a student wants to succeed in his future career, he must cultivate their good psychological quality of optimism, cheerfulness, self-confidence and self-improvement from an early age. As a teacher, in the usual teaching and education work, we should also attach great importance to the education and guidance of students' psychological quality, strive to forge their strong will and strong character, and let students try their best to do every little thing around them; And warn students not to be pessimistic and disappointed, and not to give up halfway, no matter what difficulties and hardships they encounter.
Fourthly, teachers should help students to establish harmonious interpersonal relationships.
(1) Teachers should let students know that socializing is the basic requirement of middle school students, and harmonious interpersonal relationships can make your lonely psychology suddenly enlightened and your depression swept away. With the development and change of society and the increase of only children, the interpersonal relationship of middle school students is also changing quietly. In addition, middle school students generally have the contradiction between physical precocity and social late maturity, which makes them always consider problems from the perspective of self, look at the shortcomings of others, and often communicate with their classmates with arrogance, jealousy, suspicion, rebellion and hostility; Facts have proved that people with these unhealthy psychology often encounter setbacks when interacting with others, not only hurting themselves, but also hurting people around them. Therefore, teachers should guide students to understand which interpersonal communication mode is desirable and which interpersonal communication mode is not. Eric Burnett, a famous American psychologist, divided interpersonal communication into four types according to his basic attitude towards himself and others: First, I am not good-hello, I can't-you can. Second, I am good-you are not good, I can-you can't. Third, I'm not good-neither are you, I can't-and neither can you. Fourth, I am good-hello, I can do it-you can do it. The first three modes are not desirable in interpersonal communication, which easily leads to psychological frustration. Teachers should guide middle school students to establish the final interpersonal communication mode, handle the relationship between classmates with a positive, optimistic and healthy attitude, and realize the all-round development of people.
(2) Harmonious interpersonal relationship is the basis of cultivating middle school students' healthy and successful psychology, and harmonious interpersonal communication is conducive to their healthy physical and mental development. After entering middle school, many students feel that they have grown up and have their own unique views on people and things around them. Many young students have changed their views on their parents, and even "look down" on their parents and contradict them. At this time, teachers should consciously cultivate students' positive emotions, guide students to strengthen self-control and learn to be considerate of their parents. On the other hand, teachers should teach students to adjust and control their negative emotions, and use relaxation, transfer, venting and humor to make them feel happy as soon as possible; In this way, teachers can effectively cultivate students' healthy success psychology after helping students establish harmonious interpersonal relationships.
(3) Hamachek, a humanistic psychologist, believes that only by maintaining a good relationship between teachers and students and cultivating a harmonious educational atmosphere can students feel psychologically safe, without fear of being punished for failure and without flinching. Activity is the link to build a harmonious interpersonal relationship. In colorful activities, middle school students can get in touch with knowledge that they can't get in school and books, enrich their life experiences, and cultivate positive and beneficial feelings such as sense of obligation, responsibility and honor. At the same time, in colorful activities, teachers pay more attention to cultivating students' self-confidence, willpower and achievement motivation, and pay attention to the use of encouraging evaluation and appreciation education, which can encourage students to see their own strengths and advantages and strive for success with confidence.
Fifth, teachers should actively create scenes with successful psychology for students.
Teachers should guide students to correctly treat setbacks in study and life. Although it is said that "failure is the mother of success", repeated failures can easily lead to self-denial of middle school students. Therefore, in daily study and life, teachers should purposefully set up some difficult situations so that students can find ways to solve problems. When students really don't understand, on the one hand, teachers should guide students to discuss and analyze together in time, help them analyze the subjective and objective causes of setbacks, find some successful factors in failure, and then find ways to solve problems. On the other hand, teachers should try their best to reduce the psychological pressure of middle school students by combining society, schools and families, so that they can let go of their burdens and turn passive learning into active learning. Practice has proved that believing that "success is the mother of success" is more in line with the reality of growing middle school students. Of course, growth needs motivation. In the face of failure, students need the comfort or encouragement of adults most, and expect the fair evaluation and positive affirmation of teachers most. Sincere encouragement of "very good, try again" can make failure breed success; "Don't be proud when you are far away", blindly warning and accusing will make the joy of success disappear and even lose the courage to try again. As long as teachers encourage students in their growth, students can face all setbacks correctly.
Teachers should make full use of psychological counseling activities to adjust students' psychology. If a person wants to change himself, he must have a firm oath that he can certainly do; To achieve a successful and brilliant life, you must have your own vows. In psychological counseling activities, proper use of psychological vows can not only stimulate students' fighting spirit and adjust their emotions, but also better enable students to continue their thoughts and actively form positive self-awareness in behavior. As Helen Keller said, "When you feel a force pushing you to soar, you shouldn't crawl." Making full use of vows is not only the accumulation of exquisite language, but also the continuation of positive power, and it is also a powerful guarantee for forming a healthy and successful psychology.
In short, middle school students are in a critical period of "shifting gears" when their self-education power is gradually strengthened and the role of others' education power is gradually weakened. It is every teacher's unshirkable responsibility to pay attention to the mental health education of middle school students, cultivate their healthy and successful psychology, and make them have healthy physique and good psychological quality, be proactive, optimistic, self-confident, self-disciplined and self-reliant, not afraid of difficulties and setbacks, and have the ability to adapt to various living environments.