As gregarious animals, interpersonal communication is not only the need of gregarious nature, but also the most basic social activity of human beings. Only by actively and continuously engaging in this activity can people keep up with the pace of social progress at any time and maintain a normal and sound social life. This is essential for people of all ages, especially the elderly. This is because the specific life circle of the elderly is relatively narrow, and there are relatively few opportunities for interpersonal communication, which is easy to alienate from society. In order to overcome this unfavorable situation, the elderly should pay attention to the desire to maintain positive interpersonal communication and constantly expand the scope of interpersonal communication.
The elderly actively engage in interpersonal communication can bring many benefits: first, they constantly acquire new knowledge and information to adapt to the ever-changing changes and development of modern society; Secondly, "don't forget old friends, make new friends", exchange ideas, feelings and experiences in old age, and get rid of loneliness and being left out; Third, it is conducive to the health and longevity of the elderly. Foreign medical experts have found that it is difficult for the elderly who are isolated, self-enclosed, have neither spouse nor friends, and have no social interaction to have a good mood and their life expectancy is greatly shortened. Finally, maintaining positive interpersonal communication is conducive to the elderly to constantly understand themselves and adjust their relationship with others. Because this ability is not naturally formed, nor can it be achieved by an individual alone, but can be achieved and realized through interaction with others.
Making friends is good for health and longevity.
Making friends widely is a good way for the elderly to prevent loneliness and benefit their health and longevity. Old classmates, old colleagues, distant relatives and close neighbors are the objects of communication; Make friends with old people, young people and children and enjoy different fun-fun of the same age, fun of forgetting the New Year, fun of playing with grandchildren. Wife and family should be the closest and most intimate friends. Making friends is an interactive relationship. You should be not only willing to make friends, but also good at making friends.
First of all, we should cultivate our interest. Wide range of interests, many activities, frequent contacts, and naturally many friends. There are chess friends, card-rubbing friends, fishing friends, writing and painting friends ... the elderly should actively participate in one or two recreational activities and make friends with chess and literature ... enjoy it.
Walking is the best way to make friends and the simplest and most beneficial activity for the elderly. In the morning and evening, my wife will accompany me, and three or five friends will meet or freely combine "the old, the young and the young". I will walk freely and leisurely in the streets, parks, green spaces and pools by the lake in the city center.
Second, we must overcome excessive self-esteem. Self-esteem is the * * * nature of the elderly, but too much self-esteem will affect people's communication and even make them "lonely". Young people are lively and playful, and sometimes when interacting with the elderly, they like to liven up the atmosphere with some teasing or well-meaning ridicule beyond their qualifications. If the old people think it is detrimental to their self-esteem and take it seriously, they will keep the young people away from you. In fact, young people are willing to make friends with the elderly, which is a great respect for the elderly. Its sincere respect comes from the heart, and its kind teasing shows the fun of "forgetting to make friends." Therefore, the elderly should have proper self-esteem. You are more or less "old-fashioned" in dealing with young people. Since it is good for physical and mental health, what's wrong with laughing? Infected with the vitality of youth, I don't know the coming of old age, isn't it the beautiful wish that the elderly yearn for?
Third, we should be more modest and tolerant. Modesty and tolerance are virtues of being a man. People who can be modest and tolerant are very popular and many people associate with them. In the activities of making friends, people who are competitive everywhere often turn red-faced and break up in discord because of a trivial matter. Some people make mistakes when playing poker, and playing mahjong is a controversial issue, so criticizing people, even swearing, throwing cards and overturning tables, is bound to ruin friendship and damage health.
Communication between friends will inevitably lead to some misunderstandings and contradictions. We should not care too much about this, but take the initiative to be humble and understand. Taking part in entertainment competitions should aim at learning skills and increasing skills, and adhere to friendship first and competition second.
Fourth, we should pay attention to the interaction between relatives and neighbors. Wife, children and grandchildren are close friends. As the saying goes, "young couples will always be partners", "husband and wife" is affection, and "partner" is friendship. When the children grow up and the old couple are at home, it is inevitable that they will be lonely and deserted. Try to live an active life: walk together, chat together and watch TV together; Playing poker, playing chess, cooking with the kitchen ... from time to time, we will also compete for the result. When children come home, they "talk to their father about their work problems" and "talk to their mother about their troubles in life". In this regard, the elderly don't have to be paternalistic, just be good advisers, make suggestions and let their children make their own decisions. Grandchildren surround their knees, and grandparents tell them stories, play toys, play games ... and enjoy infinite childlike interest. Harmonious family life enlivens friendship, deepens family ties, and allows you to enjoy family happiness on earth.
Neighbors are friends who go out to meet. Improving neighborhood relations is the common aspiration of the elderly. Old people invite their neighbors to participate in birthday celebrations, and children send eggs and longevity noodles to families on their birthdays ... take care of each other and live in harmony, so that they can stay away from the embarrassment and troubles caused by neighborhood conflicts and experience the friendship between "close neighbors" and the convenience and fun in life.