"As long as anything happens to the other party, the other party will go through fire and water." Such a promise implies a very horrible logic. Because it means that as long as one side wants something from itself, the other side will go through fire and water, even if it is an offender.
Crime, that's it. This is already a typical "Jianghu friendship". We are familiar with "doing our best", "going up the knife and going down the mountain to burn in flames", "sharing weal and woe, sharing weal and woe, revenge and so on.
Regardless of the willy-nilly, indiscriminate, "brothers" talk about "loyalty in the rivers and lakes", fight, rob and steal, and risk the world to violate the law and discipline. A large number of facts show that those who talk about "loyalty in the rivers and lakes" will only harm their friends and themselves in the end. You know, we have laws on our heads and morality in our hearts. For "buddy", that is, "ambiguity" is greater than the law, and the law will never allow it.
The ancients said, "A gentleman does something but doesn't do it." In other words, friends are loyal to each other! But if what he did violated certain moral standards, I believe your help is undoubtedly a connivance; Not really helping him, but hurting him, can only rely on persuasion; On the other hand, if your help is beneficial to him and develops in a good direction, it is right. Do your best and do nothing! A true friend wouldn't have the heart to let you do this, would he? Just stick to the facts. In life, everyone has some friends. The song sings well, "it's hard to find a bosom friend in a thousand miles, and more friends are easy to walk." What we should cherish is pure friendship, not the "Jianghu loyalty" of illegal crimes.
A hedge between keeps friendship green. If it is a normal friendship, you will never be asked to "go through fire and water". Most people who need to "go through fire and water" are doing illegal things. If you are near Zhu Zhechi, you will be black, if you are near Mexico. You should be careful when making friends.
With the progress of society, the rule of man should be based on law. If they still cling to the loyalty of the rivers and lakes, they can only go back hundreds of years.
In fact, we have two principles when dealing with people. One is to do good, and the other is to be kind to people. Some people take the former as the ultimate goal, while others take the latter as the goal. If the latter is the goal, then everything he does will be based on pleasing others and taking respect as the criterion. Such people are bound to do bad things. A person who acts with loyalty only regards being a good person as his lifelong goal. It seems that many buddies and friends praised him for his lifelong loyalty, and he was satisfied. This is not worth taking.
Under normal circumstances, there is nothing wrong with friends helping each other, but it is dangerous if the word "loyalty" is mixed in. Some people can look at problems soberly and rationally, so when they help each other and conflict with principles, they can focus on obeying the law; If loyalty is the most important thing, you may break the law, respect loyalty, and ultimately hurt yourself. And the list goes on.
To minimize the harm of loyalty, the first task is to learn the rules and keep them in mind. When you are impulsive, it will pour a fire in time, make you afraid and wake you up. Secondly, we should form the habit of not making promises easily. Some people promise others casually because they want to save face, and then take risks to save face, resulting in losing face. Therefore, in order to save face, we must be willing to lose face, and we must consider it clearly from the beginning. Sometimes, hesitation is a good thing.
Finally, be brave enough to refuse others. If it is obvious that this matter is risky, then you should think about it: the other party ignores my safety and wants me to break the law. This is not enough friends, and I don't need too many friends. Friends should consider each other first. It is despicable to ask friends to take risks for their own interests, and you can refuse with confidence.
Refer to it and adopt it.