Treating colleagues who work together as friends is a mistake that many newcomers in the workplace will make. In the process of getting along with cheerful, friendly and talkative colleagues, it is easy to have a good impression on each other and regard them as trusted friends.

For example, during lunch break, I will chat with each other about gossip and life, and I can't wait to tell them everything.

In fact, this kind of behavior is dangerous, because you work in the same company and pursue the same interests, so it is difficult for you to establish a stable friendship.

Once your relationship breaks down one day in the future, everything you said to him, your secrets or your complaints to the leader may be revealed by the other party, so that someone in the company will give you little shoes to wear, and you still don't know why.

So, why are we so sure that there is no real friendship in the workplace?

Because, in the workplace, the relationship between people is usually based on mutual benefit, which conforms to the "economic man hypothesis" in interpersonal communication.

The "economic man hypothesis" emphasizes that man is an economic animal, and he always pursues the maximization of his own interests in life. Moreover, the closeness of the relationship between people depends on the similarity of two people's positions, because people will also get potential benefits from their peers and give them corresponding benefits in return.

In the workplace, once you have a competitive relationship with your colleagues, the above mutually beneficial relationship no longer exists. When you share your things with each other without vigilance, the other party is likely to use what you say to secretly calculate you behind your back, so that you can't prevent it.

Therefore, don't treat colleagues as friends in the workplace. Even if your relationship is better than that of ordinary colleagues, you should think twice before you do, and don't come clean without reservation.

Second, there is no absolute fairness in the workplace.

Most newcomers in the workplace hope that the boss can treat themselves equally at work and hope that they can get absolutely fair treatment. They will naively think that as long as they finish their work seriously, they will not suffer.

However, when they really enter the workplace, they will find that things in the workplace are 10 thousand times more complicated than they thought.

At work, we are likely to accept overtime tasks without overtime pay. Some old employees will ask you to "help do something" under the banner of training you, or you are likely to witness the sudden promotion and salary increase of your colleagues who joined the company with you, thus creating a strong sense of imbalance.

If you always pursue absolute fairness in your work, you will get more and more tired and fall into a vicious circle of self-pity. When you can relax your mind and look at all kinds of problems in your work, it may actually make your life easier, and you can put more time and energy into your work, thus gaining more opportunities and achievements.