When I am old, I think women are actually the same. They are ugly or not, sexy or not, and mediocrity doesn't matter. They all look like a pile of meat. Although I have stopped, it seems a pity to throw away the knowledge, experience and tips accumulated over the years.
Just like the peerless prawns in Jin Yong's novels, I have to carve my martial arts on the stone wall, so I will leave my experience here.
The first chapter circle
For otaku, the most painful thing is to find out that you don't know many girls with the desire to pick up girls when you are lonely.
There is a word in economics called "industrial chain", the supplier of raw materials is called "upstream" and the buyer of products is called "downstream". Downstream stability, enterprise development is good. If the downstream is not only unstable, there is no fixed crowd, and you don't even know where to look, that kind of sales is the hardest to do. Why is insurance difficult to do? Because there is no definite downstream, everyone can be a consumer and everyone can't.
The same is true of picking up girls. If you have found that all the girls you met at school have either gone away for a living or been abducted, and even that unkempt silly elder sister has been put on a foreigner's arm, you should understand that her "downstream" has dried up.
Downstream of girls is your social circle.
If you are a student at school, a rookie who has just entered the society, or even an old otaku who has been lonely for a long time, then you should begin to realize a simple axiom: "Chasing women begins with understanding women."
If you find that chasing any woman is no different from chasing other women, either you are a top player or you are really a self-righteous poor household.
There is no subsistence allowance for picking up girls. If you want to get out of poor households, you need to cast a wide net, and popularity is very important. In other words, first of all, you should have your own various circles, large and small, in all aspects. Secondly, word of mouth in the circle is particularly important. If you are a good person in the mouth of a friend, even "I am not in the Jianghu, but there is a legend of my brother in the Jianghu" plays a leading role. "You are so-and-so in the legend", this mystery is undoubtedly attractive to girls. If you are still circulated as an "interesting" person, you are almost half successful at first.
How to expand the social circle correctly? First of all, we must avoid two communication misunderstandings.
There is a proverb in China that haste makes waste. If you are too utilitarian, you will go astray.
When meeting and talking with a group of people, some people like to smile in the group of women, but rarely talk to men. In fact, this is a big misunderstanding.
First of all, women will have a bad opinion of such men. Although they will flirt with you, in fact, their attitude towards you is not good. Secondly, women are brought by men. There is a saying that brothers are like brothers, and wives are like clothes. How can you get dressed without hands and feet? Few women are willing to introduce their stronger sisters to men around them, but men like to show off their girls in front of other men. A man who doesn't want to associate with the same sex in public social occasions must know the opposite sex.
Others are too powerful. When you meet ugly women, you will alienate them and even call names. When you meet a beautiful and sexy woman, you will smile, give in again and again, and even be willing to be used by the other person, acting like a slave. Such people often become buffoons in the circle. Since you can't treat others with the same sincerity, others will obviously see this and won't respect you. If you treat people only by their figure and appearance, is it necessary for others to be sincere to you? Therefore, to run your own social circle in order to pick up girls, you should treat them equally, whether they are men or women, beautiful women or dinosaurs. Bottom line: Be sincere to your friends, help if you can, and refuse if you don't violate the principle.
So what should we do in social situations?
Focus on men.
Generally, women are used to wrapping themselves tightly in unfamiliar communication situations. Although their clothes are still exposed, they are spiritually pure, whether true or false. One reason is that women pay more attention to their public image and reputation, and another reason is that they are more vigilant and defensive about unfamiliar environments.
Therefore, in this environment, from the national conditions of China, it is difficult to win a woman in one fell swoop, unless you go to bars, nightclubs and so on. If you have the cheek to strike up a conversation with ulterior motives in an elegant environment and encounter a few polite and perfunctory words, most people will turn their heads and leave, and some even say a few hurtful words on the spot.
Take a long view, stretch the line a little, put the energy and enthusiasm of dealing with women on men first, and put half the time spent on women on men, which will be very effective.
No matter which beauty you like. A master will start with the man she touches. The communication between men is very simple, they have the same hobbies and topics, and it is easy to get mixed up. The more friends you have, the more you can help others, and the easier it is to help others. Then you will get to know them more and more, and the sooner you meet new people, you will enter a virtuous circle. The existence of friends is a resource in itself. If you have more friends, maybe someone will invite you to dinner one day, and there will be several beautiful sisters of his wife on the table.
How do we choose exchange activities? In its own way, of course.
First of all, what to be good at and what to choose.
For example, if you are in good health, you can find a group of friends to play football, table tennis, badminton, swimming and outdoor travel. In these activities, you can show your masculine side.
Of course, some people are not good at this, and people with good eloquence are suitable for playing reasoning games such as killing games. This is a very good platform. At first, several friends played together, but not all of them were free at the same time. Friends of natural friends, friends of friends all join in. This kind of activity doesn't need to show anything to women deliberately, it's just a simple game.
The wisdom, logical thinking ability, speech and so on displayed in the game will naturally win the favor of women. This kind of activity itself is unfair to women, and the innate advantage of men in logical thinking ability has also been brought into play.
There may be people who are neither good at sports nor smart. Moreover, for modern people, life pressure is relatively high and money and energy are limited, so communication is not necessarily limited to these recreational activities. Friends helping each other is an activity that is very affordable and can expand the social circle. Do more things for friends, ask for fewer friends, and think from each other's point of view when things happen, and you will naturally find more friends around you.
Now they are all only children, and many people are only used to thinking by themselves, so the circle of communication between people will become smaller and smaller. Some people are used to small circles and only stay with a few good friends at a time. Moderate absence from a close friend's party will not affect feelings, but will save a lot of energy and money. Applying these resources to new friends will have a better effect on spreading social circles.
How to launch an attack, one blow is sure to hit.
Excellent women are very busy and have a tight schedule, so they don't have time to send them themselves. Once I saw you, I had been taken away. Therefore, the opportunity can't wait, we must fight for it by ourselves. Besides, you may be a boring man with poor means, poor family, popular appearance and low taste, and you can't be hooked by Jiang Taigong's fishing wish. Mermaids may be caught under good conditions, but you may only catch a prostitute. It is necessary to start early.
Where to start is a problem.
Many people think that "starting" means jumping in front of women and starting to strike up a conversation. Most men also start chasing after finding the MM they like. Some people believe in probability theory, cast a wide net for deep fishing, and swear to every woman to send spinach in autumn.
Such people obviously didn't realize Chairman Mao's tactics-hitting people with fists. The more concentrated, the higher the success rate. But who is this clenched fist hitting? Hit a woman? My heart is too anxious. Push hard around the woman you like. Her girlfriends and male friends need you to know and make a good impression on them. It doesn't need much energy, sometimes it's just an expression, and a few harmonious chats can give them a good feeling. And knowing more people is a good thing in itself.
When all this is done, don't do anything to that woman. Actually, it's just to wait a few more minutes, talk to a few more people and break the deadlock. When your bones and cotton palms have surrounded the rural cities, it is logical to conquer Berlin.
Who will attack next is a new problem.
Some people say that failure is the mother of success, but this matter of picking up girls is in a circle, and success is only for grandchildren without mothers.
The first goal of a lap is very important. If you fail the first time, it will be difficult to succeed the second time. Then you don't have to try the third time and the fourth time. There is absolutely no chance.
In the same circle, no woman is willing to accept a man who has been rejected by women around her, and no woman is willing to take over a man who has been in contact with a woman who is not as good as herself. So don't blindly start work, the loss caused by a miss is quite large; And it's not too difficult to choose a partner for the first time. Wu Dalang keeps owls-people play with birds, and women will position your level according to the level of women you associate with.
Most women want vanity before profit. They pay more attention to their position and reputation in the circle, and as for what "economically applicable men" are finally counted. Moreover, in actual social communication, you will find that women's status and reputation can bring them greater economic and social benefits. Their vanity is driven by society.
So understand why they are "I don't want what others don't want, and I don't want what I use next time."
Based on the above reality, we have to return to the issue of circle management.
You must hit it with one blow, and the target must be advanced and difficult, so you need to start as soon as possible. Is this a bit overwhelming?
So you have to lie in wait for a long time and chase after you. No matter what circle you are in, it is important to keep friends with everyone, including beautiful women. We should grasp this degree well. What kind of heat is the most crisp, tender and delicious? If the other person can think of you first when there is a problem or something, and you are still in the position of a good friend, it is already in hand.
You can do anything you like at any time. And you will enjoy the process and feel sorry for yourself. Most good girls don't spend money on men who don't chase themselves-since they are friends, it's normal to go out to play AA.
This stage is ideal, you have a lover but don't spend money. Best of all, she has a boyfriend. Take him out to play with you. Because you are innocent, you are in a strong position. Her man's unhappiness shows that he is stingy, not only won't get angry, but also pays the bill everywhere. Women like to have such a blue confidante. In fact, she also knows that you are having an affair, and you are her last line of defense.
When her man treats her badly or has something unpleasant, she will come to talk to you, drink and cry-everything she refuses to do in front of her boyfriend will be done here. This stage is the most wonderful, others just want to help you raise a future lover. The more ambiguous you are, the more passive her man is; The more naive you are, the less valuable her man looks.
Maintaining such a relationship with a married woman is like planting a sweet potato in the soil. As long as it is not dug up, it will always be there; Dig it out and eat it, and it's gone
Just like the truth that you don't punch blindly, women often define men's standards by the standards of women around them. So as long as your girlfriend is beautiful enough and you don't even have to worry about yourself, that woman thinks you are a treasure. This is the same as the "tense" atmosphere deliberately created by real estate sellers.
Rich people buy good things, which is why they need stars to advertise. So do women. A man with a high level of women is a good man. What you have to do at this time is to show your singleness, irrepressibility, ignorance and guilt. This is much easier than being a woman's confidante.
The mystery of circle management is endless, but in the final analysis, it is a truth of treating people. If you are a person who is not good at calculating, that is the best. Just remember, treat everyone around you sincerely and equally, help others as much as possible, and then push the boat with the flow. Your "downstream" will be like rolling the Yangtze River.
Everyone should manage their own circle well, of course, not only to pick up girls, but also for their future development.
Chapter II Identification of Female Types
To identify women, we must first distinguish between beautiful women and ordinary women, hot women and women who are not valued. This condition should be possessed by all men. Although carrots and vegetables have their own tastes, some people like to be as tall as models, some people like to be cute, some people like white and tender to squeeze water, some people like sports women who are tanned in wheat, and some people like Brother Chun and Brother Zeng.
This is a difference, but it is not a problem, because no matter which type you prefer, everyone should have a public opinion about a woman and what grade she belongs to. You must be able to tell whether the other person is a beautiful woman or an ordinary girl.
There is a qualitative difference between beautiful women and ordinary women. This is the basic concept of beauty.
Some people think that beauty is an enhanced version of ordinary girls, and the essence is the same. If you can catch up with beautiful women, ordinary girls are naturally not a problem; And if a method doesn't work well for ordinary women, the same method will be more perfect and will definitely win the favor of beautiful women. This view is extremely wrong, because beautiful women and ordinary girls belong to different species.
Marx said that the economic base determines the superstructure. It's true. China also had an extreme birth theory in his early days. Because beautiful women and ordinary girls have lived in different worlds since childhood, their world outlook and desires are completely different.
Since you are more inclined to get a beautiful woman in the choice of women, you should also admit that their skins are different and their hearts and brains are different. Because women won't notice or don't want to believe this, although they claim to know women, the strategy of chasing MM they wrote is not practical at all.
How to chase an ordinary girl?
As long as you are sticky enough, you can: show meticulous care to convince them that she is extremely noble in your mind, and stick to the same thing for a few more days, as long as it is not too fake, it is not a problem to impress ordinary girls.
But these methods are counterproductive for a beautiful woman.
A basic truth is that things are scarce, and you give what others lack. What a beautiful woman needs most is flattery and courtship. There are more men who follow them, and more men who think about them day and night in their hearts. If you don't confess, they all believe you can do it. This is not uncommon. There are countless men who are willing to care about them, to put them into practice and to be used again and again. There is nothing more for you, but much less for you. But the beauty herself wouldn't say that. Women like to complain.
They like to say, "If someone can think of me every day and say hello to me, I will be satisfied." They also like to say, "If someone can hold an umbrella from behind in rainy days, it will be romantic." They will also say, "I will be very happy if someone can say good night after work every day."
Note: "someone" here is a specific person, not just anyone. If an ordinary girl says these words, you can believe it and try. If you are a beautiful woman and can't send text messages for three days, your name will be blacklisted on her mobile phone.
"Who is this, has nothing to do? How annoying! Don't bother! "
So how do we face a beautiful girl?