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How to relieve psychological stress
The following methods can effectively relieve psychological stress, you might as well try it.
●Prepare a cold towel and wipe your face at any time to help you wake up.
●Take off your shoes and socks, walk on your toes, walk for a few minutes, and the worries in your heart will disappear.
●Find an optimistic friend or colleague to talk to and vent your emotions.
●Drink a cup of sour plum soup or fruit juice vinegar to dredge liver qi.
●Close your eyes and try your best to think about the scene behind your body to balance the pressure on the front and back of your brain.
●Read the mottos of the people you most admire and think about them carefully, it has a calming effect.
●Praise and encourage yourself more, and don’t criticize yourself when you encounter setbacks.
●Go to bed before ten o'clock in the evening and get up at six o'clock in the morning.
●Watch more comedies and laugh a lot.
●Simplify your life and desires, because the more complicated life is, the greater the pressure will be.
●Making things by yourself will make you more satisfied and happier, such as cooking or doing your favorite things.
●Don’t always complain about troublesome things happening to you, but think that God will allow me to gain experience and wisdom day by day, so that my life will be richer.
●Go to bookstores often and read some inspirational books, comics and humorous anthologies.
●Keep telling yourself that you must be able to accommodate other people’s different ideas or behaviors.
How to relieve psychological pressure
The development and changes of society will cause people’s opinions, attitudes, and hopes to change accordingly. In this fast-paced, high-efficiency, full of competition and challenges In today's society, people are often strongly affected by the internal and external environment, causing emotional fluctuations and physiological changes, resulting in psychological stress. To know if you are stressed, ask the following questions:
You often appear impatient, irritable, anxious, or irritable.
Poor sleep quality, insomnia, frequent yawning and drowsiness.
The health index has dropped significantly, and people often feel uncomfortable and are prone to illness, such as colds, headaches, stomachaches, indigestion, ulcers, memory loss, etc.
Often experience neurological twitches or muscle spasms, difficulty relaxing, and back pain.
Emotions are easily depressed, depressed, fluctuating, and emotionally perverse. They often feel powerless about the current situation and the future, and have feelings of frustration and emptiness.
Interpersonal relationships become disharmonious, and it is easy to conflict and be unhappy with others. He speaks sarcastically, is emotionally insensitive, and tends to describe himself or others negatively in his evaluations and conversations.
It is impossible for a person to be without stress. If the majority of the above judgments are positive, it is a warning and is a sign of unhealthy psychology under pressure. To change this situation, you can take the following methods to relieve your emotions and relieve accumulated stress. (1) Face reality. Real life is extremely complicated. Everyone has their own ideals and ambitions, and they have requirements for themselves. But this requirement should be based on reality and what is within one's capabilities. The reason why people feel frustrated in work and life is often because it is difficult to achieve their own goals, and they feel inferior and disappointed. Excessive expectations will only make people mistakenly think that they are always unlucky and depressed all day long. Some people are "perfectionists" and want everything to be perfect. And nothing in the world can be perfect. Therefore, you should adjust your life goals, evaluate things and yourself objectively, be sad when you are proud, and be calm when frustrated. While being positive and striving for progress, you should have a normal heart to face success and failure calmly, so that you can feel comfortable. On the other hand, everyone has their own temperament, character, strengths and weaknesses. Others will not cater to your wishes, just as you yourself may not meet the requirements of others. The higher the demands on others, the greater your dissatisfaction will be. If you have low requirements for others, then you will be easily satisfied if your wishes are slightly in line with yours.
Therefore, do not be harsh on yourself or others.
(2) Catharsis method:
The catharsis method is a method of venting inner pressure to protect the body and mind from blows and damage. By venting inner depression and anger and grief, which can reduce or eliminate psychological pressure, avoid causing mental breakdown, and restore psychological balance. "Emotions and anger are invisible" will not only aggravate the troubles of bad emotions, but also lead to some psychosomatic diseases. Therefore, channeling and venting negative emotions is a good way to self-regulate. An athlete became frustrated after being reprimanded by his coach. Soon he developed stomach problems, and medication was ineffective. The psychologist suggested that he use the ball to hit the coach's face hard during training. After using this method, his stomach problems were much better. This self-catharsis method that does not harm others and is helpful for resolving bad emotions can be used for reference.
But this kind of catharsis should be reasonable. It is not advisable to simply beat and smash, yell, vent your anger on others, look for scapegoats (husband, wife, children, colleagues), or complain or say weird things. Venting should be civilized, elegant, and humane communication. Some people say: "One happiness shared by two people will become two happiness; one pain shared by two people will only be half the pain." If you bury your troubles and pain deep in your heart, it will only intensify your distress. , and if you confide your sorrow, troubles, pain, sorrow, etc. to your relatives and friends, even if they can't solve it for you, but you can get sympathy or comfort from your friends, your troubles or pain will seem to be only half. , then your mood will feel comfortable. When it’s time to cry, cry happily to release the accumulated energy and adjust the balance of the body. When the sky clears after the heavy rain, the bad emotions in your heart will be swept away.
(3) Attention transfer:
The principle is to generate a new excitation center in the cerebral cortex, through mutual induction, offset or dilution of the original advantageous excitation center (i.e. the original bad emotional center). When you have a quarrel with someone, leave the environment immediately and go play ball or watch TV. When sadness or sadness occurs, avoid a certain object first, do not think about it or forget it, so that you can relieve your worries; if the remaining anger is not gone, When you are nervous, you can relax your tension through activities such as exercise, entertainment, walking, etc. You can also relax your emotions by consciously changing the topic or doing something else to distract your attention. For example, Sima Qian was brutally tortured and wrote the "Historical Records", which is "the swan song of a historian and a rhymeless lament". Goethe wrote the world-famous "The Sorrows of Young Werther" because of his lovelorn experience. We should be exposed to more pleasant and laughing things. Avoid and forget some unpleasant things. Instead of "working tirelessly and diligently" and finally "getting wider and wider" and looking haggard, it is better to be more unrestrained and do something happy.
When people face difficulties and feel depressed, they often think about problems in the opposite direction. This can cause positive changes in people's psychology and emotions, and draw completely opposite conclusions, allowing people to overcome depression and change from negative consequences. Get free from emotions. Once upon a time, there was an old lady who was worried all day long: if it didn't rain, she would worry about her eldest son, who sold umbrellas, having no business; if it rained, she would worry that her second son, who ran a dye house, would not be able to dry cloth. Later, a neighbor said to her: "Why don't you think about it the other way around? If it rains, the eldest son's business will be good; if it doesn't rain, the second son can dry the cloth." The old lady suddenly understood. No more frowning. This story is an excellent illustration of reverse psychology.
On this issue, the British writer George Bernard Shaw made it more clear. A reporter once asked Bernard Shaw: "What is the difference between an optimist and a pessimist?" George Bernard Shaw replied: "It is very simple. Suppose there is a bottle of wine with only half left on it. If the person who sees the bottle of wine says: : 'Great, there's half left.' That's the optimist; if someone sighs at the bottle: 'Oh, there's only half left.' That's the pessimist when we encounter difficulties, setbacks, and adversities. , when you are in bad luck, use reverse psychological adjustment to dig out the luck from the misfortune, so that your mood can change from "the end of the road" to "the bright future" to get rid of troubles.
Pressure is everywhere. We must take the problem of psychological pressure seriously, relieve it through emotional regulation in a timely and appropriate manner, and find an outlet for it, so that it will not bring too much weight to the spirit. of harm. I hope that the above methods can help you face the complex, rapidly changing, and fiercely competitive society with stable emotions and a healthy psychology.