Never listen to stories about mentality that are used to being negative and pessimistic, and keep a positive and optimistic attitude. I wish you all early success. Once upon a time, a group of frogs organized a climbing competition, and the result of the competition was: the top of a very high iron tower. A large group of frogs gathered around the tower to watch the game and cheer for them. The game has already started. To be honest, none of these frogs believe that these little frogs will reach the top of the tower. They are all saying, "This is too difficult! ! They certainly can't reach the top of the tower! " "They will never succeed, the tower is too high! Hearing this, one frog after another began to lose confidence, except those who were still crawling in high spirits. The frogs continued to shout, "This is too difficult! ! Nobody can climb to the top! "More and more frogs are tired and quit the competition. However, one is still climbing higher and higher, and has no intention of giving up. Finally, all but one frog dropped out of the competition. It worked hard and finally became the only winner who reached the top of the tower. Naturally, all the other frogs want to know how it succeeded. A frog ran to the winner and asked him where he got the strength to finish the race. It found that the frog was deaf! Moral of this story: always remember the powerful words you hear, because everything you hear or read will affect your behavior. Therefore, we must be positive and optimistic! Moreover, the most important thing is: when others tell you that your dream can't come true, you should play dumb and turn a deaf ear! Always thinking: I can do it! Never listen to those who are used to negative and pessimistic views, because they will only crush your best dreams and hopes! * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * Are you in the well? One day, a farmer's donkey accidentally fell into a dry well. The farmer racked his brains to find a way to save the donkey, but several hours later, the donkey was still crying bitterly at the bottom of the well. Finally, the farmer decided to give up. He thinks the donkey is too old to save it, but the well must be filled in anyway. So the farmer invited his neighbor to help him bury the donkey in the well to avoid its pain. The farmer's neighbor, with a shovel in his hand, began to shovel dirt into the dry well. When the donkey realized his situation, at first it cried sadly, but unexpectedly, after a while, the donkey calmed down. The farmer looked at the bottom of the well with a curious probe. He was shocked by what he saw: when the dirt shoveled into the well fell on the donkey's back, the donkey's reaction was amazing-it shook off the dirt and stood on the shoveled pile. In this way, the donkey shook off all the dirt shoveled on it at the bottom of the well and stood on it. Soon. Soon, the donkey proudly rose to the wellhead, and then ran away with everyone's surprised expression! Just like a donkey, in the journey of life, sometimes we will inevitably fall into a "dry well" and be dumped on us by various "sands". The secret of getting rid of these difficulties is to shake off the "sand" and stand up! In fact, all kinds of difficulties and setbacks we encounter in life are sand added to us; However, from another perspective, they are also stepping stones. As long as we get rid of them persistently and then stand up, we can get out of trouble safely even if we fall into the deepest well. If we face difficulties with a positive, calm and steady attitude, help is often hidden in the difficulties. Everything depends on yourself, learn to let go of all gains and losses, and move forward bravely towards your own ideals. * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * One of the stories: Have you passed your heart? On the wedding night, when the groom excitedly unveiled the bride's veil, the shy bride was looking down at the ground, ignoring her mouth and smiling, pointing to: "Look, look, look, the mouse is eating your rice. ""The next morning, the groom was still sleeping soundly, and the bride got up and shouted angrily, "Damn mouse! Dare to steal my rice! "A shoe flew past with a whoosh. The groom couldn't help laughing. I have no other meaning in telling this story. I just want to ask those new employees and even some old employees who have worked for two or three years. Why did you choose this job? Since I chose this job, why did my body pass the door, but my mind was slow to move? I also made this mistake. When I first came to this factory, I often complained to my boss, "What's your factory like …" He always frowned at me. Later, I changed my mind and said to him, "What should we do with our factory?" He began to seriously consider my suggestion. Newcomers often find the company's problems easily, because onlookers see clearly. The question is, do you understand and actively correct these shortcomings and loopholes with ridicule, complaint, anger and accusation, or with the host's mentality? Ask yourself, did you really go through that door? Story 2: Do you go all out or go all out? One day, the hunter went hunting with his hounds. As soon as the hunter shot the rabbit in the hind leg, the injured rabbit began to run like hell. The hound also chased the rabbit under the hunter's instructions. But after a while, the rabbit disappeared, and the hound had to return to the hunter angrily. The hunter began to scold the hound: "You are so useless that you can't even catch an injured rabbit!" " "The hound replied unconvinced," I tried my best! "Moreover, the rabbit ran back to the hole with injuries, and all his brothers gathered around and asked him in surprise," That hunting dog is so fierce! " You're hurt again. How can you escape it? ""I've tried my best, I'm trying my best! It didn't catch up with me and was scolded at most. If it didn't run with all its strength, I would die! "People have great potential, but we often make excuses for ourselves or others:" Whatever, we have tried our best. "In fact, just doing the best is not enough, especially in this competitive era. I often ask myself, am I the best hound or the best rabbit today? Story 3: Sand and gold. A group of businessmen were riding camels in the desert when suddenly a mysterious voice came from the air: "Grab a handful of gravel and put it in your pocket, and it will turn into gold." "Someone listened to, don't believe it, someone track down, caught a handful in the bag. Some people believe that grab as many pebbles as possible and put them in big bags. They continued on their way. People who have no gravel walk easily, while those who have gravel walk heavily. Many days passed and they walked out of the desert. The man who caught the gravel opened his pocket and was delighted to find that the thick and heavy gravel turned into gold on Huang Cancan. I've thought about it many times, but I can't figure out the moral of the story. Later, I understood that time is like sand on the ground in everyone's long life. Only those who seize the time can turn these ordinary rough sand into valuable gold. People who don't grasp the time tightly are relaxed and natural, but life is always as bleak and bumpy as sand and can't shine like gold. Ask yourself, how much gravel did you catch in your pocket today? Dear friends, today, I will tell you these three stories. I don't believe these three stories will affect all of us, but I'm sure they will affect those who used to be ordinary, but don't want to be as ordinary as me. * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *. In real life, some people can't make friends in social life. The reason is that the bad psychological state in social communication hinders the normal development of interpersonal relationship, which is what psychologists call social morbid psychology. The following are common and should be avoided: 1. Inferiority: Some people tend to feel inferior, even look down on themselves, lack self-confidence, have no courage to do things, are timid, follow others' advice, and have no opinions of their own. If this kind of psychology is not overcome, it will wear away people's unique personality. 2. Timid psychology: mainly seen in people who are inexperienced, inexperienced, introverted and inarticulate. Because of cowardice, they dare not express what they think is right after careful consideration in social interaction. This kind of psychology will also be observed by others, and as a result, they have opinions on themselves and are unwilling to become good friends. 3. Suspicion: Some people tend to look at each other with distrust when socializing or entrusting friends to do things. They are suspicious for no reason, catching shadows and making irresponsible remarks. For example, some people entrust their friends to do things, but when they do things, they will ask others what their friends said, which affects the relationship between friends. 4. rebellious psychology: some people always like to argue with others to show that they are unconventional. I think everything, whether right or wrong, is bad if you say yes; If you're right, I'm wrong, making others dislike themselves. 5. Game psychology: Some people regard making friends as an accidental entertainment. They are constantly changing their minds, dealing with everything, boasting and saying beautiful things. When they meet a person, they will say how much they have contacted a person. This kind of interpersonal communication is only superficial, so there are no friends with deep feelings. 6. Greedy psychology: Some people think that the purpose of making friends is to "use each other". Only when they meet friends who are useful and can bring benefits to themselves, they will often "kick down the ladder". This bad psychology of being greedy for money will damage your personality. 7. Indifference: Some people are indifferent to all kinds of things that have nothing to do with themselves, or mistakenly think that sharp words and aloof attitude are "personality", which makes others afraid to get close to themselves, thus losing some friends. * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *. Two days before the exam, he The first dream is that he grows cabbage on the wall. The second dream is that it is raining. He is wearing a hat and an umbrella. The third dream is that he is lying naked with his beloved cousin, but his back is to his back. These three dreams seem to have some profound meanings, so the scholar hurried to find fortune-telling dreams the next day. Hearing this, the fortune teller patted his thigh continuously and said, "You'd better go home. Think about it, isn't it futile to grow vegetables on high walls? Isn't it unnecessary to wear a hat and an umbrella? Lying naked in a bed with my cousin, isn't it impossible to back to back? " Hearing this, the scholar was disheartened and went back to the store to pack his bags and prepare to go home. The shopkeeper was surprised and asked, "Isn't there an exam tomorrow? How did you go back to your hometown today? " When the scholar said this, the shopkeeper was happy: "Hey, I can interpret dreams, too. I think you must stay this time. Think about it, isn't it high to grow vegetables on the wall? Doesn't wearing a hat and an umbrella mean that you are prepared this time? Lying naked in bed with your cousin doesn't mean you should turn over? " Hearing this, the scholar made more sense, so he took the exam happily and got a flower exploration. Positive people, like the sun, shine wherever they shine, while negative people, like the moon, are different on the fifteenth day of the first month. Ideas determine our lives. What kind of ideas, what kind of future. Second, I was born to be useful. The little camel in the zoo asked his mother, "Mom, why are our eyelashes so long?" Mother camel said, "When a sandstorm comes, long eyelashes can make us all see clearly in the storm." The little camel asked again, "Mom, why are our backs so camel and ugly!" " "Mother camel said," This is called hump. It can help us to store a lot of water and nutrients, so that we can endure it for more than ten days without drinking water or eating in the desert. The little camel asked again, "Mom, why are our soles so thick?" "Mother camel said," This can prevent our heavy bodies from sinking into soft sand and facilitate long-distance travel. The little camel was very happy: "Wow, we are really useful! " ! Yes, mom, why are we still in the zoo and don't go hiking in the desert? "I was born useful, although no one uses it now. Good mentality+successful teaching materials+infinite stage = success. Everyone's potential is unlimited, and the key is to find a stage where they can give full play to their potential. Third, shaping willpower Chen Atu is a farmer in Taiwan Province Province and has never been far away. After saving money for half my life, I finally joined a tour group and went abroad. Everything abroad is very fresh. Crucially, Chen Atu joined a luxury group and lived alone in the standard room of a luxury hotel. This makes him novel. In the morning, when the waiter knocked on the door to deliver breakfast, he shouted, "Good morning, sir!" " Chen Atu froze. What does this mean? In my hometown, strangers usually ask, "What's your name?" So Chen Atu shouted, "My name is Chen Atu!" If so, for three days in a row, it's the waiters who knock at the door and say "good morning, sir" loudly every day! Chen Atu also replied loudly: "My name is Chen Atu!" But he was very angry. This waiter is so stupid that he asks his name every day and tells him that he can't remember. Very annoying. Finally, he couldn't help asking the tour guide, "Good morning, sir!" " What do you mean? The tour guide told him, oh, my God! ! That's a real pity. Chen Atu practiced saying "Good morning, sir!" This word allows you to deal with waiters with dignity. Another morning, the waiter knocked at the door as usual. As soon as the door opened, Chen Atu shouted, "Good morning, sir!" At the same time, the waiter shouted, "I'm Chen Atu!" Because Chen Atu said loudly, "I am Chen Atu!" Answer the waiter and make him think "I am Chen Atu!" It's "good morning, sir!" The corresponding answer. This time, Chen Atu greeted in English and the waiter responded in Chinese. A man from Taiwan Province, Chen Atu, influenced a waiter who had seen the world. This story tells us that interpersonal communication is often a contest between willpower and willpower. Either you influence him or he influences you. If we want to succeed, we must cultivate our own influence. Only those with great influence can become the strongest. Fourth, form a good habit. Father and son live in the mountains and drive ox carts down the mountain to sell firewood every day. The old father is more experienced, driving in the town, the mountain road is rugged and curved, and the son has a good eye. He always reminds him when he wants to turn: "Dad, turn and pull!" Once my father didn't go down the mountain because of illness, and my son drove alone. At the corner, the cow refused to turn, so the son tried every means to get out of the car and push and pull, lured by grass, and the cow did not move. What the hell is going on? My son is puzzled. In the end, there is only one way. He looked around to see that no one was there. He leaned close to the cow's ear and shouted, "Dad, turn!" " "Cow responded, moved. Cows live by conditioned reflex, while people live by habit. A successful person knows how to cultivate good habits instead of bad ones. When more good habits are accumulated, there will naturally be a good life. 5. Persistent story: A farmer accidentally dropped a valuable gold watch in the barn while patrolling. He couldn't find it anywhere, so he posted a notice at the entrance of the venue: If people need help, whoever can find it will be rewarded with 100 dollars. Faced with the temptation to reward others, people are trying their best to look around. However, there are mountains of grain and bundles of straw in the barn, and it is as difficult to find a gold watch in it as looking for a needle in a haystack. People are busy looking until the sun goes down, either complaining that the gold watch is too small, or complaining that the barn is too big and there is too much wheat straw. When they gave up the temptation of 100 dollars one by one. Only a child from a poor family continued to search after his descendants left. He hasn't eaten all day. 100 dollars, he hopes to find a gold watch before dark to solve the family's eating difficulties. It was getting dark and the children kept groping in the barn. Suddenly, when all the noise stopped, he found a strange sound. The sound of "tick-tock, tick-tock" kept ringing, and the child stopped watching at once. The barn is quieter and the ticking is very clear. The child followed the sound to find the gold watch and finally got 100 dollars. The laws of success are actually very simple. The reason why there are few successful people is that most people think these laws are too simple, don't insist on them, and disdain to do them. This law is called "persistence". Success, like the golden watch in the barn, has already existed in our hearts and scattered in a corner of our lives. As long as we keep searching and think calmly, we will hear a clear tick. 6. On behalf of the past, learn to master the doctor's assignment to the graduate school in the future and become the person with the highest academic qualifications. One day, he went fishing in the small pond behind his unit. It happened that the director and deputy director were around him and were fishing. He just nodded slightly. What are these two undergraduates talking about? After a while, the director put down the fishing rod, stretched himself, and walked briskly from the surface casserole to the opposite toilet. The doctor's eyes are about to fall off. Floating on the water? Really? This is a pond. When the director came back from the toilet, he also floated back from the water. What's going on here? Doctoral students are not easy to ask, they are doctoral students! After a while, the deputy director also stood up, took a few steps and floated across the water to go to the toilet. Now the doctor almost fainted: no way, go to a place where Jianghu experts are concentrated? Doctoral students are also very anxious. There are walls on both sides of this pond. It takes more than ten minutes to go to the toilet opposite, and it's too far to go back to work. What should I do? Doctoral students don't want to ask the two directors. After holding back for a long time, they got up and stepped into the water: I don't believe undergraduates can pass, but my doctoral students can't. The doctoral student fell into the water with a bang. Two directors pulled him out and asked him why he had to go into the water. He asked, "Why did you walk there? The two directors smiled at each other: "There are two rows of stakes in this pond. Because it rained these two days, the water just rose below the surface. We all know the location of the stake, so we can step on it. Why don't you ask? "No one can float on the water, which is the common sense of doctoral students. It is the experience accumulated by the two directors who stood on the stake and experienced countless floating experiences on the water. Doctors have a high degree of self-sustaining, which not only violates their own experience, but also has no experience of learning wooden stakes floating on the water, so they stumble. People who respect experience can take fewer detours. Education represents the past, and there are still many experiences and common sense in life. Only by continuous learning can we speed up the mastery of these experiences and common sense. Learning ability represents the future. A good team should be a learning team. 7. Be prepared for the crisis! Two men met a big tiger in the forest. A quickly took off a pair of lighter sports shoes from the back and put them on. B was so anxious that he scolded, "What are you doing? Changing shoes can't beat the tiger! " A said, "I just want to run faster than you." "In 2 1 century, no sense of crisis is the biggest crisis. Especially after China's entry into WTO, telecommunications, banking, insurance and even civil servants, which we think are very stable and secure, will also face many variables. When more tigers come, are we ready for running shoes? Eight, opportunities favor people who are better prepared! Colleagues A, B and C are white-collar workers in the joint venture company. They all feel that their ambitions have not been appreciated by their superiors, and they all want to find an opportunity to show their talents to their bosses! Colleague a thought, if I have the opportunity to meet my boss, I will definitely show my talents! Colleague B, who has the same idea, further inquired about the boss's commuting time and figured out when he could get into the elevator. He also took the elevator at this time, hoping to meet his boss and say hello. Colleague c went further. Learn about the boss's struggle in detail, find out the school where the boss graduated, interpersonal style and focus, carefully design a few simple but weighty opening remarks, take the elevator at the calculated time, and say hello to the boss several times, and finally have a long talk with the boss one day, and soon have a better position. Fools miss opportunities, wise men seize opportunities, and winners create opportunities. Opportunities are only given to those who are prepared, and the word "preparation" is not just talk. Nine, the ability is greater than the position, there will be more opportunities. A said to B, "I want to leave this company. I hate this company! " B suggestion: "I agree with both hands! ! But when you leave the company, you must let the company see your value and let the company know that your departure is not the best time, and it can only prove your failure. Q: Why? B said, "If you leave now, the company will not lose much. You should take advantage of the opportunity in the company and try your best to attract some customers for yourself and become an independent figure in the company. If you leave again at this time, these customers may be lost because of your departure, but you can't. The company will suffer heavy losses and be very passive. A thinks what B said is very reasonable. So he worked hard and got what he wanted. After more than half a year's efforts, he has many loyal customers. When we meet again, B asks A: It's time to jump, so hurry up! A smiled indifferently: the boss talked to me for a long time and was going to promote me to be the assistant to the general manager. I have no plans to leave for the time being. In fact, this is also the original intention of B. A person's job is always just for his resume. Every work experience will be recorded in your resume. Cherish every job and experience you have. As long as you work hard and let the boss really see that your ability is greater than your position, you will get more opportunities. Ten, what is "strong" Five-year-old Hank and his parents and brothers went to work in the forest when it suddenly began to rain, but they only brought a poncho. Dad gave the poncho to mom, mom gave it to my brother, and my brother gave it to Hank. Hank asked, "Why did my father give it to my mother, my mother gave it to my brother and my brother gave it to me?" Dad replied, "because dad is better than mom, mom is better than brother, and brother is better than you." "We will all protect the weak." Hank looked around and ran to spread the poncho on a delicate flower swaying in the wind and rain. This story tells us that a truly powerful person is not necessarily how powerful and rich he is, but how helpful he is to others. Responsibility allows us to accomplish things, and love allows us to do things well. Eleven, once the sea is difficult for water, forever amber and his party went to play racing. The first time I played, besides being excited, I couldn't help thinking. Playing racing is playing speed. The bold one "flies" after running a few laps, while the timid one is overtaken by others again and again, and it is neither too slow nor too slow. On the way back, this group of people were still talking about racing. One said, Ah, today I finally feel like a bolt of lightning. One said: I always feel that it is not fast enough. Everyone laughed when they heard it. It turns out that "not fast enough" is the fastest person in the industry; And with the feeling of "lightning speed", it is precisely the slowest one. At first glance, this joke is absolutely correct, but think about it carefully. One will drive faster and faster because it feels "not fast enough", and the other already feels "as fast as lightning", and of course it will not accelerate again. Those who feel pain are not the most painful people in the world, and those who are proud of the spring breeze are not necessarily the most successful people. Looking back, the person who may have experienced a dull experience really experienced a thrilling experience, and everything returned to calm. The so-called people who think they are rich may be people who have experienced greed. Twelve, even the wisest man is foolish, who is the hero in the world? A psychology professor went to an insane asylum to learn about the living conditions of mental patients. After all, it's an eye-opener to think that these people are crazy and act unexpectedly. Unexpectedly, when I was about to return, I found my tire dropped. What's more, the person who gave birth unexpectedly dropped the screw. Without screws, they can't use the spare tire! The professor was at a loss. When he was very anxious, a madman jumped over and stopped to ask what had happened. The professor ignored him and told him out of courtesy. The madman smiled and said, "I have an idea!" " "He removed one screw from each tire so that he had three screws to install the spare tire. The professor was pleasantly surprised and very curious: "How did you come up with this idea?" The madman smiled and said, "I am a madman, but I am not a fool!" " "In fact, there are many people in the world who always show different fanaticism because they find fun in their work, which is hard to understand. When many people laugh at others as crazy, others still laugh at them as idiots. Stupidity and cleverness are the highest state of being a man and doing things, especially in China.