Children’s reactions to getting along with friends are very direct. They may be playing together one moment, and then say “I won’t play with you” the next moment. When children feel lost because of their friends, parents can Use some methods to guide.

Regardless of age, people always expect to be recognized by others, especially children from kindergarten to primary school, who are more likely to have their mood affected throughout the day by the reactions of their friends. Sometimes there is a new student in the class, or someone brings a new toy to school, etc., which attracts the child's original friends away, causing the child to feel lost and lonely for a while, making the child appear unhappy. This always happens over and over as the child grows up, and may even last until adolescence before it slowly ends.

When a child feels lost because of a relationship with friends, please do not casually say: "Friends are not important." This will undoubtedly make the child feel that "you don't understand at all" and they will never want to be with you again in the future. Talk about what's on your mind. Don't add insult to injury by labeling your child "jealous" and making your child feel "guilty". This will only make him withdraw even more, making it more difficult for him to get over the loss. At this time, we can use three methods to guide the child to adjust his mood:

When the child feels very lost, first guide the child to find something he can do alone to help him shift his attention. To reduce the impact of loss. Then guide your children to understand that some things are only temporary, so don’t rush to conclusions. Tell your children that people are always curious, so they are particularly attracted to new things, and things may return to normal in two or three days. Therefore, you must develop the habit of "don't rush to conclusions" so that you will not easily blame others and damage the relationship with your friends.

"Sameness" is the catalyst for building interpersonal relationships, even in the adult world. When we meet someone for the first time, do we often ask about the other person’s school, work, and interests... Of course, this is not a net worth survey, but trying to find the most common points with each other in order to open up topics that the other person is interested in. . When we expect children to play with new friends, we can guide them to think about what they have in common with each other. For example, they both like to play football. When children find that the other person is the same as themselves, they will naturally draw closer to each other. distance.

Feeling of loss is a very common emotion. Give your children more time to practice sorting out their emotions. If your child takes the initiative to seek help, parents should not hesitate to help. But it doesn’t mean that parents should be their children’s best friends, but they should help their children and their friends create the most similarities!

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