We live in an extroverted world, and extroverts are considered to be positive, active, enthusiastic and energetic. Introverts are considered sensitive, taciturn, indifferent, conservative, fragile, pessimistic, lonely and so on.

The subject said that he was particularly slow and didn't like to communicate with people.

Perhaps the subject is an introverted person who likes to be alone and think.

If you want to be extroverted, you can have the good popularity of extroverts and excellent communication skills.

According to Brann Trier, a professor of psychology at Harvard University, his Theory of Freedom:

Everyone's personality = fixed trait+free trait.

Fixed characteristics, as the name implies, are everyone's nature, whether introverted or extroverted.

The characteristic of freedom is that we can play people who are different from our nature to achieve our goals.

Freedom is the right to be yourself at other times by playing a role beyond your own personality at one time. For example, play an extrovert who is particularly good at telling jokes at parties.

The more I want to play a role beyond personality in some occasions, the more I need to be myself in other occasions. When you are yourself, you will feel more relaxed and comfortable.

Chen Lai, Ph.D. in Psychology, Zhejiang University, can be used here to "restore the niche":

In the space that makes you feel relaxed, there is no purpose in doing something that makes you feel relaxed, even if you are in a daze, it can be counted as one thing. And then named it "restoration niche", which can only be owned if it is named.

What is your repair niche?

I am a psychologist, Kun Xiaofeng, and I look forward to being a better self with you! (⊙v⊙)