I met a colleague yesterday, and I met him head-on, but the other person pretended not to see him and passed by. This colleague is a senior in the unit, and in the eyes of the boss and many colleagues, he is very good. I originally wanted to He said hello to the other party, but seeing that the other party didn't want to pay attention, he just passed by.

My first reaction is to ask myself, what did you do wrong to be so unlovable?

However, I will slowly enlighten myself. If others don’t want to talk to you or don’t like you, that is their business. You have done nothing wrong. Moreover, you are not here to make friends when you work in the company. Yes, you don’t have to be liked by everyone.

Moreover, with different auras and different values, there are always some people that you may not like at all, and of course others may not like you either, so there is no need to blame yourself or try to please.

The rest of your life is very short. You just want to spend your energy on your family and friends. Moreover, you are here to work, not to be liked by others. So, it’s not that uncomfortable.

Another saying is that the most bad people are when you are weak. Although I don’t want to force chicken blood, but it is true that at work, my ability is not very outstanding. At the age of 40, I am still There's something embarrassing about it.

In fact, I didn’t plan well along the way, because a word of dislike became an excuse for me to stagnate. However, there are so many dislikes in life, and hard work is the last word.

In the workplace, ability still matters, so future development requires continuous learning, reading, reflection, and exercise. In short, at least one body and mind must be on the road.

Looking back on my youth life, I spent too much energy on internal friction and self-blame. I was also very sensitive and had low self-esteem. When I saw myself with colleagues and friends, I was timid and trying to please. Don't talk about others, I don't like it myself.

I feel sorry for myself, why do I attack and blame myself like this? Even though I am not as good as others in many aspects, I am always positive and respect people who are different from me. I am kind and sincere. That's enough. I also have many advantages. Why can't I look at my own strengths more?

Recently I have read a lot of psychology and growth books. I feel that I really should love myself well in order to have the ability to love others. I don’t have to be humble to please others, because when do I You can't make everyone like it.

Therefore, no matter what you struggle with or feel uncomfortable about, if you have the energy, you should read more books and write more. Improving yourself is the most important thing.

Writing these words makes me feel calmer. Be yourself. I am here to work, not to make friends!