1. Legend has it that Confucius was young and courteous. One autumn, dark clouds were rolling in, the cold wind was blowing, and fallen leaves fell from the trees and flew with the wind. At this time, the young Confucius was concentrating on reading under the window. Because the weather was too cold, he wore thin clothes and rubbed his hands from time to time. The mother sitting aside said heartbrokenly: "My child, take a rest for a while!"

"Okay!" Confucius agreed and stood up and picked up the Zudou (a ritual instrument at that time) placed next to the table. ), quietly walked out of the house. The mother hurriedly said: "My child, it's windy outside and it's so cold. It's about to rain. Don't go out to play in the yard."

Confucius replied with a serious face: " No, mother, I am offering sacrifices to the gods. "Why are you doing such a great gift?" his mother asked him. "If I don't learn etiquette well now, I won't know how to behave when I grow up." After hearing what Confucius said, his mother was so surprised that she was speechless.

2. Yan Ying was a politician of the same generation as Confucius and was respected by Confucius. One day, after Yan Ying's coachman came home, his wife asked for a divorce. The coachman was puzzled and his wife said, "I saw you driving past the door today through the crack in the door. Yan Ying is so short, but he became the prime minister and became famous among the princes. Still so unpretentious and inferior to others.

And you are eight feet tall, but you are just his servant, but you are so high-spirited and arrogant. You have no future like this, so I want a divorce. After hearing these words, the coachman became modest and cautious and worked hard. After Yan Ying learned about it, he also worked hard to train him. Later, the coachman became a doctor.

Confucius especially admired Yan Zi's way of making friends. The longer Yan Zi made friends, the more respectful and polite he became, and the more others respected him.

3. Gongsun Chi, a disciple of Confucius, was on an envoy to the state of Qi. Ran Qiu asked Confucius for some rice subsidies on behalf of his mother. Confucius said: "Give her six measures and four liters." Ran Qiu asked for more. Confucius said: "Give her another two dou and four liters." Ran Qiu thought it was too little, so he gave Gongsun Chi's mother more. Confucius said: "Gongsun Chi went to the state of Qi, with fat horses and light fur, and a majestic appearance. I have heard that a gentleman only provides help in times of trouble, not the icing on the cake." Helping others in need does not help the rich, and helping young people in need does not help the poor. This is The attitude of a gentleman.

4. Confucius said that if you do not say something to others that you can say to others, it is a loss of words; if you say something to others that you cannot say to others, it is a loss of words. A wise man neither loses people nor loses words. When he was in the countryside, Confucius had a gentle and courteous appearance, and behaved like a man who was not good at words; when he was offering sacrifices to the ancestral temple and discussing government affairs, he was very good at discerning and answering questions fluently.

When talking with senior officials, he is upright and argumentative, and dares to tell the truth; when talking with junior officials, he talks eloquently, in a friendly and joyful way; when the king looks at the court, he is respectful but dignified. Moderate, not stretched or relaxed. Speaking according to the person's character and situation requires kindness, wisdom and courage.

5. After Confucius left the State of Cao and went to the State of Song, he practiced etiquette with his disciples under a big tree. Sima Huan of the Song Dynasty wanted to kill Confucius, so he cut down the big tree. A disciple urged Confucius: "Let's leave quickly."

Confucius said: "Since God has made me possess the nature of saintliness, what can Huan Miao do to me?" Don't be greedy in good times. Adversity brings joy, everything is an opportunity to hone oneself, be righteous, strive for self-improvement, be grateful to Huan Ming, and be grateful to your opponents.