There is no scientific and standard definition of love child complex. Parents who are in love with their children have been child-centered since the day their children were born. Over time, they gradually develop a dependence on their children. Once the children grow up and become independent, parents may have the problem of "excessive love". It can range from a feeling of loss to a state of anxiety and restlessness.

Current situation of love for children:

In recent years, parents’ “love for children” complex has become more and more serious. Among the citizens who came to the psychological center for consultation last year, 10% suffered from “excessive love”. Disease, Mother's Day has just passed recently. She called on children to establish a "feedback" heart, communicate more with their parents, and use love to untie their parents' knots.

The love child complex has actually existed since ancient times, but it has become more and more serious in modern society. The reason is that since the 1970s, China has implemented the family planning policy, and many families have only children. From the day a child is born, the child is the center of attention. As time goes by, a dependence on the child gradually develops. Once the child grows up and becomes independent, parents may have the problem of "excess love", which may lead to a feeling of loss. The worst is anxiety and restlessness, especially as Mother's Day falls these days. Every day, several anxious parents come for consultation because of such problems.

How to improve the love story:

For this special emotion, there are a few things you can try:

1. Overcoming jealousy caused by the mentality of exclusivity

It is not easy for a mother to raise her son. Psychologically, it is easy for a mother to still treat her grown son as a child and not be used to giving up her care for him. Even though she knows it is impossible, she still hopes to monopolize her son's love, is afraid that her son will neglect her after getting married, and is jealous of her daughter-in-law's important position in her son's life. This must be overcome, otherwise the sincerity of love will be harmed.

2． If you love him, you should make him feel happy

We often see the embarrassment and troubles of sons at a loss due to the tense relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the battle for the family can only lead to a lose-lose situation. Loving him should make him happy, not satisfy your own selfish desires. The mother should start from her son's happiness and understand that her son's ultimate partner is still his wife. The mother must adjust the mother-child relationship model that she is accustomed to, take the initiative to "retreat", psychologically accept the fact that her son has started a family and start a career, and let her son live his own life. And you can find your own happiness, such as developing hobbies, wandering in the mountains and rivers, making a group of friends...

3. Treat your daughter-in-law with gratitude

The mother should think that her daughter-in-law has made a great contribution to her son's emotions and marriage. It was she who made him start a family and start a business, and truly become a man. This should be the result of her years of training her son. In the final analysis, the goal we hope to achieve is not to regard our son as a baby that will never grow up. He should be grateful to his daughter-in-law for helping him fulfill his wish and fulfill his son's wish, instead of being jealous of his son's love for his daughter-in-law. If mothers could treat their sons' marriages in this way and untie the "love child complex", there would not be so many "chewing old people", "lai family" people, "fear of hardship and tiredness, unmarried and infertile" people and adult infantile diseases. For the health of their children, mothers must treat their children rationally.