The biggest humbleness of parents is that their children reach puberty. What are the main points to keep in mind when getting along with children? 1, pay attention to children's friends, choose childhood children to tell you everything, what happened at school, and get along with children; When you reach puberty, if you ask who you get along with, children will think that you have been spying on him and don't want you to know. This does not mean that children have all kinds of bad behaviors.

Pay attention to children's choice of friends. The influence of adolescent friends is sometimes greater than that of parents. Children listen to their friends, but not necessarily their parents. Invite children's friends to my home to help solve difficulties, parents' positive attitude will be recognized by children and communication will be smooth.

2. Respond to the child's accusation objectively. A characteristic of adolescent children is that they always emphasize their parents' mistakes, especially when the relationship is closer. The more children blame, the less they need to thank. They like to find faults and problems in various ways, which makes their parents uncomfortable, embarrassed and ashamed.

In the book "Reconciliation with Adolescence", it is considered as a part of precision medical care for adolescents and children. Besides, teenagers and children can easily dream of other adults.

So parents should be prepared in advance. It is not that children despise their parents. In fact, children want to surpass their parents, become better people, understand their parents' accusations, be themselves, strive to be better parents and do what they can.

3. Moderate opening is a proposal to specifically guide children how to do it. Babbling will make children feel bored. Children feel that they have grown up and don't want to rely on their parents' support, so that parents feel that they have no strength to do it and children are unhappy.

Then moderately pretend to be deaf and dumb, let the children try it alone and increase their experience; When children need their own support, they will take the initiative to speak and then give them useful advice. Children feel perfect and independent, and their parents are reliable family members.

4. Properly deal with students' puppy love. Not today. Parents don't have to be at a loss when they hear the news that their children are in love. They are super strong, ruined, and the child's heart knot is not opened, leaving a shadow.

Teacher Liu Chenglian wrote in the book "Walking with Children through High School for Three Years": "Falling in love or lovelorn is normal among primary and secondary school students. As long as you realize this, parents will not be anxious to get angry when their children encounter this problem, but can treat it correctly. "

Teacher Liu Chenglian believes that the "puppy love" of children should be sparse and not blocked. Boys should have a sense of responsibility, girls should pay attention to protect themselves and understand the degree of communication.

Compared with parents' criticism and intervention, adolescent children should come from their parents' understanding and empathy. After some things, children's love usually ends in vain, and parents should be calm when they return to normal study.