Many parents in life hope that their children can make friends and play with some positive children. After all, there is a saying that all people near Zhu Zhechi are black. I hope that most of my friends can be virtuous, even the type of schoolmaster. Only in this way can we have positive guidance for children and don't want them to be with some stubborn children. Many parents are even more worried about not making friends. Their children always like to stay at home and don't want to go out to play. Even at school, they like to be alone. Such parents hope that their children can take the initiative to make friends, even if they make some friends whose conduct looks bad, it is naturally good, which basically verifies that the children are normal. In this case, parents always want to make more friends for their children and put my children's future in danger. In fact, many times, these behaviors of children are influenced by the day after tomorrow, and these factors are most inseparable from parents.

What makes children afraid of socializing? First, the influence of parents.

Many children stay at home with their mothers from birth and have little chance to get in touch with the outside world. Over time, the children's world is very narrow. There is little time to contact people, and the circle becomes self and mother. Children grow up in such an environment, unwilling to break such a comfortable environment, and even more unwilling to contact strange people and things. Naturally, when you grow up, your social skills will be poor. Because in children's minds, they don't know how to deal with strangers and what is social.

Second, cowardice and inferiority.

Many children have very low self-esteem and think they are inferior to others in many ways. Even with their peers, they think they have no advantage. I'm afraid to expose my shortcomings when making friends with others. I am afraid that no one will agree with me, and I am timid, so I become more withdrawn. Often such children are because their parents often accuse them of being grumpy. Let the child's self-affirmation become blurred, and the child will become unwilling to make friends, unwilling to socialize and afraid of exposure.

Third, parents often label them negatively.

In the world of children, what I want more is the recognition and respect of my parents. Therefore, praise for children often makes children more motivated to do things. When parents always label their children with some negative labels, it will damage their self-esteem and gradually lose their self-confidence. Children are reluctant to socialize, and they are more afraid that others will look at themselves like their parents. Children's world also needs face, and some negative labels such as stupidity and bad will directly bring psychological mapping to children. It will hurt children and want to escape from the real world, so they become more withdrawn and unsociable.

Fourth, there are social shadows.

Children's world is relatively simple, but often a word can seriously hurt children. For example, when many single-parent children play together, some people will make fun of him for having no parents. In this environment, if parents don't stop him in time, the child's heart will think that this is a very shameful thing, and it will also hurt his self-esteem and his heart. He will want to escape from this world and leave a shadow in society. Children will hate making friends and refuse to share their things with others.

Fifth, congenital personality factors.

Many children are introverted, not social obstacles. I just don't want to meet too many people in the children's world. I don't want to share it with others. I just like living in my own world. A large part of the reason is congenital, and such children do not have mental illness. I just like this lifestyle.

No matter how old children are, they need to socialize, which can make them grow up healthily. It can not only give children psychological comfort, but also enable children to constantly exercise themselves in social skills and enhance their influence. If children can't socialize, it will become a stumbling block to their social progress, which will seriously affect their future development and may also affect their future career and marriage. Therefore, parents hope that their children can find a correct way to open social interaction through correct guidance.

How should parents cultivate their children's social skills? First, encourage children to make friends.

Parents' encouragement to their children can enhance their confidence. When children summon up courage to solve social problems, parents should also give correct guidance. Finding the right person, such as finding peers, finding people with similar interests, or children with good friends and relatives in their lives, are all objects for children to open social doors. Appropriate encouragement to give children a certain space can make children more independent and naturally open their hearts.

Second, participate in social activities.

Children are most likely to make friends in social activities. If parents perceive that their children are unwilling to participate in social activities, don't force them to participate at this time. Find out why. If forced, it may be counterproductive. Parents should learn to communicate with their children. And encourage children to participate in social activities. Children can find their confidants and friends in a relaxed atmosphere, so that they can be willing to socialize.

Third, role exchange.

Social environment is very important. Parents may wish to cultivate their children's environmental simulation at home first, and then let their children feel it in society. For example, imitate children to buy hamburgers, children to buy snacks and other activities, so that children are interested in guiding children to socialize and communicate at home. Through scenario simulation, let children like this way and be willing to express themselves.