First, friends who are helpful to us have three characteristics:
1, Youzhi. Friends who can tell us the truth. No matter our strengths or weaknesses, whether we are right or wrong, he can call a spade a spade and give sincere advice and sincere wishes. This is a true friend.
2. Forgive me. A generous and tolerant person. Appreciate your strengths and tolerate your weaknesses, so as to make friends.
3. Friends hear more. A knowledgeable friend. Remember, knowledge is not learned, you can speak and do, and only when you learn can you have real moral cultivation. "Listening too much" is not a so-called "well-informed person" who likes gossip.
Secondly, friends who are harmful to us also have three characteristics:
1, friends make friends. People with special hobbies and eccentric temper, such as gambling, stealing, fighting, etc., friends with these bad habits, try to stay away from them.
2. Friendly and soft. A person with a soft surface and no independent mind at heart. On the surface, such a person looks particularly good-natured and docile. He doesn't object to anything you say, and so do you.
Although he thought it was wrong to do illegal things, he didn't say anything and didn't object. This kind of friend can be said to be a failure, and failure is not enough.
3, friends are easy. The worst person. It can be said that he is a flatterer who specializes in flattery and catering. On the surface, he is full of rhetoric, but in fact he is full of something. This kind of friend is definitely a loser, so be especially careful.
Extended data:
Share the classic famous sentences of The Analects of Confucius;
1, don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you. -The Analects of Confucius-Yan Yuan
Don't impose things or things you don't like on others.
Appreciate bad things, we often want others to bear them, but if we think from the perspective of others, no matter who bears the consequences, its ultimate nature will not change. Empathy, putting yourself in others' shoes, thinking about others' advantages and disadvantages from one's own advantages and disadvantages, and thinking from the other's position should be the principle of being a person we pursue all our lives.
2, the bow from the thick accumulation of complaints. -The Analects of Confucius-Wei Linggong
Interpretation is more about blaming yourself than blaming others.
To appreciate this sentence is to be strict with yourself and be lenient with others. The way to cultivate a gentleman: be strict with yourself, always think for yourself, and don't complain about others.
3, see xian Si Qi yan, see xian Si Qi introspection. -"The Analects of Confucius, Establishing Man"
When you meet a wise man, you should learn from him. When you see people who are not wise, you should reflect on your mistakes.
Appreciate in life, when we see people who are better than ourselves, we often show jealousy or disgust, while when we see people who are not as good as ourselves, we will laugh or dismiss them and be complacent. This is a bad concept of life. We should face up to our shortcomings and learn from the strengths of others. Only in this way can we make continuous progress.
4, the gentleman has three precepts: when he was young, his blood gas was undecided, and his color was empty; It is also strong and bloody, and it is fighting; Even when you are old, your blood will decline, so you can get rid of it.
A gentleman should be alert to three things in his life: when he was young, he was growing bones and muscles, and his qi and blood had not yet been finalized, so he must be alert to men and women; In the prime of life, you are strong and energetic, so you should be alert to unprincipled disputes and struggles; When you are old, your physical strength and energy are poor, so be wary of greed.
Appreciating this sentence is a very warning sentence for teenagers in our modern society. Because it puts forward the influence of debauchery on the physical and mental health of teenagers, we should pay attention to this sentence, because it has considerable educational significance for our next generation and the future of our motherland!
The Analects of Confucius is one of the Confucian classics and a record of the words and deeds of Confucius and his disciples. This quotation was compiled in the early Warring States period. The book * * * consists of 20 chapters and 492 sections. It mainly records the words and deeds of Confucius and his disciples, and embodies Confucius' political opinions, ethical thoughts, moral concepts and educational principles.
This book is one of the Confucian classics, and it is also called "Four Books" with Daxue, The Doctrine of the Mean and Mencius. Together with The Book of Songs, Shangshu, Book of Rites, Zhouyi and Chunqiu, they are called "Four Books and Five Classics". The Analects of Confucius has three versions in ancient times: ancient theory, Lu theory and Qi theory. The Analects of Confucius, which is popular now, is a version formed by collating Lu Lun and Gu Lun.
As a Confucian classic, The Analects is profound and all-encompassing, and its thoughts mainly include three independent and closely dependent categories: ethics-benevolence, social and political category-courtesy, and cognitive methodology category-the mean. Benevolence, first of all, is the true state in people's hearts. The final compromise must be kindness, and this true and kind state is "benevolence".
Confucius established the category of benevolence, and then expounded that courtesy is a reasonable social relationship and a norm to treat people and things, and then expounded the methodological principle of the "golden mean" system. "Benevolence" is the ideological core of The Analects.
Baidu encyclopedia-Analects of Confucius