The above is my own idea, and the following is what I just saw, which makes sense. You can learn from it.
I am a girl. I am disgusted to see that some boys want to chase girls who they like but dare not chase, and want others to chase them backwards.
From a girl's point of view, I know more about girls' psychology. Most girls don't take the initiative to pursue the boys they like, unless they really like them too much or are the kind of girls who are very brave and brave. So, if you like a girl very much and think she is a little interested in you, take the initiative and don't engage in a tug-of-war with her, you will feel uncomfortable. Maybe the person you like will also suffer.
When girls are being chased, their psychology is very complicated. She may be happy, but she is a little scared. She has ambivalence towards the boy who intruded into her quiet life. She didn't mean to. Don't think she is testing you, but she is actually fighting herself. She is afraid of getting hurt.
Don't be afraid that your initiative will bring her disgust. If you don't take the initiative, she won't take the initiative, and it will fade slowly. It's normal if your initial confession is rejected by her. Don't be discouraged, who knows what this girl is thinking?
Maybe if you confess twice, she will be moved by you. A good girl with a kind heart is easily moved.
If you encounter setbacks, leave immediately, never reply to this girl again, protect yourself tightly and lick the wound silently. And when you are in pain, as everyone knows, that girl may be regretting, regretting! Maybe she will secretly cry and regret rejecting you, and then she will be sad to see your indifferent eyes, but she won't tell you, and she will never let you come back to chase her. Your excessive self-esteem may hurt a girl's sensitive heart.
She will think that you don't really like him, otherwise how could you just give her up?
Some people say that it is really difficult for boys and it is not easy to chase girls. But my feeling is that this phenomenon is inseparable from the social role orientation of men and women. From a physiological and social point of view, women are always passive. If, on the other hand, men are ashamed and women are brave, the world will be in a mess! Women's shyness is always beautiful ~ I always hear that a brave man overcame many difficulties and finally won the heart of a beautiful woman. There are few examples to the contrary.
Some boys are afraid that others will say that they are dead and pester them to fight, leaving a bad reputation. But I think boys pursue the girl they like and continue to be nice to this girl after encountering some setbacks, which shows that people really like it and are sincere. If it doesn't work, there's nothing to regret. It's nothing. Who makes people like it? I hate people blindly following me, and I hate boys who have no opinions and care too much about what others think of them. They deserve not to find a girlfriend.
If you are a man, be brave. Girls are emotional and easily immersed in love. Although you work hard, once your heart touches her, you will get more and more love. Such examples abound around us. Girls are gentle and considerate to their boyfriends. What was the sweetness of the original hard work? And most good girls are devoted and single-minded.
Therefore, it is suggested that some boys be brave and pursue the girls they like, instead of being so timid. One is that people think you are unmanly, and the other is that you feel uncomfortable. But, most importantly, you get nothing in the end. Happiness is always earned by yourself, don't expect others to give it to you!
By the way, I think it's good to take the initiative, because your goal is what you really like. Girls are often passive and can only choose to accept and refuse, so I would rather take the initiative and love what I love without regrets!
Life is beautiful, enjoy it and learn to find it!
First, what kind of first impression should I leave on MM (time: I just started to contact MM)
I think the most important thing is to let MM see your ambition.
The greatest charm of a man lies in his successful career. Young people can't be "successful" if they don't work long hours. At this time, you should make MM feel that you are a self-motivated person.
Others can talk nonsense, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell MM that you are full of confidence in the future, that you are not satisfied with the status quo, and that you have a long-term plan. In a word, your future is not a dream.
Confident and responsible.
Don't be a child. Girls are lazy and want to find someone to rely on. You should show your confidence and sense of responsibility.
It's better to have a wrong choice than no choice at all.
Not too formal, but not too casual.
Where it is serious, it is serious. It's funny when it's funny.
Girls like men who are a little cynical, so it seems that they don't care about anything, which is too dull.
Look a little mature
A leisurely man has fatal attraction to mm.
Second, how to further contact MM (time: the stage of starting to chase)
The most important thing at this stage is not to worry, not to make things too clear, so that people can see at a glance that you are chasing others.
Think about it. Most people don't like you at first sight, but they don't hate you at first sight. They are all children of ordinary people (unless you look like Chow Yun Fat, Andy Lau or kevin costner). Good feelings need to be realized through constant understanding, so the key to the problem is the opportunity for further development you want.
Think about it from the girl's point of view: if you rush directly to have sex, the girl must be under psychological pressure. If I find that I don't like you after a while, it won't be a lie, will it? So if you come out resolutely from the beginning, you will basically be bored back immediately.
Start with a low profile.
First of all, we should position the relationship as a "friend", which is originally an "ordinary friend". You want to be a "good friend". Those with taste can also ask the other party to be a "confidante" or something. In short, don't say "chasing you".
Think about it, if you don't mention "chasing" at all, then there is less chance for a girl to "refuse" you-how can you refuse if you don't chase her? !
This can relieve the psychological pressure of girls and let you have a smooth relationship. Don't fantasize about agreeing to marry you after three days. You should communicate fully and understand that feelings don't come out of thin air.
Don't be too impatient in the communication process.
Relax and don't pester others all day. Anyone who does this to you will get tired of it. A good friend of mine told me that the key to chasing girls is eight words-"hot and cold, playing hard to get" (this is the crystallization of my classmates' efforts for many years).
Staying with people all day, naturally you won't think you are good. If you are indifferent for a day or two, girls will remember the benefits of your existence.
Also, don't take out the ambition of "you must marry". It is not good for the price to drop too low. Sometimes you can play a little trick.
Create opportunities appropriately.
I said before, don't turn things into "you are chasing others" right away, you need to get close to girls. At this time, it depends on your creativity.
You can collect information and find ways to turn waiting for rabbits into encounters; You can also pretend to be casual and find the best reason to invite someone to do something with you.
In short, this is the most technical place. If it is really not feasible, you can consult your predecessors.
Bogey: It is impolite to give gifts to others casually.
Some people are eager to chase girls and like to buy things for others often, but they don't know that chasing girls is the most taboo.
As the saying goes, "something for nothing". You are putting pressure on others by giving them something like this. People will feel indebted to you, so they will find ways to repay you. If they can't, they will find a way not to associate with you, so they won't always owe you a favor.
If you want to show your sincerity, please invite girls to spend money together, such as finding a good restaurant to eat or an expensive place to play together. Girls can naturally see that you spent a lot of money, but after all, the money was spent by two people, not taken home.
Third, what is a "girlfriend"?
Girlfriend is a fact, not a promise.
You start dating girls, from "ordinary friends" to "good friends" to "very, very good friends who talk about everything". On a sunny afternoon, you "accidentally" held her hand; In "Willow Shoot on the Moon", you suddenly attack and kiss her. At this time, she is already your girlfriend. Whether she admits it or not, she already thinks you are her boyfriend.
I know the best. I didn't ask "Would you like to be my girlfriend" until I went to bed. Finally, the girl was anxious: "Why don't you ask me to be your girlfriend!" "
So, don't rush to pierce enough paper, the more hazy the situation, the better for you.
What is "confession"?
As I said before, confession is actually just a form, and the correct order should be: in fact, you have become your girlfriend, and you can confess to others. Many people don't understand this problem. They always feel that people promise to be their girlfriends first, and then what? I can only say that they are very, very "simple" and very, very "stupid".
Is there a time when you "have to confess"?
Yes, for example, there is a third party, or your relationship with a girl is immature, but two people may be separated for a while.
At this time, confession is an immature confession, which is very risky. It is similar to the grim situation when playing Go. The backward side was forced to release the "winning hand". If you win, you win. If you lose, you can only say that you are born with bad luck.
Don't say the word "love" easily.
I often see a "bold confession" in the forum. To be honest, I really think this is a very immature performance. "Love" is a sacred word, which means pursuit, commitment and even a responsibility.
A man who casually says "love" is irresponsible.
Fourth, civilized love cannot be forced.
Not every MM can catch up.
There will always be many people chasing good girls, and it is impossible to satisfy everyone's wishes. There will always be losers. For example, even if you study hard and master the principle of chasing MM, you can't catch up with either twin.
Look at the problem from another angle. Even if a rural nanny who has never graduated from primary school is kind to you, earning 600 yuan a month and buying you 700 yuan as a gift (overdraft), and willing to be a cow and a horse for you, you will not fall in love with her. If she cries and pesters you every day, you must feel bored.
So love needs a material foundation, at least a balance.
Chasing MM is a serious social activity.
Don't bother others, leave yourself a way out. Why don't men have wives? Some MMS are snobs (few). If you are not convinced, you can prove with facts that "she was blind at that time". Never mistake others for yourself.
Finally, don't be cynical in front of MM, cynicism sometimes means "you are a loser".
I found some more. I don't know if it will be useful to you. Some tricks are funny, but most of them are good. Say to you again: Come on! ! ! !
100 trick to make her love you (men must read; Women want to see)
You don't have to give her diamonds and agates, let alone buy her a car house, as long as you can do the following.
Make sure she loves you forever.
1. Plan an appointment in advance, and don't wait until the weekend to ask her what she wants to do.
Ask him how he is today, including what he is going to do (for example, what is the result of your visit to the doctor).
3. Practice listening and asking questions
4. sympathize with her problem and don't try to solve it.
5. Compliment her appearance
6. Give her a bunch of flowers on another special festival or occasion to give her a surprise.
When she does something for you, you should say thank you.
8. When holding hands, you can't be weak.
9. If you will be late, call her and tell her, but don't make up many reasons for being late.
10. When she is sad, identify with her feelings.
1 1. Help her when she is tired.
12. Don't forget to help her open and insert the straw when drinking.
13. At work, call her to ask how she is, share some exciting things, or tell her (I love you).
14. Whenever her feelings are hurt, give her sympathy and tell her, "I'm sorry to make you.
Feel hurt "and then be silent, let her feel that you know her hurt, and don't provide answers or solutions.
It's not your responsibility to release her injuries.
15. After she did her hair, she praised her hairstyle.
16. Don't peek at other girls when talking to her.
17. When traveling, relax the trip and don't make her feel too hasty.
18. When she is talking to you, put down the newspaper or turn off the TV, and concentrate on what she says.
19. Open the car door or the car door for her.
Pay attention to her when she is sad or tired, ask her what to do, and then help her do these things.
2 1. Ask her if she wants to buy anything when you go out. If so, don't forget to buy it.
22. Help her pull the chair.
23. Let her see that you put her photos in your wallet and keep changing them.
When she shares her feelings with you every day, you should be patient and don't look at your watch.
25. Tell her at least a few times a day (I love you).
26. Ask her how she feels now.
27. Before dating her, wash the car and clean the inside.
28. Don't stick too tightly, leave some space for each other.
29. If you are out of town, call and leave your phone number.
30. Help her wash the car
3 1. Whenever you need to leave, let her know you will come back.
32. Take a bath before making love, and if she likes it, sprinkle some cologne.
When she is angry with someone, take her away.
34. Massage her back, neck or feet
35. Sometimes, even if there is no sex, create a hug or gentle atmosphere.
When you get home, don't do anything else. Find her first and hug her.
37. When she watches TV with you, don't turn the turntable with the remote control.
38. Express your feelings for her in public.
39. If she is ill, ask for the latest information at any time.
40. Know her favorite drink, so take out her favorite drink for her to choose when necessary.
4 1. When going out to eat, it is recommended to go to different restaurants, so as not to burden her with restaurants.
42. Buy her tickets for a play, concert, opera, dance or her favorite performance.
43. Create opportunities for you two to dress up beautifully.
44. Be considerate of her being late, or make a temporary decision to change her clothes.
45. Pay more attention to her than others in front of her friends.
46. When listening to her, look into her eyes.
47. Buy her a small gift-such as a box of chocolate candy or perfume.
48. Buy her accessories (take her photo to the shop assistant and help her choose the accessories that suit her).
49. Take pictures of her on special occasions.
50. Hold an umbrella for her when it rains.
5 1. Laugh at her jokes appropriately.
52. Help her with her shopping.
Write her a love letter or a poem and surprise her.
54. You drive on a long trip.
55. Drive slowly, pay attention to safety and respect her choice. After all, she is sitting in the dangerous front seat.
Pay attention to her feelings and say (you look happy today) or (you look tired today)
Then ask this question: Did you have a good day?
57. When taking her out, learn to know the direction clearly, so that she won't feel responsible for the direction.
58. Take her to dance or take a dance class together.
Write some notes or make a sign for special festivals, such as wedding anniversary and birthday.
60. Treat her as you did when you first established a relationship.
6 1. When listening to her, make a moderate hum, hum, ah, oh, let her know that you are interested in what she says.
62. Go out for a romantic short vacation.
63. Buy some good super glue and mend the broken things.
64. The light bulb is broken. Replace it as soon as possible.
65. Help collect garbage.
66. Read or cut out the part of the newspaper that interests her.
67. Write down the telephone information you received from her neatly.
68. Keep the bathroom floor clean and dry it after showering.
If she washes the dishes on weekdays, you wash them occasionally, especially when she is tired.
70. When staying in a hotel, ask the hotel to prepare something special, such as a bottle of champagne, apple juice, or a bunch of bright flowers.
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7 1. Take this heavy bag for her.
72. When traveling, be responsible for carrying luggage and putting it in the car.
When she washes the dishes, she helps her to wash the pots or do other difficult things.
74. Make a "repair" watch, put it in the kitchen, and make her some watches as soon as you have extra time.
It's important, don't delay.
When she prepared dinner, she praised her cooking.
76. Treating her is more important than children. It is she who first attracts your attention and lets the children see her.
77. Touch her occasionally when talking to her.
78. She expressed interest in what she did that day, the books she read and the phone calls she received.
79. repair the damaged things in the house and ask (is there anything in the house that needs to be repaired? I still have time)
80. Make the bed and clean the bedroom
8 1. If she always cooks dinner, or if she is too busy and tired, please take the initiative to cook dinner.
82. Make her a cup of tea when she is tired.
83. Sleep with her at the same time
84. Kiss her before you go out, don't say goodbye.
85. Hug her four times a day
86. Give her twenty minutes of concentration every day (don't read the newspaper or be distracted at this time).
If she washes socks, please wash them upside down, so that she can save this procedure.
88. Increase the time for two people to be alone.
89. Don't answer the phone at intimate moments or when she shares her fragile feelings.
90. Even if the journey is short, we should go together.
9 1. Arrange a picnic
92. While she is operating the washing machine, you collect the dirty clothes beside the washing machine.
93. Take her for a walk
94. Tell her through negotiation that you want her to get what she wants and what you want, but small.
Be careful not to become a missionary.
Let her know that you miss her when you leave home.
96. Take her favorite pie or dessert home.
97. If she usually buys food, go shopping with her when she is free.
98. Don't ignore her feelings when making love.
99. after making love, don't fall asleep. There should be a follow-up kiss and caress.
100. Don't wet the seat cover when urinating.
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