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A good person in the workplace is a kind and weak person.

In the workplace, they endure hardships and stand hard work without complaining, and believe that everything they do is the right thing to do. When encountering difficult and difficult tasks, I am always afraid of others making things difficult for me and rush to do it first.

When it comes to reputational interests, I am embarrassed to compete with others. Obviously I have done a lot, but I dare not say anything for fear of being suspected of fighting for fame and wealth.

Despite this, I still won’t fall into the trap of others. Because he does a lot of things and sees the results, he becomes everyone's competitor and is afraid that all the credit will go to him. Moreover, if you don’t plan for anything and still work so seriously, who would believe it?

There must be an ulterior motive. Naturally, there are no friends left.

There is also a kind of good old man who says yes to everyone and everything. The ability to mix mud is strong. But losing one's self also makes one judge.

For example, in a department, there are two small groups. They compete fiercely with each other. They both hope to have a large sphere of influence, so they recruit people everywhere.

The good old guy was their target at first, but the good old guy not only had a good attitude towards them, but also treated the other party well. Being submissive means not daring to express one's position. This attitude dissatisfied both parties.

Since any group is dissatisfied with him, then he will be left alone. No one cares about him, and no one regards him as a friend.

Hello everyone, my name is @紫丁花tentgyu. I am very happy to answer your question. Why do good people in the workplace not have too many friends? The following is my answer. I look forward to your active discussion and interaction. Thank you all.

Here I will talk about my own experience, I hope it will be a reference.

I am what the person in the question calls a good old man. But I think whether you are a good person is not necessarily related to whether you have too many friends.

So, how to be a good person with friends in the workplace?

First of all, as a good person, you need to make your "good person" behavior valuable. You don't have to do it deliberately, but it is necessary to let the other person understand what you have done for him. You don’t have to deliberately do it because you don’t want to put a psychological burden on the other person. You are just doing this out of friendship; and if you want the other person to understand, it is because you don’t understand that you, a good old man, are doing it in vain, and you will not win the heart of your friend. It is impossible to establish the emotional bond of friends.

Second, apart from good old friends, friendship relationships in the workplace need to be maintained over a long period of time. Friendship relationships are actually somewhat similar to love relationships in this regard. You need to keep in touch, have something to talk about, and have activities to do. In other words, when you have something to do, say a few words, put your arm around your shoulders, drink two cups of tea, even if you post a boring and funny video on WeChat.

Third, the most important point is to know how to mingle in the workplace, blend into a powerful and well-connected circle, and become a member of the circle. This circle is your circle of friends. A good person is generally kind to people outside the circle, but he must be truly kind to the people within the circle. Circles are an important rule for making friends in the workplace.

The phenomenon in question does exist in the current workplace. I think these so-called "good old guys" can be found in every unit, and there are quite a few of them. Their general philosophy of doing things is to protect themselves and play both ways. , I don’t offend anyone. In their eyes, I don’t offend anyone. I say hello to everyone I meet. I must have many friends, but the fact is just the opposite. This kind of people generally have few friends. To be precise, no one wants to be with them. The reasons for making friends, I think, are as follows: 1. Making friends requires sincerity and being honest with each other. This kind of person is too hypocritical and treats everyone the same. Some people are afraid that they will not be able to get sincerity and are unwilling to make friends with them. friend. 2. This kind of person plays both sides, and no one can offend him. In fact, he is just a "coward and a follower of the wind." No matter whether people are right or wrong, you always have to take one side. Even if they are wrong, it means you have a position. Such people don't take part in right or wrong, so naturally they have no friends. 3. In today’s workplace, factional struggles are sometimes serious. People who have a good relationship naturally belong to the same faction. If there are factions, there will naturally be fights. Such people don’t want to offend anyone, so they naturally won’t take sides, and of course they will have no friends. .

There is an old Li in our unit who is this type of person. He is in his thirties and has been with the unit for almost six years. He is still an ordinary technician. He is as tired as a dog running to the construction site every day, and his face is gray and gray. This person is very good at flattering people and showing off in front of the leader. He should be valued by the leader. However, because of his mediocre ability, he has not been promoted. He has almost no friends in the unit. Even if he is looking for someone to replace him, no one is willing to give him a replacement. Yes, his characteristic is that he "looks up but not down", and he treats everyone equally in front of his colleagues. Do you think he can have friends? The above is Guzhu Xianke’s understanding and analysis of this issue. I hope it will be helpful to this friend!

Treating gay people is as cold as winter.

They say that people who are nice to you are definitely not good people. They are either unprincipled or two-faced. I think 70% of people say you are a good person! Reliable! Even if you are relatively successful as a human being!

It is an indisputable fact that good people in the workplace often do not have many friends.

Because a person is labeled a "good old guy". To put it nicely, it is because people think you are kinder and more polite to everyone, so everyone calls you a "good old guy", but to put it mildly, it is not To put it nicely, the so-called good old people actually refer to those people who do not have their own positions and principles. There is another name for such people, that is, "wall grass".

You can think about the following, what exactly is the workplace? A point I have always emphasized: the workplace is a field of interests.

Since the workplace is a place of interests, we all know that once anything is linked to interests, there will always be people who are ready to fight for more interests, and even use various means and methods to fight for what originally belongs to them. After all, "everything in the world is for profit", so this is also a normal phenomenon.

However, in the normal process of interest distribution and interest competition, there is a topic that professionals can never avoid, and that is: taking sides.

Speaking of the importance and danger of choosing sides in the workplace, many people also know that there are many examples of people who have been unable to stand up in the workplace because they were on the wrong team. Why choose sides in the workplace? So important? Because this also involves the issue of interest distribution. For example, if you choose to work with this leader, then you are "his person". In the future, he will naturally give you priority when promoting subordinates, right?

Okay, now that we understand this truth, let’s look at why good guys are the least popular in the workplace? In fact, to put it bluntly, the reason why good people in the workplace are always unhappy is precisely because good people often do not choose to take sides. So, why don’t these people choose to take sides? This may be related to his own personality, or it may be related to his cautious style in everything, or it may even be because he has no qualifications and background and really cannot afford to lose.

In short, these kind of good people are often unwilling to offend anyone in the workplace, for fear of offending the other party by standing on the wrong team. Therefore, they would rather "step into two different boats", not offending either side, and striving to please both sides. But the result is that the good guy often does not benefit from both sides, neither side trusts him, and neither side pays attention to him. , it is not difficult to understand that he ended up alone.

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In my understanding, good people are relatively rigid. Rigid people tend to go their own way and are indifferent to others. Don't like to communicate with others.

Even if you greet him politely, he will always be indifferent and will not react in the way you expect.

In fact, although rigid people generally have fewer interests and hobbies, and do not like to communicate with others, they still have their own pursuits and concerns.

If you want to make more friends, not only should you not be indifferent, but you should spend some time observing carefully, paying attention to every move of others, and looking for what they are really interested in from their words and deeds. Once a topic they are passionate about is touched upon, the other person is likely to show considerable enthusiasm. Thus better communication.

You also need to learn how to get along with others, and the way to get along should be different from person to person 1. How to get along with arrogant and indifferent people

Arrogant and rude people often think of themselves as arrogant and arrogant, showing a " "I am the only one who respects me". Dealing with them is really unbearable. However, if you have to contact this kind of person for your own benefit, how should you deal with it?

There are three most suitable methods:

First, reduce the time you spend with them as much as possible. When you can fully express your opinions and attitudes, or make certain demands, try to minimize the opportunity for him to show his arrogance and rudeness. In this way, the other party will often have to seriously think about the issues you raised due to lack of such opportunities.

Secondly, speak concisely and clearly. Express your requirements and questions clearly in the fewest words possible. In this way, let the other party feel that you are a very straightforward person, a person with little room for bargaining, and therefore restrain yourself.

Finally, you can also invite this kind of people to dance, chat about home affairs, go to KTV to sing, etc. And once the other person shows the true nature of his life in front of you, he will often not be arrogant or rude to you in future interactions. 2. How to get along with people who are taciturn.

People who are taciturn are usually called "boring gourds". When you are with such people, you will always feel dull and stressed. Especially for some people with more outgoing and active personalities, it is even more uncomfortable. Therefore, in this situation, some people deliberately find some topics to talk about in order to liven up the atmosphere. Actually this is not necessary. Because, for people who are taciturn, the reason for this may be that they have something on their mind and do not want to say much. In this case, you should respect the other person, do not destroy the other person's state of mind, and let them maintain an inner-chosen way of survival; on the contrary, if you deliberately find nothing to say and desperately try to find ways to talk to the other person, you will only It's counterproductive and causes the other party's resentment. 3. How to get along with selfish people

Although selfish people only have themselves in mind and pay special attention to the gains and losses of personal interests, they often work selflessly for the sake of profit. You don’t have to have high expectations for them, and you don’t have to expect them to be as affectionate as your friends. The relationship with this kind of person can be just an exchange relationship. You will be rewarded according to what you give, and the benefits you get will be different depending on how well you do it. 4. How to get along with competitive people

Competitive people are often arrogant, show off themselves, and have a strong desire for self-expression. They always strive to prove that they are better than others and more correct than others. When they encounter competitors, they always try to squeeze out the right person, attack them by any means, and strive to gain the upper hand in all aspects. For such a person, you cannot blindly accommodate him, but you must attack his arrogance in an appropriate way at the appropriate time, so that he will know that there are people outside the world, and there is a sky outside the world. 5. How to get along with arrogant people

Arrogant people don’t actually have much knowledge. They tend to brag and talk. The arrogance and disdain they display are actually just a sign of arrogance. A supplement to spiritual emptiness to maintain their vanity. The way to deal with these people is actually quite simple. When I first started to interact with them, I seemed to think that they had a broad vision, knew everything about the world, and seemed condescending. But as long as they discussed a certain issue with them in depth, they would show their flaws. Once the truth is revealed, his prestige will naturally fall to the ground.

In addition, when you first get along with this kind of person, you can use your common sense to "shock" them. If you do this, future interactions will go smoothly. The society we live in is a big stage, and everyone plays a different, complex and changeable role. Only if you are good at interacting with people of different personalities can you thrive in interpersonal relationships and occupy a place in society.

The above is my personal opinion. I hope it will be helpful to you. Welcome to pay attention. I am @安安talk about growth. Let us learn and progress together.

In the workplace, we work very hard every day to have a good relationship with our leaders and colleagues. But now many people are too honest and are always bullied. Are you an honest person?

1. Help with anything.

There is a kind of person who is too enthusiastic. In the workplace, he wants to help others with everything. Over time, he becomes a good person. These people are particularly enthusiastic about other people's affairs, and even sacrifice their own interests to help others. However, this kind of people are not highly regarded in the eyes of others, and may even be disliked by others. The reason is very simple, because these people are too old and good, and others will not take them seriously.

2. Lend any money to others.

This kind of people are basically fools. In their eyes, others are honest and reliable, so they don’t have any precautions against others, especially when others borrow money, they want any money. Borrow and end up making yourself uncomfortable. There are many people who are deceived into borrowing money, but they usually suffer the loss and keep silent, so no one knows about it.

3. Don’t say anything when being bullied.

This type of people is the continuation of the type of people we just mentioned, that is, they were obviously bullied, but they did not care about life and death, and carried it alone. In the end, they could no longer bear it, and they were discovered by others. . It is difficult for such people to stay in the workplace for a long time because they are too honest and will leave when they can no longer handle it.

4. Take the blame for others.

There are also some people, most of whom are new to the workplace, who take the blame after being deceived. This kind of person is very pitiful, because he has done nothing wrong, but he still has to take the blame for others, which makes us really uncomfortable. But there is no way, these people are too old and easy to be deceived and misled by others.

Are you one of the four types of honest people mentioned above? I don’t recommend that you become an honest person, because you are too honest. It is very difficult for Hua to survive in the current society. I hope that everyone can do their own job well, but they must ensure their own interests. If you are too honest, If you are too kind, others will really take you seriously.

The viewpoint of crayfish in the workplace: Good people in the workplace do not have many friends. On the one hand, this is determined by the personality of good people in the workplace, and on the other hand, due to the characteristics of the workplace itself, they do not have many friends.

About the good guys in the workplace

What are the good guys in the workplace? What are the characteristics of a good person in the workplace? Only by fully understanding these can we have a clear understanding of the concept of a good old man.

What is a good person in the workplace?

Good people in the workplace generally refer to those people in the workplace who have a relatively easy-going personality, are not easy to get angry, and will not easily reject or offend others, and sometimes lack principles.

Specific manifestations of good people in the workplace

However, the accounts reimbursers are often gentlemen with Little A, who act coquettishly, say nice things, and have an easy-going personality. A didn't know how to refuse his colleague. The amount was not high and he would offend others if he disagreed, so he chose to acquiesce.

One day, the head office conducted a strict audit and discovered Little A’s irregular operations, and finally chose to fire Little A, who had no principles.

One time, Little K was still working overtime on his own plan. At this time, colleague A came to him, hoping that Little K could help study another plan. Of course the good guy K would not refuse. He wanted to help his colleague complete his plan in the evening and then complete his own plan the next morning.

Unexpectedly, after staying up all night to complete Colleague A’s plan, his time would be occupied by an impromptu meeting the next morning. At this time, Little K realized that his plan might not be completed in time.

The leader asked Little K what he was busy with and why it was not completed. Little K had no choice but to answer honestly: "Last night, I helped colleague A study and improve his plan." The leader asked directly: "You haven't completed your direct job, how can you have the nerve to do other things? You should Don’t you know what I’m doing?”

When Vice President Zhang organized a group dinner, Little A went with him; when Vice President Li organized a group dinner, Little A also Follow along and join in. I thought that no one would be offended, but it turned out that the vice president was not satisfied with Xiao A's participation in the other party's dinner party.

Summary The three examples represent three different kinds of good guys. These good guys are all formed due to their own personalities. In the end, it is you who suffers.

So-called friends in the workplace

I still don’t agree with so-called friends in the workplace. They are more of a small group that stays together for some reason.

Small groups in the workplace

Small groups for hobbies. This type of small group is usually a small group of men who love sports and games, and a small group of women who love shopping. I am a person who likes to eat chickens and drink pesticides, and I have even formed a special group. We often post our results in the group, chat about game revisions, the strengths and weaknesses of heroes, etc. From time to time, we even have dinner dates and battles together.

Small groups of the same age and batch. Such small groups are usually of the same age, or enter the company in the same batch. There is a natural closeness. This type of small group has the same topic and relatively unified values. (Let me talk about my special case here. I have a group with 6 women and 6 men, and they play very well. 11 of the 12 people are born in the 90s, and I am the only one born in the 80s. The key is that they are all single, and I am the only one. Married. I didn’t know how I got involved!)

Friends in the workplace

I have always believed that the workplace is a place of profit. Real friends are hard to find.

Positioning in the workplace leads to few friends. The position of the workplace is to work hard and gain benefits. When certain benefits come, it is almost certain that friends will not exist.

The small team itself determines that there are few friends. Colleagues in a small group can only be colleagues who get along well, but cannot rise to the level of friends. Imagine that there are 7 or 8 people in a small team, and their relationship with each other is in a relatively balanced position. If the relationship between two of them sharply increases, it will be difficult for the team to be compatible.

Summary

A good guy with an easy-going personality is a good guy who suffers from himself, and he is also a good guy who will cause some people to dislike him. Based on this, coupled with the characteristics of the workplace itself, good people rarely have their own true friends.