What should we pay attention to when socializing in the workplace?

1. The workplace is different from school. There are conflicts of interest between colleagues. Therefore, don’t confide in your colleagues in the workplace like you did when you were a student.

2. Don’t speak ill of your boss behind his back. What you say will always be heard. If the boss knows about it, the boss will inevitably have a bad impression of you.

3. Don’t gossip about your colleagues. There is no way to cover up such things as snitching, and colleagues will find out sooner or later. If the incident comes to light, you will easily be isolated among colleagues, at least no one will talk to you.

4. When interacting with colleagues, be polite and consistent with the overall atmosphere. For example, if you work in a state-owned enterprise, it is not appropriate to call your colleagues by their first names like you would in a foreign company. The social atmosphere of each company is different. When you enter the workplace, you must learn to observe people's actions and integrate into the entire environment.

5. Colleagues and friends are different. You should have a sense of boundaries when chatting with colleagues. Don't touch on some sensitive issues, such as salary increases.

6. Control your emotions. When interacting with friends, your angry or sad expressions can be written on your face. But when interacting with colleagues, especially in the office, you must learn to control your emotions, otherwise you will appear unprofessional and leave a bad impression on others. In the workplace, you must have professional qualities and behave like a professional.

Newcomers who are new to the workplace always hope to find colleagues with whom they can confide in, or colleagues with whom they have deep friendships.

But we must realize that the relationship between colleagues in the workplace is different from the relationship between friends. Colleagues have entangled interests. Therefore, it is not a particularly suitable idea to find colleagues with whom you have close friendships in the workplace.

This is determined by the relationship level. The book "The Art of Communication" mentions two prerequisites for communication: clarifying relationships and identity. Without a clear grasp of the relationship, communication will not be smooth.

Many times, the communication problems we have with others are because we have not corrected our position in the other person's mind. Or, you have misplaced the other person's position in your heart.

The relationship hierarchy diagram should be based on the lower one. For example, colleagues in the company can be colleagues or develop into friends. However, if you treat him as a friend and he only treats you as a colleague, then the relationship between you is that of a colleague.

It is true that some colleagues with good relationships can develop into friends, but not all colleagues can develop into friends. Most colleagues only have working relationships.

When you understand this, you will not have any inappropriate thoughts when getting along with your colleagues, and you will not gossip about your colleagues' family affairs.

In addition, the circle of friends must be grouped, especially for colleagues. Why do we need to group? The relationship diagram just now told you that different relationship levels have different contents that can be communicated. If you don't group into groups, others will also feel uncomfortable. If it's a colleague who sees your private affairs in Moments every day and knows things he shouldn't know, he will also feel uncomfortable.

After understanding that most colleagues can only be ordinary colleagues, let’s talk about those colleagues in the workplace who can have deep friendships.

There are indeed some colleagues in the workplace who can have close friendships, especially after they are not in the same company, those colleagues who have a good relationship will become closer.

First of all, let’s look at those colleagues who cannot have close friendships?

Colleagues who love to gossip. There are always some colleagues in the office who like to gossip. I think such colleagues are not worthy of close friendship.

Being dishonest.

Inconsistent with your own values.

After eliminating those friends who are not worthy of close friendship, you will know those colleagues who are worthy of close friendship.

A sincere person.

Compared with your own values.

Colleagues who are willing to take the initiative to help others and are willing to make others successful. Such people have a broad mind.

Colleagues who have been through adversity together, stayed up late to fight together, and have established a deep friendship with each other.

The final reminder is that even colleagues with whom you have close friendships should have reservations. It is better not to tell everything about sensitive issues such as salary and promotion.