First, the division of labor is clear. Office work is a collective behavior, and everyone has a different division of labor. As the person in charge of the office, whether male or female, when assigning work to subordinates; Do not wear "colored" glasses, be equal and fair, do not mix personal emotional preferences, allocate resources according to each's ability, divide the work in place, and correctly avoid office extramarital affairs. Second, the work reduces ambiguous communication. The communication during working hours should not be too ambiguous, which is not suitable for talking about sensitive topics. If one party is interested in talking, the other party should switch in time and not give the other party a chance to "inspire". The so-called confidant and good news are all caused by language. Without language communication, the other party will not know. Third, reduce the time for two people to get along alone and achieve an "intentional" combination, that is, the existence of a third party can upgrade the ambiguity of two people. In fact, men and women will have a heartfelt curiosity about the opposite sex in the first "side by side" and occasional "intimate contact". Fourth, reduce contact outside work at night. Telephone contact with colleagues of the opposite sex is best not to happen after 9 pm or on weekends. This wireless voice is sometimes more "lethal" than face-to-face language. Because of the particularity of communication tools, it adds a layer of dress and decoration in time and space to each other, and pays more attention to politeness and gentleness in words and tone. Sometimes etiquette can set off the atmosphere. Fifth, reducing physical contact with a seemingly casual dish or clothing will sometimes give the other party a spiritual boost, a "body temperature" and effect from a strange opposite sex. This effect, more or less, will make the other person "imagine" and compare with his husband or wife in infinite "fantasy". Sixth, thoughtful words should be appropriate. The boss should not give his subordinates a "small stove" from time to time. I don't know that your unintentional invitation will make the other party flattered and may trigger the desire of the right person. Day after day, year after year, you come and go, familiar and intimate. 7. Reducing traveling alone with colleagues is the biggest accelerator for male and female colleagues to have extramarital affairs. After a long journey, two people with few words have a partner to communicate with during the journey; There are no two men and women whose languages are unfamiliar at ordinary times, but they sit up and take notice because of a friendly act of each other. Because of close observation and testing, the strangeness and estrangement between them have been shortened. Eight, take care of your boss, don't promise too much promotion and care to your subordinates. Perhaps a man's generosity and atmosphere will sometimes evolve into an appreciation; And this appreciation will bring her spiritual gratitude and spiritual motivation, which is the beginning of the bud of office extramarital affairs. A kind of "struggle" does not come from one's own strength and ability, but more from opportunism and crooked ways. How to deal with extramarital affairs in the office? Dilute the relationship 1, reduce the chance of meeting and avoid meeting alone. First of all, both sides of extramarital affairs should have firm beliefs and clear attitudes, and decide to end this improper relationship and avoid meeting alone. It's really hard to give up; When you meet, you should choose a place that is not easy to be ambiguous, or in public, you should treat each other as "buddies" and "friends" in your heart. The content of the conversation is mainly limited to the concern and greetings between friends and confidants, talking about work and study. Or for the sake of relaxing the environment, we can play a joke on each other and avoid talking about emotional topics, such as "missing". Be careful not to be silent when talking, try to keep a relaxed and happy atmosphere and avoid long-term eye contact. If you find that you can't control the situation, you should change the subject or end the conversation as soon as possible. 2, reduce contact, whether it is online contact or telephone contact, it is not easy to completely sever extramarital affairs. Even if you can control not to meet, contact is indispensable. The frequency of SMS, * * and telephone contact should be reduced gradually as far as possible, and the content of SMS, * * and telephone contact should also be kept within the scope of friends and buddies as far as possible; Gradually reduce the attachment to him. If the other person can't bear to give up, his enthusiasm will not decrease. The best way is to be cruel, don't reply to text messages or less, set your mobile phone to refuse to answer, don't chat with him, and let the other person calm down. Second, shift the dependence on extramarital affairs 1 and keep yourself busy. Extramarital affairs are mostly due to loneliness, emotional loneliness and spiritual loneliness. At this time, one can talk and care about the opposite sex. After a long time, extramarital affairs are inevitable. Therefore, when people are lonely, their emotions will flood, and the past will be like a replayed movie. How can they give up? How can you give up? In order to forget this feeling, we must avoid loneliness and get busy. We have no time to be lonely and miss. We can exercise, read books and listen to music, but we should be careful not to read romance novels. Don't listen to love songs, avoid sadness, keep a happy mood, and know that life is still wonderful without him or her! 2. Expand the scope of making friends. With the appearance of extramarital affairs, men and women will gradually alienate their former close friends, colleagues and friends of the opposite sex, and decide to end the extramarital affairs. They have to regain this friendship, replace unhealthy love with friendship, and often keep in touch with close friends; You should also have 3-5 friends of the opposite sex, communicate more and relax, but still pay attention to avoid one-on-one communication between the opposite sex. In fact, there is no narrow space between extramarital lovers, and you will suddenly find how vast the outside world is. Third, return to the family 1. What is a family that cares about family life? It is a harbor, a place for self-cultivation, a gas station for life and a power source. How important is a happy and relaxed family atmosphere to each of us? If you want to go home after an extramarital affair, you must start by caring for everyone in your family and reflect on how long your parents, brothers and sisters have not contacted or met by phone. How long has it been since you hugged, kissed or talked to your lover? How long has it been since you cared about your children's study? How long has it been since you did housework? Come on, let's go! Try to create some relaxed and happy family atmosphere, and create opportunities to lead family members to travel and vacation, and deepen the intimate relationship between family members. 2. Improve the sense of responsibility. The Marriage Law defines the responsibilities and rights of both husband and wife. No one can forget the rights, but the sense of responsibility gradually fades in trivial life, especially if the family is a strong party; Family responsibilities seem to have nothing to do with themselves. Everything is taken care of by your lover, so you don't have to worry about it at all. The weakening of the sense of responsibility will inevitably lead to indifference to family feelings. You only have the responsibility to pay for yourself and nothing else. It is this lack of responsibility that leads to extramarital affairs. Therefore, finding a sense of responsibility for family and lover is the main driving force for emotional return. Fourth, don't break the wire. Why is office romance not easy to break? Because you can't see it when you look up. Office romance is very easy to break, because you still have a working relationship; If you want to break up completely, you must not break up, which will be repeated many times. Even if you say goodbye, it is not easy to really break up! The best way is to leave this company and no longer appear in each other's sight! 5. Stop being friends. Don't say anything, step back and be friends. The extramarital affairs in the office can continue only because one party is soft-hearted and the other party is unwilling; But if you can't be particularly rational, don't choose to be friends again. This just gives the two sides an excuse to contact again. If you dissolve with the other party again, it is inevitable that the old feelings will rekindle! 6. It is very serious to say goodbye to the extramarital affairs in the office. If you want to break up, you must not use your mobile phone or the Internet. Better say it in person. If you don't meet, you can't express your attitude correctly, and it's easy for the other party to misinterpret your meaning, so be sure to say it in person! Seven, have a good life after breaking up. Another reason why office extramarital affairs will break up is that one party is too lonely and often goes to the other party; So be sure to arrange your life after breaking up, whether with other friends or with other things to enrich your life. In short, don't give yourself time and excuses for each other.