People say that two people with the same interests and similar hobbies can always become friends and appreciate each other. However, they are just different.
As neighbors, Qian Zhongshu and Lin seem to have fought all their lives. Even a gentle scholar like Qian Zhongshu can't help hating talented women in the Republic of China, and even Qian Zhongshu's wife Jiang Yang can't stop the struggle between them.
Why do two people who are both senior intellectuals have such childish behavior? What happened between Qian Zhongshu and Lin that could not be solved?
First, Lin and Qian Zhongshu talked about the literary world, and almost no one knew Qian Zhongshu. At that time, Qian Zhongshu established his absolute position in the literary world with Fortress Besieged. Every sentence in the book is full of profound meaning, and the typical characters are extremely ironic, showing all kinds of life to the fullest.
He is not only a great writer and translator, but also an extremely romantic person in his life. The love between Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang is envied by many people, and their combination is also known as golden couple. Love and support for life. The love between Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang is an example for many people to learn.
Lin is no stranger to everyone. This famous talented woman of the Republic of China is a decathlon. She is a famous architect in China, and Lin has high attainments in architecture. She is at the Monument to the People's Heroes.
And her life is also a life troubled by feelings. Her first love, Xu Zhimo, and her husband, Liang Sicheng, are the gold that protects her life. Lin has lived in the emotional entanglements of three people all her life.
However, who would have thought that these two radiant people in their respective fields were full of contradictions, and Qian Zhongshu even hated Lin.
Second, Qian Zhongshu's Cat In those days, Qian Zhongshu and Lin both taught in Tsinghua University, and because of this, they became neighbors. There should be many people who share the same topic and interest. The relationship between them is not harmonious. Qian Wen looked at Lin with great displeasure. One of the most interesting reasons is because of cats.
At that time, Qian Zhongshu and the Lins each had a cat, but their cats, like their respective owners, didn't like each other. Qian Zhongshu and Lin's cat often fight. Whenever they fight, they are winners. However, in the two cat wars, Qian Zhongshu's cat was always at a disadvantage and was often bullied by Lin's cat.
As we all know, Qian Zhongshu is a person who likes cats very much. Every night, when Qian Zhongshu heard the noise on the roof, he knew that the cats of the two families were fighting again. At this time, he always gets dressed and climbs to the roof to help his cat.
But every time Qian Zhongshu came, his cat was bullied. So he thought of a way. He sleeps with his clothes on every night. As soon as he heard the sound, he got up and went to the roof, picked up a bamboo pole and helped his cat fight.
Qian Zhongshu's behavior really makes people laugh. A famous writer fought with a cat like a child. Even his wife, Jiang Yang, often dissuaded him, telling him many times that it depends on the owner to beat the cat. The implication is that this is Lin's cat, so try not to care about it. Qian Zhongshu, who always listens to his wife, is stubborn at this time. Qian Zhongshu thinks it is not enough to bully his cat. He must call Lin.
Third, the cultural salon Qian Zhongshu still doesn't like Lin's behavior. Because Lin went to school in America and attended many popular cultural salons in America at that time. The so-called cultural salon is to invite many like-minded friends to come home to discuss academics and hold small parties.
Therefore, after returning home, Lin often held such cultural salons in his own home. The guests invited by Lin were people like Xu Zhimo, Jin, Shen Congwen and Hu Shi. Do you have much in common? Yes, in addition to being senior intellectuals, the more obvious similarity is that these people who come to the cultural salon are all men.
And such a behavior of holding an all-male cultural salon has also aroused many people's dissatisfaction. Bing Xin once wrote an article satirizing Lin's behavior, but Qian Zhongshu did not give in and satirized Lin severely.
Fourth, Qian Zhongshu doesn't like Lin's behavior style, and there is a third reason, that is Lin's life style. In other words, what Qian Zhongshu dislikes most is Lin's attitude towards feelings. This is related to the four-corner love between Lin, Xu Zhimo, Liang Sicheng and Jin, and there is a story and relationship between them.
Lin fell in love with Kim when she was still married to Liang Sicheng. She told Liang Sicheng frankly, "I fell in love with two men", but Liang Sicheng didn't say anything. He only let Lin make his own decisions. Therefore, in Jin's view, Liang Sicheng loves Lin more than himself, so he quits the relationship with Lin and silently guards Lin for the rest of his life.
As for Xu Zhimo, not to mention that even if two people break up, they will still miss each other. Xu Zhimo had an airplane accident to see Lin, and he himself was killed in the accident. Lin found the wreckage of Xu Zhimo's plane, hung it in his home, and remembered him until Lin died.
This is really different from Qian Zhongshu's view of love. How charming the love between Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang is. They have loved each other all their lives, and in the long life, they are the only lovers of each other. In Qian Zhongshu's eyes, Lin is too unspecific, and Lin's lifestyle is absolutely unacceptable to Qian Zhongshu.
As for the contradiction between Lin and Qian Zhongshu, in the final analysis, their values are different.
First of all, there are great differences between two people in the concept of making friends. Because Lin has accepted more advanced foreign ideas and put them into action, it also determines that her whole life is more inclined to the west, and western ideas are open, so it is understandable to make a few male friends, even a few emotional male friends.
However, although Qian Zhongshu also accepted the advanced western thoughts, compared with Lin, China's traditional thoughts had a greater influence on Qian Zhongshu. Two people have different ideas and values, and always compete in secret, which determines that there must be contradictions between them.
Perhaps every senior intellectual has their noble soul and their bottom line. In each of them, their bottom line is inviolable and bright.
We often say that "gold is not enough, and no one is perfect". In fact, both great men and ordinary people have incomparable advantages. Similarly, they can't be perfect, there are always shortcomings, and there are always places that others don't like.
We can never influence other people's opinions. What we can do is, as Confucius said, "Look at the sage Si Qi, but if you don't look at him, you will be satisfied", and constantly improve yourself and make progress.