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Just like what happened around you, watching entertainment news and gossiping.
Social evaluation of a person is not based on how many achievements he has made, but on how high his ideological quality is. A person with high ideological quality will be recognized by the society and respected by others. Because he brings positive things to society, on the contrary, if a person's ideological quality is relatively low, it is difficult for him to be accepted by society and to leave a good impression in others' hearts. What he brings to society is a negative impact. So do we middle school students. If you want to be well integrated into this social environment and let your classmates respect themselves, you must constantly improve your ideological quality and be a good middle school student. The best way is to discipline ourselves with the new code of conduct for middle school students and the daily code of conduct for middle school students, and use it as a guide for our actions. When I get up every day, I say to myself, "I want to be a qualified middle school student who meets the requirements." Before going to bed every day, I will calm down and think about what I have done this day, what I have not done well, and need to improve, so as to do better tomorrow. In constant self-reflection and self-suggestion, our personal ideological quality has been improved unconsciously. At this rate, we will have a good campus environment. Start from yourself, start from the little things around you, and infect everyone around you with your own practical actions. I believe that the whole social environment will become better because of us. Some students may be surprised. What is there to talk about "how to be a student"? Isn't "Kojiro carrying a schoolbag to school" a student? Yes, but it's not that simple to be a truly qualified student. What I want to say here is "How to be a qualified student?" ! "
First of all, a qualified student should be a well-behaved student. Good conduct means that he must be a person with noble moral sentiments and positive enterprising spirit, a person who abides by order and code of conduct, and a person who loves life and is full of ideals. Professor Zhu Yongxin pointed out that love and compassion are the most important external manifestations of good conduct. There is a saying that love is priceless. With love, you can feel the joy of life; Only with love can we create harmonious interpersonal relationships; With love, we can enjoy the true meaning of life; Only with love can we feel the greatness of mankind. Hugo, a famous French writer, said: "The ocean is the widest in the world, the sky is wider than the ocean, and the human mind is wider than the sky." A caring person will never feel lonely in life. May each of our classmates love all the beautiful things in life from loving your parents, your teachers, your classmates and everything around you. However, looking back at the reality we are facing, we often find that there is a lack of pure and selfless love in the pure and beautiful hearts of individual students. Isn't it? Where is your love when you swear at the teacher who relies on you to gain knowledge, and when you wave your savage fist at the classmate who gets along with you day and night? Where is your love when you maliciously destroy the relevant facilities that meet our study and life needs, when you trample on and destroy the beautiful environment around us? When you interfere with other people's normal work, study and living environment in order to satisfy your own temporary pleasure or interest, when you neglect your studies and youth without ambition, how can priceless love be presented to you? How can you expect a person who doesn't even cherish himself to cherish others? In addition, compassion is also an important manifestation of good conduct. An unsympathetic classmate will be abandoned by others while being indifferent to others. With compassion, we can show our value in helping the weak and form an atmosphere of caring for the weak in society. Let's review the disgraceful words and deeds of individual students! A senior or older classmate bullies a junior or younger classmate. Can you say that he has compassion? Can you say that it is compassionate for normal people to see the object in need but turn a blind eye under normal circumstances? A classmate doesn't stop when he sees others bullying the weak. Can you say that he has compassion? I don't believe that some of our classmates lost their beautiful and innocent sympathy at an early age. Let each of us activate the deep resonance! Social needs, collective needs, and so do we.
Secondly, a qualified student must study hard ... Responder: enthusiastic netizen | 2011-7-16:19.
Our students are at a special age, and the imbalance of physical and mental development makes them immature, irrational and confused in communication in many aspects. The common problem in students' communication is that there will be conflicts between friends because of misunderstanding, and some people will interrupt their original friendship because of sadness. But in fact, many of them are caused by not understanding the psychological characteristics and laws in interpersonal communication. Generally speaking, interpersonal misunderstanding occurs for the following reasons:
1. Moderation is wrong. Just as parents spoil their children because they spoil them, good intentions may not be rewarded. "Too much is not enough", and everything should not be overdone. If you are too kind to your good friends, you will be spoiled, and you may feel bound and unable to afford it. So moderation is very important, even if it is love and care. This point should be made clear to students.
2. The method is wrong. As the saying goes, "a key unlocks a lock". People with different status, cultural attainment and temperament should have different ways of interpersonal communication. Otherwise, it often leads to bad results.
3. The concept is wrong. For example, in the examination room, A asked B to tell him the answer, and B disagreed for A's sake of not making mistakes. From B's point of view, it is kind, while from A's point of view, it may be considered that B is not loyal enough.
4. The mentality is wrong.
When I was talking about interpersonal communication in psychological counseling class, a classmate said sadly that she broke up with a very good classmate and felt that she was a loser in life. What should I do? Afterwards, in my personal consultation, I realized that it was not her fault, but that her friends took it out on her because she did not run for monitor because she was elected. So I found that classmate. Actually, he wanted to come to me, too, but he was a little embarrassed. He told me that less than a month after the start of school, he had cried three times, all because he was in conflict with his classmates, and he felt very uncomfortable. In this case, let him think carefully about two questions as his homework: what is the relationship between your classmates in junior high school? How do you usually treat your classmates? This is actually to let him reflect on himself. I did a few things in the process of tutoring later:
1. Suggest that he read some books on interpersonal communication.
2. Organize students to discuss "what kind of people are the most popular" by using psychological counseling class. First discuss in groups, and then communicate with the whole class. Then ask the students to compare their daily actions and write down their feelings.
Let him do his homework again. According to the results of the discussion with his classmates he read in the book, he summed up several problems that should be paid attention to in interpersonal communication as the direction of his future efforts.
Afterwards, he took the initiative to make up with his good friend.
Therefore, when there are contradictions and misunderstandings with others, we should first guide students to reflect on themselves or communicate sincerely, find out what causes them, and then solve or improve them pertinently, or change their ways or correct them, or communicate conceptually. If the two sides can make up in the end, everyone will be happy, but if you try your best to change the situation, you don't have to be too sad, especially for some principled issues. Let students understand that communication is, after all, a matter for two people. What's the point if one of them walks too tired?
As class teachers, we often encounter this situation: class cadres who are excellent in all aspects often have low prestige in the eyes of classmates. This is often because they deal with problems in the wrong way. This requires us to guide and help.
There is such a student cadre, male. This student is kind, enthusiastic, positive and self-motivated. He is very willing to associate with his classmates, but he has no patience and often offends his classmates, so he is very upset.
After talking, I learned that the student has a strong sense of justice and is often dissatisfied with what his classmates have done, so he gets angry on impulse. Asked if he had a better way to deal with it, he replied, "I don't know, I think this is the most direct and effective way." Although I offended others at that time, I will apologize to them afterwards, isn't it? " I told him that there is always the best way to deal with problems, and you haven't found the knowledge yet. So I told him the following story:
I gave my coat as a birthday present.
One day, the husband came home and saw a big cake with 15 candles on it. He was surprised because he knew that no one in the family had a birthday today, let alone 15' s birthday. So he asked his wife, and she said, "It was my coat that celebrated 15' s birthday." The next day, the husband bought a new coat for his wife.
After telling this story, I asked him to go back and realize the meaning of the story, and told me what he realized the next day.
This is actually the application of oriental short stories of positive psychological counseling, and the effect is good. We might as well use it as usual.
The confusion of interpersonal communication is also manifested in intergenerational communication. They are eager for the understanding of their parents and teachers and call for "long live understanding" in their hearts. They don't like simple preaching and mechanical "memory comparison". Some students talk less and less with their parents, and some students have a tense relationship with their teachers. They expect teachers to "understand", but seldom understand their good intentions and ardent expectations.
Here, I recommend an "empty chair technique": when one party tells the conflict with the other party, the psychological counselor instructs the party to assume that the other party is sitting in an empty chair and the party can talk to him face to face. After the client said a word, the counselor instructed the client to change a chair and play another person to answer the question. At the critical moment, the counselor asked the client to change seats and guided the client to have a dialogue with the imaginary object. Through this exercise, the parties can experience and understand various emotions in more detail. At the same time, the parties can understand that they often assume other people's ideas. This is the "empty chair technology" in psychology, which is the simplest and most suitable for psychological counseling among various famous and influential technologies of gestalt therapy. Gestalt psychology holds that individuals can effectively deal with the problems in their own lives, especially when they are fully aware of what is happening around them. The purpose of "empty chair technology" is to help the parties fully perceive what is happening to them and around them, analyze and experience their emotions and help them move towards a unified, frank and more vital existence.
We say that the head teacher is the hardest of all teachers. He should not only do his homework well, but also complete all the work assigned by the Political and Educational Affairs Office, and be ready for emergencies at any time. However, our students are not necessarily ungrateful, and may even oppose you everywhere. We also know that students are often afraid to express their views to teachers in psychology, and teachers can't know what students really think, which will create a gap between teachers and students and greatly reduce the effect of teaching and education. The so-called "close to his teacher and believe in his way"
An "empty chair" with "empty chair technology" can narrow the psychological distance between teachers and students and let students open their hearts and speak freely; The role-playing of "empty chair technology" can make students experience teachers' emotions from the perspective of teachers, enhance their understanding of teachers, enhance teachers' emotions and harmonize the relationship between teachers and students.
We can do such an activity at the class meeting:
Leave half the students in the classroom and tell them, "Students, now suppose there is a teacher sitting in this empty chair next to you. Do you have anything to say to her? Has she wronged you? How do you want her to treat you in the future? "
Then you go out of the classroom and let the students speak freely in the face of the "empty chair". If you don't want others to hear you, you can say it in your heart or write it in your heart.
Wait until the students have finished writing before entering the classroom. Tell the students: "Students, please sit in the empty chairs just now. You are a teacher. The empty chair next to you is where you used to sit. Please say to the student in the empty chair as a teacher: Why do you treat him like this? What do you want him to do? "
Then go out of the classroom and let the students speak their thoughts on the "empty chair" as teachers, either directly or in a notebook.
After doing this activity, we may learn something that is often overlooked but important to students, or realize that we have inadvertently caused them harm, which is conducive to future work. For students, they can also look at themselves from a rational perspective, so as to understand the teacher and try to change their bad behavior.
Of course, when using the "empty chair technology" to coach students, we must first have a sympathetic, sincere and respectful attitude of psychological counselors, so that students will not have defensive psychology and be free from worries. Secondly, "empty chair technology" is an imaginary dialogue. No matter what role the client plays, he is always faced with an "empty chair", so we should stimulate their imagination when tutoring. Another point that needs our attention is that in the process of psychological counseling, we should be good at observing the dialogue between the roles played by the parties and their nonverbal state, and be good at guiding and summarizing when the parties have emotional fluctuations.
"Empty chair technology" is also a good way for us to deal with some accidental events, especially for those students who always shirk their responsibilities. They can change their bad cognition through real emotional experience.
The trouble of interpersonal communication is also manifested in the communication of students of the opposite sex. Senior high school students' sexual psychology is maturing and developing rapidly, and they are eager for normal communication with the opposite sex. But it is often difficult to grasp the degree of normal communication and reasonably control their communication psychology, which is also a headache for our teachers and parents. It is said that "puppy love" is now very popular among students, and some even develop to a very intimate level. For students who have fallen into puppy love, the best way is to "cold treat". The two sides may not stop communicating, but they should cool down emotionally. Through discussion, we can sum up the bad effects of falling in love on ourselves, thus reducing the frequency of dating, participating in more group activities and concentrating on study. We can cherish that beautiful friendship in our hearts. This is "freezing", which means that there may be "thawing", depending on the future development path of the two. Respondents: God of Gala 1 1 | 6 | 201-7-116: 21.
It depends on whether you are a male classmate or a female classmate. I don't know about female students. If you want to play well with male students, the first thing is loyalty. Seeing classmates being bullied, I don't care about anything, but it is complicated to resist the chair. So he will think you are loyal. Unconsciously, friends will approach you and think you are very good and loyal. Dare to play senior one in the first grade of junior high school. Dare to play senior three in grade three. Respondents: a1124307831| Level II | 201-7-116: 21.
Want to talk about some healthy topics! Communicate with classmates and friends more, find a language with * * *, be generous, but not too open! Respondent: Diamond Love x | Level 1 | 201-7-116: 22.
Hehe, the first thing I want to say about this problem is that you have to make adjustments yourself. First of all, you should dare to talk to your classmates. Don't be afraid. It's normal for you to say you don't know what to say. Don't worry. Sometimes when we are together, we will talk about something you often do, or just talk about the topic. Just like me, I used to play CF battlefield king. I will spray my experience to people who play with my classmates and then listen to others. I play PS and battlefield. The same is true, that is, looking for the same topic, but always talking about learning and spraying some entertainment topics at the right time. Combining work and rest can not only make others feel that talking with you will not affect their study, but also be interesting. You can also make many friends. Good luck ~ Responder: All have a fleeting time | level 1 | 2011-7-116: 23.
You can pay more attention to what your classmates usually like to talk about: hoo 198704 14 | Level 1 | 201-7-116: 23.
Normal communication. . Are you a boy or a girl? If you are introverted, there is no need to force yourself to cater to others. Just be yourself. No matter what personality, people will have friends who suit them. You don't need many friends, just be close. There's no need to be a heartthrob. If you are out of character, you will be very tired. Just be yourself, and you will have your own good friends. . . I have two words for you: two words don't match, two words don't match. You won't feel this way if you find a friend who really suits you.
First, the most important thing is to be honest with others! Keep your promise! As a boy, you must take responsibility and admit your mistakes! These words may be harsh and rebellious for junior high school students! But that's how I got here!
If LZ just wants to talk to someone so that he doesn't look isolated. Then all the above are methods.
But if LZ wants to make some sincere friends. . . Friends try their best to help when they have something to do. In short, you can show them your sincerity. I believe no one will think that one more good friend is a bad thing. This has nothing to do with introversion and extroversion. What matters is what you think. Let's stop here. LZ, come on. I hope you can have close junior high school students and high school students after you go to college! I thought this was junior high school and high school! (PS； I am a college student. I treat people sincerely and help others when they are in trouble.
There's nothing to say. Maybe you haven't met any interesting topics or feelings. If you feel speechless when communicating with your classmates, you can talk about some topics you are interested in. The most important thing to maintain dialogue is interaction, otherwise you will become the same person as you. In addition, it is also important to increase experience. Read more books and go out for a walk. good luck
1. Find the same topic as * * *, and you can seize this to start the topic. If you don't understand his or her conversation, just listen. It is helpful to know more about other things.
2. Find the gap, where is the indifference (for example, I don't like someone, I'm not interested in the topic, I feel that xx is not up to grade, and so on. Regardless of opinions, there must be a teacher for a threesome.
Don't be afraid to say the wrong thing, and don't be afraid to make people feel disgusted. If you are sincere, no one will avoid you. If you accidentally offended someone, you will apologize afterwards. Talk more to know how to speak. When you enter the society, you will know the importance of conversation. It is very deep.
Fourthly, for the topics that students talk about (games, mobile phones, shopping, study, homework, handsome guys, beautiful women, eating, karaoke, traveling, XX, classmates, love relationship, and ......................), XX is something you know.