How to communicate effectively with a stranger?
(1) Pay attention to the cultivation of your own personality and abilities.
I often hear students say: "That person has a good personality and knows a lot, so I like to communicate with him." Indeed, a person with good qualities and strong abilities or a person with certain specialties is more likely to be influenced by others. People love it. People appreciate his character and talents, so they are willing to get close to him and become friends. Therefore, if you want to enhance your interpersonal attraction and get along with others more friendly and harmoniously, you should fully improve your character, display your talents, express your specialties, and continuously improve your character, abilities, and talents. People like sincere, enthusiastic and friendly people and hate hypocritical, selfish and cold people. Generally, the highest evaluation of personality qualities is sincerity, and the lowest evaluation is hypocrisy. When choosing friends among college students in our country, the first thing to consider is personality quality. We are willing to interact with people who are mature, enthusiastic, frank, active in thinking, and responsible. In addition, interpersonal communication is always psychologically characterized by emotional reflections such as mutual satisfaction or dissatisfaction, likes or dislikes. To have good interpersonal relationships, you must pay attention to emotional compatibility. Generally speaking, people always like those who like them and have a favorable impression of people who sincerely evaluate themselves. Once you are appreciated, liked, and evaluated well by someone, your self-esteem will be satisfied by being praised, and you will have a psychological closeness and good impression of this person, thus reducing mutual friction and interpersonal conflicts, and achieving emotional Being happy provides the psychological conditions for good interpersonal communication. Compliment others sincerely and they will, in turn, think favorably of you. Some people often pay too much attention to themselves and cannot discover the value of others. If you can observe carefully and pay more attention to others, you will find that everyone has something worthy of praise, and affirm and praise the strengths of others. This will give Bring benefits to itself.
(2) Be magnanimous and open-minded, learn to understand each other's psychology, and treat each other with sincerity.
Our society is a diversified society, and the relationships between people are becoming more and more complex. The complexity of society leads to the richness of personalities, which will inevitably lead to the intensification of conflicts between individuals. To maintain good interpersonal relationships with people around you, you must learn to seek common ground while reserving differences, and have a tolerant and open-minded psychological quality, and you must think more about others. Treat each other with sincerity.
In life, we have misunderstandings with the classmates we live with day and night. When you are treated unfairly or not accepted by others, you will definitely feel anxious and troubled, and it will definitely affect your study and life. and social relationships. What should I do? Make a big fuss? Break off the relationship altogether? These are not the best ways. This will only put you at a disadvantage in the relationship and affect future relationships. On the contrary, if we are magnanimous and open-minded, we may be calmer, consider issues from the other person's point of view, and understand other people's moods and feelings. Misunderstandings and grievances will often disappear, and others will readily accept you. As the saying goes: "Generosity gathers friends." It is difficult to be a magnanimous and open-minded person, but we college students must pay attention to the cultivation of this quality in our daily lives and interactions in order to better adapt to life and society. Among our classmates, they are either cheerful or deep, reserved or frank, open-minded or cautious, and their personalities are colorful and varied. Therefore, we must learn to be a caring person in our interactions, be good at understanding the mood of others, take the initiative to care about others, and adopt different methods to make them feel your kindness and warmth. Take roommates in the same dormitory as an example. They have frequent interactions with each other. Because they have more contacts and opportunities, it is the easiest to communicate with them, but also because they have many contacts, frictions, and conflicts, they are also the most difficult to communicate with. This requires each of us to pay attention and try to meet the needs of others, such as frequently fetching water, sweeping the floor, fetching meals for students who are sick or in trouble, tutoring homework, etc. In today's college students' interactions, there is a widespread tendency of "me-centered" communication. Many people only emphasize that others should recognize, understand, accept and respect themselves, but neglect to understand and respect others reciprocally; they only pay attention to the realization of their own goals, but ignore the interests and requirements of others, etc.
Under the control of this tendency, they often ignore the occasion and the other person's mood and blindly interact according to their own temperament, which leads to embarrassing situations in the interaction. Just imagine when a person is at a low point, but you declare your achievements in front of him, what will be the result?! So in many cases, we need to think more about empathy. Only by empathizing with others and exchanging sincerity for sincerity can we achieve spiritual communication. And the cries of emotion.
Honesty and trustworthiness are a basic principle of life. In our interactions as college students, if a friend cheats on you, your self-esteem will be hurt, and you may not be able to trust him as you used to. Similarly, we should also treat others with honesty and sincerity to gain their trust and understanding. It shows a person's self-esteem and his or her inner sense of security and dignity, which can enable people to gain the trust of others in interactions, thereby attracting people with the same excellent qualities to oneself, and establishing a relaxed, comfortable atmosphere without having to pretend to be oneself. Pleasant social circle.
Making friends is a process of continuous selection. Hypocrisy cannot be hidden forever. Once discovered by the other party, it will be the greatest harm to friendship. Therefore, when we get along with others, we must be generous and open-minded, considerate of others, and treat each other with sincerity. Only in this way can we gain true friends and get along with others more friendly.
(3) Master certain social skills.
Skills in communication are like the lubricant of interpersonal relationships. It can help people enhance communication and understanding with each other in communication activities, shorten the psychological distance, and establish good relationships. Many students who have interpersonal difficulties are caused by a lack of communication skills. Many students said that they can behave very freely when interacting with people they are familiar with, but they are often passive, reserved, and timid when interacting with people they are not familiar with, and they do not know how to get along with them. Due to the lack of communication and interpersonal skills, many students tend to lose interest in interpersonal communication and become passive and isolated in interpersonal situations. They also easily limit their own development because they cannot express their ideas appropriately. For many college students, if they realize that they lack the necessary skills in social and interpersonal communication, they should take a proactive and positive approach to gradually improve their interpersonal problems, rather than blindly avoid them.
In fact, social skills are diverse. Such as enhancing interpersonal attraction, humor, clever criticism, language arts, etc. For college students, after establishing the courage and confidence in interpersonal communication, the main skills to master in interpersonal communication are to cultivate the psychological quality of successful communication and the correct use of language arts. The psychological qualities of successful relationships include honesty and trustworthiness, modesty, prudence, enthusiasm to help others, respect and understanding, magnanimity and open-mindedness, etc. The application of language arts includes accurate expression, effective listening, civility and courtesy, etc. These will help college students improve their communication skills and achieve better communication results. In addition, in formal social situations, college students should pay attention to neat clothing, civilized and appropriate manners, elegant sitting, standing and walking postures, not to make random jokes indiscriminately, and avoid actions such as patting shoulders and holding hands. Of course, you can't be timid or cautious in front of others. You should be confident, energetic, and generous, neither humble nor arrogant.
In short, college students should establish self-confidence in interpersonal communication, improve their quality in all aspects, be brave in practice, be good at summarizing, practice in learning, learn in practice, constantly improve themselves, enrich themselves, and gradually move towards Success in communication leads to success in life.
How to improve interpersonal relationships?
Relationships are an important part of our lives. If we do not have good interpersonal relationships, it will have a negative impact on our work, life and mental health. In real society, it is normal and understandable for certain ideological gaps to arise due to differences in personality, talent, life background, purpose, etc. If you can't get along with everyone at work or in life, that's not normal and you need to make self-adjustments and changes.
People play different social roles according to their age, gender, occupation, position, environment, etc.
When contacting people, different roles have different behavioral norms, so when getting along with different people, they have different requirements and skills.
First of all, you must consider others at all times and avoid being self-centered. To have a good relationship with colleagues, you must learn to consider problems from other perspectives and be good at making appropriate self-sacrifice.
To do a good job, you often need to cooperate with others. After achieving results, ask colleagues to share them. Be careful not to express yourself everywhere and take everyone's results as your own. Providing opportunities to others and helping them achieve their life goals is crucial to good relationships.
Being considerate of others is also reflected in lending a helping hand to others when they encounter difficulties and setbacks. Good interpersonal relationships are often mutually beneficial. All the care and help you give to others will be repaid when you yourself encounter difficulties.
Secondly, you must be open-minded and good at accepting others and yourself. Don't waste any opportunity to praise others. However, you must be careful not to exaggerate blindly, which may cause people to feel hypocritical and lose others' trust in you.
Again, master the skills of talking with colleagues. When talking to a colleague, pay attention to what he has to say and give appropriate feedback. Listening with concentration represents understanding and acceptance, and is a bridge connecting the souls. When expressing your thoughts, you should be subtle, humorous, concise and vivid. Implicitness not only shows your elegance and self-cultivation, but also plays a role in avoiding differences, explaining opinions, and not hurting relationships. When giving opinions and pointing out other people's mistakes, pay attention to the occasion and use calm words to avoid hurting others' self-esteem and causing resistance. psychology. Humor is the spice of language that makes conversation lively and interesting. Being concise requires mastering what should be said and what should not be said when talking to others. When talking to others, you must be emotionally invested, so that you can move people with your emotions. This is called vividness. Of course, to master the skills of expressing yourself well, you need continuous practice, constantly increase your cultural literacy, and broaden your horizons.
Finally, make time to mingle with your colleagues. It is also a good way to cultivate your own interests in many aspects and make friends through hobbies. In addition, exchanging information and discussing one's own experiences can harmonize interpersonal relationships.
Having good interpersonal relationships is an art. All people need continuous learning and practice to become proficient. I hope you can make a self-analysis based on your specific situation, so as to break through the fence of self-isolation, be open-minded, and build a harmonious interpersonal relationship