As for Excellence, individuals cannot define it. Call it a successful career.

Spoil appropriately, but don't treat him as a big man. In fact, men are often small men.

Cultivate your hobbies. If he is excellent, you should at least follow up his aesthetic temperament.

If you are an excellent man with a successful career, you won't take a vase with you. You should know something about his occupation.

Imagine that he is chatting with a friend and you are in a fog, so the tragedy is not far from you.

We can't generalize. Maybe some men have special tastes.