This is a very real problem. Falling in love is a matter between two people, but getting married is a matter between two families or even two families. This theory is also applicable to middle-aged and elderly people in their fifties.

At this time, the children have grown up or are married and have no worries. If the aunt in her fifties is in good health, it is not difficult to find a companion to live with. However, if she wants to obtain a certificate, it may be difficult. It’s hard to say.

I have a classmate whose mother died of liver cancer four years ago at the age of 56. They have only three sisters, two of whom work out of town. Only the younger sister is closer to home and can occasionally come home to help her father clean up the house.

A year later, someone introduced her father to a younger aunt who was a retired teacher and had a daughter who was attending college.

Logically speaking, the children should support their father. After all, if the children are not around, they have a companion who can take care of each other. In addition, the aunt has a pension, so the children can feel more at ease.

The three sisters were very unhappy with their father because of this matter. They were worried that the aunt was here for her house, and they insisted that the father change the real estate certificate to the younger sister's name, and asked the father to write an agreement stating that if both parties fell ill, their children would be responsible for taking care of their respective elderly people. A hundred years later, the father would have to take care of his mother. Buried together, aunt cannot be buried with father.

The father scolded them for being unfilial and not caring whether they were dead or alive. Even though they were not dead, they were only thinking about their own house. The house is something that I have earned through hard work for half my life, and I have the right to dispose of it.

The aunt was in a dilemma, caught between their family and didn't know where to go. In the end, I couldn't get together with my father.

Of course, this is an individual phenomenon, and there are many sensible children.

Set up your mentality and try to explain clearly what may happen next, such as how to manage illness, how to arrange for death, etc., communicate with the children well, and finding a companion should not be a problem of.

A 55-year-old aunt is definitely either divorced or widowed. Women of this age group have basically reached the later stage of their charm and charm, and their personal charm is obviously insufficient. However, at the same time, most of their children are married and in good health. There are no burdens in life. I personally think that as long as the criteria for choosing a spouse are not too harsh, it is still easy to find a wife.

First of all, the 55-year-old aunt's energy may have gradually declined, and psychologically she cannot accept the stimulation of strong winds and waves, and is more suitable for living a peaceful life. Therefore, when looking for a partner for the rest of her life, she still needs to consider the other person. age and actual situation.

I think a 55-year-old aunt is more suitable to find a retired man in his early 60s. Such a man must first have a certain financial strength and source of livelihood, and he will still feel sorry for others when he is a few years older. If you find a much younger man, after all, you can’t stand the trouble. If you find a much older man, you will have to work very hard to take care of him. After all, in your 50s, you still have to enjoy your life. This is human nature. It's normal.

I think it is very easy for a 55-year-old aunt to find a wife, but she must not be blind. She must find a man of the same age or a few years older who knows both coldness and warmth. Such a happy life The index might be better.

It is not particularly difficult for a single aunt in her 50s to find a wife. Either you are divorced or widowed, so finding a wife to spend the rest of your life with should be a happy event and should not put too much pressure on yourself.

『Story』

My aunt is 60 years old this year and is divorced. When she was young, her husband was not engaged in a serious job. He liked to step on the yellow line and take risks to make some bad money. The price was to go to jail many times.

In the end, the aunt couldn't bear it anymore, kicked her husband out, and raised her son alone. In a blink of an eye, her son was almost 30, because the family conditions were not very good, and she talked to several girlfriends, but there was no follow-up. To put it bluntly, I just hate that my aunt’s family can’t afford a house.

My aunt had two wives before, but they broke up in the end. It’s not that they were not suitable to live together, it’s just that the aunt always used the repeater mode to nag her son’s house purchase issues to her husband. Listen and make the other person feel strongly disgusted.

Regardless of whether the aunt’s original intention is to complain about the current situation or she has ulterior motives, the re-established family relationship is very fragile and cannot withstand the test of money issues. If you have such dangerous thoughts, no matter how many people you find, My husband will eventually break up on bad terms.

『Story』

The aunt is 51 years old this year. She was widowed early because her children had not yet graduated. She has never seriously considered her own problems. She feels that she has lived alone for so many years. Not a bad man either.

After my daughter graduated, her work went smoothly. She often signed up her aunt for senior tour groups, hoping to get her to go out more. She said she didn't enjoy many blessings when she was young and hoped to give her a happy old age. In fact, she hoped that her aunt could find someone to live with through the senior citizen group.

My daughter, who was away from home all year round and couldn’t take care of her mother, saw that she was having trouble finding a wife, so she signed up for a dating show on the TV station. Every time she met someone on the show, the ones she met were not ideal. There are also rotten peach blossoms, which makes Auntie even more distressed.

It depends on the individual whether to live alone or find someone to live with. If you live well by yourself, you don’t need a wife at all, so just live alone. .

This life is not easy. If you can handle your children's problems well and live in harmony with your wife, then go ahead and look for it. It is quite easy to find a wife. Why? After all, women chase men's spacer yarn.

A 55-year-old aunt is easy to find a partner, it just depends on whether you are willing to find a partner, or whether the one you find is to your liking.

A relative of mine is about 55 years old. He is good-looking and fashionably dressed. He cooks good food and can easily feed a rural banquet of more than ten or twenty people. Three daughters are married and one son. I started looking for a lot of them, but I didn't like the ones who were very discerning. Some of them were careless and slovenly dressed, some were unhygienic and short and tall. In short, I didn't like them.

I have met three of them. The first one is from Henan. The wife whose wife died has two daughters and one son. He is hard-working, tall and good-looking. He is a plumber and his salary is very high. I stayed with my relatives for three years. It was very good at first, but later we became estranged because of our own children. The man left for the last time and returned to Henan and stopped coming.

Then the second one was a coach. They met each other when they were learning to drive. The two of them drove around and traveled. Later, the coach’s wife found out about it and the two of them settled down.

Now this is the third one. What kind of cadre is he? I heard from my relatives that this one will not be changed. Maybe it is to his liking. The husband’s grandson is in the third grade. He will get a pension when he retires. All monthly wages are given to me, a relative.

A 55-year-old aunt. At this age, both parties have children. It is easy for them to have conflicts and various disputes over their children. Of course, you can find the best one that suits your heart. Don’t just blindly search for it

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When you are fifty, you have experienced previous marriages, and your children are often not around. You don’t want to go on alone, but you will inevitably have many worries about finding a companion.

Women do not accept old age. In fact, age is not a problem. Maturity itself is a charm. As long as women pay attention to self-care and adjust their mentality, women in their fifties will still retain their charm and not look old. An attractive fifty-year-old woman, not to mention attracting older men, can even find a man younger than herself.

Fifty-year-old women who have been married have their own experiences. When looking for a partner, they generally do not pursue superficial conditions like little girls. As long as they live a good life and are considerate enough, they meet the conditions. There won't be any. Aunts will not be as delicate as little sisters. As long as aunts can show their capable side and show the tenderness that women should have, aunts will find a partner more easily than little sisters.

As for the opinions of the children. Having matured their minds, they definitely want their mothers to be happy. As long as the aunt is happy, the children will only bless her.

Is it easy for a fifty-five-year-old aunt to find a wife? It depends on whether the aunt wants to find someone, and what kind of person she is looking for. I am fifty-six years old, and my husband passed away more than three years ago. After my husband passed away, someone asked someone to introduce me to a man. He was from the same village as ours. My wife He died four or five years ago. He turned out to be a village cadre, the richest man in the village, and handsome. But I didn’t want to look for him. He asked three people to tell me, but he still didn’t want to look for him. Why did he want to look for him? I have a pension, but he doesn't. I feel more comfortable on my own. There are still people who want to tell me one, but I have decided not to look for him. If the aunt doesn’t talk about the other person’s conditions and isn’t picky, she will definitely find one.

It doesn’t matter whether it is easy to find someone or not, it all depends on your conditions. If the conditions are good and your attitude is right, it will be easy to find. If the conditions are not good and your attitude is not right, it will be difficult to find.

Strictly speaking, it is very necessary for a 55-year-old woman to find a wife. The reasons are:

1. She has someone to rely on when she grows old.

2. It can reduce the burden on children.

3. You won’t seem so lonely.

4. Live a proper substantive life as a couple.

However, at the age of 55, there is no age advantage anymore, and people are realistic about price comparison. If you have a bad mentality, it is not easy to find a wife. The specific reasons are:

1. There is no age advantage. 55 years old, they are all retired people. They are too old. It is not easy to find a wife. The main reason is that at this age, they hope to find someone of the same age, but most 55-year-old men hope to find someone better than themselves. A woman who is more than ten years younger, such as a woman in her forties, so a 55-year-old has no advantage in terms of age. This is the biggest problem.

2. There are many requirements. Most 55-year-old women have relatively high requirements for finding a partner, such as being able to take care of others, good character, good conditions, etc. But why would someone with such conditions look for you? They must have found someone younger.

There are also those who are 55 years old and still hope to fall in love at dusk, have a second spring, and demand love. Such unrealistic fantasies make it difficult to find a partner.

3. People are more realistic. Such as a car, house, income, culture, etc., there are many requirements, and finding a partner is very realistic, and the other person's family background is even more important, making it difficult to find a partner.

4. Worry a lot. You should consider your children's feelings, care about the evaluations of relatives and friends, etc., think before and after, and be hesitant, which will affect your own decisions and judgments.

5. Appearance. 55 years old, no matter how you say it, you are already a super big mom. No matter how you take care of yourself, you will never be younger and more beautiful. But when a man is looking for a woman, two conditions are very important: face and age. For a 55-year-old woman, in this regard There is no advantage anymore, so it is difficult to find a partner.

However, although these are objective and realistic factors, if you look for it seriously, put down your posture, and maintain a peaceful mind, as long as you have good character and money, you will still find a good man. However, you need to look at it. It's fate.

It is not up to you to decide whether or not you should find someone at this age. Because you have to get the consent of both children of both parties to find a wife, which is okay if you meet someone who is enlightened and sensible. In real life, children often object, and it may make the family restless and noisy.

There is an uncle in my hometown. He is a retired worker and has a pension of more than 3,000 yuan a month. After his wife passed away, he made arrangements to find his wife. He has been dating a woman in the village who has been a widow for many years. It is said that the two of them had a crush on each other when they were young. The woman had been a widow for many years, and now her husband passed away. Not long after, the two came together and went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get a marriage certificate. The woman has been living with her daughter from her village, but her daughter does not agree with their marriage. I heard that she often called her mother shameless because of this matter, and even beat the old man. The reason why she disagreed was that she was used to her own mother doing laundry, cooking and working in the fields for her. It's different when she's married. No one will do these things for her.

I can’t remember whether it was 2014 or which year. During the Chinese New Year, I went to my uncle’s house to pay New Year greetings, and the uncle and that woman got together. It’s nice to see that the old man has a companion, and he’s looking for someone from this village. Later, the woman's daughter often refused to let her mother go to her uncle's house, and often beat and scolded her mother for being so widowed. Later, not long after, the woman suddenly fell ill and died. According to the rumors of the villagers, he was beaten to death by his daughter, because when the woman was wearing a shroud, everyone present saw that the woman's body was scarred and bruised. Without this short-term marriage with the uncle, maybe the woman would still live healthily in the world and still work for her daughter like a cow or a horse. Horrible old age marriage!

My uncle later found several wives, but they were not suitable. My son and daughter-in-law didn't agree with it at all, and they despised the old man for embarrassing them. The uncle also got into a fight with his daughter-in-law, and the two yelled at each other. The uncle’s son sent the uncle to a nursing home. I don't even visit my uncle during the New Year and holidays, and the relationship is very tense.

All of this happened after finding a wife, and the family was harmonious before.

Therefore, marriage in the elderly must obtain the consent of the children, otherwise it will not cause family discord, parents and children to turn against each other, and life will be turbulent. Article 18 of the "Law on the Protection of the Rights and Interests of the Elderly" stipulates: "The freedom of marriage of the elderly is protected by law. Children or other relatives shall not interfere with the divorce, remarriage or post-marriage life of the elderly. The support obligations of the caregiver shall not be affected by the elderly person's Elimination due to changes in the marital relationship.”

Those who violently interfere with the marriage of the elderly and refuse to support the children of the elderly, if the circumstances are serious enough to constitute a crime, may be held criminally responsible in accordance with the law.

Our country’s laws clearly stipulate that violent interference with the freedom of marriage of the elderly can be punished.

Based on the situation where the children interfere with the elder’s freedom to remarry, the elder can take the following measures:

(1) Be patient and careful in persuading the children to avoid harming the harmony. If necessary, you can talk about the arrangement of family property after remarriage, because children are most sensitive to property when their parents remarry. They are worried that if their parents remarry, the property will flow into the pockets of outsiders.

(2) Persuade through relatives and friends of both parties, and ask the local neighborhood committee or mediation committee to mediate to avoid harming the peace.

(3) When children beat and scold their parents, destroy furniture, and seize property, if the circumstances are serious, they may be prosecuted according to Article 257 of the Criminal Law and Article 3 of the Marriage Law. It stipulates that the lawsuit should be filed with the people's court in the place where the child's household registration is. If the circumstances are relatively minor and do not constitute a crime, they may also be punished in accordance with the relevant provisions of the "Public Security Administration Punishment Regulations".

The above introduces what to do if the elderly are blocked from remarriage, and what to do if the elderly remarry but are opposed by their children. I hope it will be helpful to the 55-year-old aunt who remarries and finds a wife!

The fifty-five-year-old aunt has all kinds of people, and her husbands also have all kinds of people. What kind of aunt are you? What kind of wife are you looking for?

According to the physical condition of modern people, aunts in the countryside who are fifty-five years old are usually very old. They usually prepare coffins. Day by day, they basically have no idea of ????finding a wife, and it is not easy to find one. .

Not only rural people, but also those with poor conditions are hard to find, unless veteran cadres or wealthy people find a "nanny" after being widowed. But what's the point? Even if you want to come to the door, you won't be able to do it. .

A rich "wife" is available and easy to find. Maybe everyone blames me, but there is nothing I can do about it. Today is a money-oriented society.

Nowadays, science and technology are advanced, and there are very good methods in human body care and facial makeup. There are many women in their fifties and sixties who look ten or twenty years younger than their actual age.

If you look young and are in good mental condition, you have emotional and sexual needs. In addition, you already have a lot of money. Looking for someone to rely on your feelings can also meet your physical needs. This life is not in vain.

But compared with young people, remarriage for the elderly involves a wide range of aspects, such as finances, real estate, health, children, etc. If you have huge financial capacity to support it, these problems can be ignored. Otherwise, you must think twice before committing.

If both parties have a certain amount of retirement allowance, the remarriage will generally be uneventful. The old couple will depend on each other and spend the rest of their lives together; if one party leaves first, the other party will also have a source of income and can spend the rest of their lives peacefully. ; When you cannot take care of yourself, there are many elderly care institutions now, and the problem can be easily solved.

If one party is in financial difficulty and the other party is not particularly financially strong, remarriage should not be considered. Young couples come together all the time. Since they are companions, there are not so many emotional factors involved. If they live together, they will have many conflicts over money in the future, and they will definitely regret it.

As we are getting older, we can only rely on each other. If one party is in poor health, life will be painful after remarriage. Because both parties are old and infirm, they both need others to take care of them. Which one has the energy and physical strength to take care of the long-term illness of the other party.

Some children do not want to make progress, are unwilling and unable to take care of the elderly, and instead rely on the elderly’s pension to live. If this happens at home, don’t drag others down.

It should be easy to find. At the age of 55, he is still in his youth.

A cousin of mine got divorced when her children were in their 20s

Because the other party was too scumbag, I won’t tell you the specific reasons. .

She has not remarried since then. For the sake of her child (a boy), people around us advised her to find another one.

But she was afraid that it would be bad for her child if she found one, so she kept Single.

Until a few years ago, after the children went to college, they got married and had their own family.

Maybe it was because he was getting more and more lonely that my cousin thought of looking for a partner.

Although my cousin is in her 50s, she is young at heart and pays great attention to maintenance

She usually dresses like a little girl.

After her child got married, she no longer had the burden and went on trips when she had nothing to do.

So she didn’t look like a 50-year-old person at all.

People I was introduced to a 45-year-old Xiao Xianrou,

Well, maybe not too young, but it is said that she is still married for the first time.

Because the family was poor, running a business to make money delayed their marriage,

so the two got together.

After marriage, my boyfriend was quite nice to my cousin.

Normally, I run business outside. When I have time to go home, I cook for my cousin and do housework very diligently.

Every Valentine’s Day, Chinese New Year, Christmas and so on, there must be red envelopes.

Although there are not many, it is still a small surprise.

My cousin’s children also support their mother’s decision.

I think as long as my cousin is happy, that will be fine.