For a person, making friends is very important. Having a few close friends is a very beautiful thing. They can not only provide you with spiritual comfort and satisfaction, but also help each other overcome difficulties when encountering difficulties.
If you are not careful when making friends, you will be in trouble, even get hurt, and bring you endless pain. In real life, there are many people who are hurt by their friends.
Making friends is an art, and you must have the ability to recognize people, especially those who are not close friends. Generally speaking, people who are not suitable for close friendship often have several characteristics, and you must stay away from such people.
1. They care about everything and often fall out with others over trivial matters
This kind of person is narrow-minded and very stingy. He is unwilling to suffer losses. As long as his interests are slightly damaged, he will argue endlessly and even turn against others.
When interacting with such people, it is enough to have a brief encounter with them, but never have deep friendships, otherwise there will be endless troubles and headaches.
2. Lack of integrity, often do not keep what they say, and break trust with others
Integrity is the foundation of a person's life. A person who is dishonest can do anything because the "monument" in his heart has collapsed and there is no bottom line.
For example, borrowing money. You lent him money and agreed on a time to pay it back, but when the time came, he refused to pay it back. It would be okay if he didn't have money, but he wouldn't give it to him even though he had money. If you ask for it, you will offend him. Originally, you were helping him, but in the end, you became a different person. I didn't get the money back, and I was very angry.
You must stay away from people who lack integrity.
3. Love to gossip and say bad things about people behind their backs
This kind of person has evil intentions and is double-dealing. He always wants to sow discord between others so as to benefit himself, or Get psychological satisfaction.
People often call this kind of people "villains". Their psychology is relatively dark, and they always try their best to find faults and problems in others and cannot see the advantages and benefits of others. Moreover, one thing is true in front of people, and another thing is true behind people's back. They appear to be good friends, but are actually enemies.
When you meet this kind of person, try not to interact with them as much as possible, and hide as far away as possible. If you have a close friendship with this kind of person, you will help him count the money when he is finally sold.
4. Full of negative energy and constant complaining when things happen
This kind of person looks at problems very negatively and is full of negative energy. They don’t want to solve any difficulties they encounter, but just keep complaining. complain. When something goes wrong, if you don't look for the cause within yourself, you will only blame others.
The more important point is that his negative emotions will be transmitted to the people around him, causing people around him to complain constantly, just like a grain of mouse droppings that spoils the whole pot of porridge.
Having a close relationship with such a person is equivalent to putting a negative emotion amplifier in front of yourself, which will have a huge impact on yourself. Over time, you will become the same person as him.
You need to be careful when making friends, keep your eyes open, see the other person’s true face, and don’t be deceived by appearances. Of course, no one is perfect, and if the water is clear, there will be no fish. If the other person has some insignificant problems or innocuous bad habits, you must learn to be tolerant and not be too harsh, otherwise it will be difficult to make friends. But for the above types of people, you must not have close friendships, you must stay away, and don't take chances.