Carnegie (Interpersonal Psychology) simplified content
Chapter 1: 6 exercises to overcome social psychological barriers
1. Never isolate yourself
If you rely on others, others will rely on you. In the same way, if you respect others, you can gain the respect of others. If you despise others, you will inevitably be despised by others. How to observe others when you get along with them? ?
1. Listen carefully to what others say.
Listening to others with life experience and knowledge will not only make you more empathetic and understand other people's feelings, but also give people the feeling of meeting a close friend.
2. Don’t be afraid of losing money
Friendship is a huge wealth in life. When getting along with friends, remember not to be careless. There is an old saying in the Middle Ages: To suffer a loss is to take advantage.
2. Overcome apathy in interpersonal communication
Apathy is a manifestation of a lack of group awareness and social awareness, such as being uninterested in collective learning, labor, and social activities, and being indifferent to classmates and colleagues There are many causes of ruthlessness. When a person loses relatives and friends, his career is not going well, his body is not healthy, or his expectations of others are too high and not fulfilled, his mood plummets. The other type is that some people think they are noble, self-centered, and are afraid of taking on social obligations, so they are unwilling to communicate with others, resulting in apathy. There are several ways to overcome apathy
1. Establish ideals and realize yourself
This is for those who have apathy due to frustration, to eliminate doubts about their own abilities. , evaluate yourself correctly and strive for your ideals. In the process, you can enhance your self-confidence and overcome indifference
2. Be more tolerant and open-minded
Get close to nature and feel The greatness and tolerance of nature, thereby cultivating one's own sentiment
3. Dedicate love and help others
Actively participate in community services and dedicate love to society and people in need. It is the most easily accepted and recognized way of self-realization.
Third, don’t be a one-man show
Don’t deprive others of the opportunity to speak
Fourth, lend a helping hand in times of crisis to help you make friends with noble people
Others won’t remember you if you add icing on the cake, but if you provide help in times of need, people will always be grateful to you for a lifetime.
5. Having more friends makes life easier
One of the best ways to gain friendship and influence others is to take other people's ideas seriously and make them think that their ideas are important. Friends play a vital role in your career.
6. Methods to expand your social circle
The most important thing is that we must have strong enough self-confidence and communication skills, as well as respond, praise others in a timely manner, and establish our own personal brand, but To follow, do something and do something not to do. If a person wants to succeed and develop contacts, he cannot do without joining some elite circles to get development opportunities through multiple channels. Four ways to expand your circle and contact radius:
1. If you are already in a good knowledge platform, you can proactively share your professional knowledge and unique experience. Birds of a feather flock together. points, this can also quickly expand the radius of the circle you want to interact with.
2. Through your various relationships, actively participate in some circles of influence and organization, and take an active role in them. Backbone or backbone
3. Initiate or organize various social activities in the circle, even spend a lot of time and energy to make more friends, and win everyone's recognition.
4. Beware of people with toxic thoughts, stay away from gossips and people who spread negative energy.
If you don’t pay, there will be no reward. You should always think about what you can do for others. Do what others can do for you, not what others can do for you
In the principles of making friends, integrity is the first principle. At the same time, it requires humility and good cultivation. Learning to share with others and achieve a win-win situation is the key to establishing a win-win situation. The most effective way to network is to pay attention to the following points when compiling a network;
1. Spiritual food has a nourishing effect on mental health, so you should pay attention to your network.
2. Make your network work for you, not drag you down
3. Don’t let negative and narrow-minded people hold you back
4. Try to ask successful people for advice.