Illustration: A still from the movie "Goodbye, Lips"

As the old saying goes, people are inherently good by nature. It can be seen that kindness is the most basic conscience for everyone when they first come to this world. Therefore, whether we educate our children or make friends, we will not only require kindness to ourselves, but also use this to measure whether the other person is friends.

Even in movies and TV series, kind people will eventually defeat evil and win the dawn of victory, because a person's kindness is the foundation for his or her survival in this world. Only kind people can win. will win greater success.

However, many people are too kind in real life. They compromise and give unconditionally no matter what. In the end, although they end up with the title of "good old guy", they still live a good life. It’s a lot of hard work and there are hardships to be described.

When we choose to be kind to others, what we do is sincere, but the people who receive our kindness may not be grateful, and may feel that it is right, so in the following days Here, we continue to ask for too much, and we live up to the kindness that we have devoted ourselves to.

Therefore, kindness needs to be measured in a certain way. Only by grasping the scale well can you not let your kindness become a sharp knife that hurts you, and you will not let yourself have no personality and self-esteem in the process of giving. Word.

My friend Ayong is a very loyal man. Whether it is for brothers, sisters or buddies, he is always available. He has five points of his own strength and would rather give eight points of his strength to help others.

In the workplace, in addition to doing his own work, Ayong is also very enthusiastic about helping his colleagues. Even if his colleagues do not ask him for help, he will take the initiative to help.

At the beginning, Ayong did win a good reputation because of his enthusiasm and kindness. However, as time went by, his colleagues discovered that he was actually a very unprincipled person. The work was not completed yet, but he went to help others, which made the colleagues who worked with him resentful.

Even if it is a small task like printing, some colleagues will ask A Yong to do it from time to time. A Yong will not refuse. No matter who asks him for help, he will always agree.

When getting along with friends, Ayong can be said to be "spending time" for his friends. His family is financially strapped, and when his buddies are in trouble, he will not hesitate to give up everything at home. All the savings were lent out, and because of this, his wife often quarreled with Ayong.

But Ayong has such a good temper. No matter how anyone accuses him, he always smiles, as if he has no temper.

It is undeniable that Ayong is indeed a kind person, because he regards helping others as the most important thing in his life.

But his kindness went too far, and it seemed that he had no dignity, and his kindness was not appreciated by others. Maybe he was indeed a person without any scheming, but he was so heart-wrenching. People who are unprepared are also a disguised form of irresponsibility for their own lives?

Ah Yong never refuses to his colleagues, which makes them think that he is easy to bully. Therefore, when asking him to help, it is out of a mentality of taking advantage. After receiving help, Ah Yong will naturally not be grateful. Brave.

If a brother asks him to borrow money, ignoring that he still has responsibilities to the family, then he is not a true friend, and Ayong's repeated compromises have allowed his friends to ask for money from him.

So in the eyes of friends, Ayong is not polite and loyal, but has no temper. A person without temper will naturally not get the respect of others.

I still remember this line in the movie "The Godfather": Kindness without boundaries will only make the other party push forward. Unprincipled kindness will only allow the other party to do whatever they want.

Many people will forgive others and themselves, take a step back and endure the calm for a while, but is this really the case in reality?

If kindness has no boundaries and no principles, then others will only force you to retreat to the extreme. No matter how forbearing you are, you will not get the understanding and gratitude of others.

Therefore, when we show kindness and treat others with kindness, we must look at the person as well as our own abilities.

When we find that after we learn to say no, it makes others know how to respect themselves more, because it does not mean that we are not kind, but that we need to help others in different ways. Only those who are grateful are more worthy of themselves. Go help.

Moderate kindness will undoubtedly win us the favor of more people, and will also allow others to feel our kindness from the heart, instead of turning into a cheap show of kindness to others, which will only make others feel uncomfortable. We have no self-esteem. Therefore, this kind of contribution is more meaningful and valuable.

If we can observe carefully, we will find that there are always people around us who are very good at taking advantage of other people's kindness, playing tricks on themselves, and trying to take advantage.

Such people seem to be smart, but in fact they have hurt the kindness of others and lost their conscience as a human being, because when they take advantage of the kindness of others to gain benefits for themselves, they also lose the respect others have for themselves. of trust.

A person's life is indispensable for calculations, but if you calculate too much, you will lose more. People who like to give are kind and regard helping others as a pleasure, but it does not mean that such people are Let others bully you.

Kind-hearted people are always kind and tolerant, so when treating such people, we must not only cherish their sincerity, but also cherish their kindness. Because once a kind person is hurt, it may be more difficult to heal. After all, who wants their enthusiasm to be used in exchange for a false heart?

In the same way, while we treat others kindly, we must also protect our original intentions, because if we go too far, it will make others ungrateful and waste our good intentions.

If you want to use your kindness to help others, you must become stronger. Only when your strength is enough to match what you need to pay, can your efforts be more meaningful.

Many of us claim to be a "good person" throughout our lives, but what does it mean to be a good person? It doesn't mean never saying "no", nor does it mean blindly giving without asking for anything, nor does it mean swallowing one's anger without a bottom line.

A truly good person only needs to have a clear conscience and do his best to help others within the scope of his own abilities. Only in this way can he use his own abilities to help others within the realm of what he can bear. , which not only facilitates others, but also does not embarrass myself.

Of course, we must learn to refuse, because refusing appropriately also protects ourselves. There is no need to humiliate ourselves to help others in life, and such "help" has lost its original meaning.

Finally, I hope that every kind person can be cherished tenderly.

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